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PRagic
Joined: 24 Feb 2006
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 Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 3:59 pm Post subject: |
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I tend to eat smaller portions now.
I don't swear as much in Korean as I do in English.
I can enjoy older kimchi.
I eat way more fish than I used to. |
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Uncle Kevin
Joined: 17 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 4:05 pm Post subject: |
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How did your boyfriends/girlfriends change you?
My girlfriend made me look at things from a different perspective. I don't want to disclose how that happened because my reasons would violate the Terms Of Service. |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 9:20 pm Post subject: |
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| PRagic wrote: |
I tend to eat smaller portions now.
I don't swear as much in Korean as I do in English.
I can enjoy older kimchi.
I eat way more fish than I used to. |
Changes in eating habit are always the first several things you realize after you start dating. To elevate these changes to a philosophic hight. They also enable us to change our viewpoint to other new things, cuz you know that exploration in our life is usually safe and fun.  |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Sat Aug 22, 2009 9:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Uncle Kevin wrote: |
I don't want to disclose how that happened because my reasons would violate the Terms Of Service. |
You mean something inhumane... |
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Mint
Joined: 08 May 2008
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| Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 9:22 am Post subject: |
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From experience it seems that the women in my life change far more drastically than myself in our relationships. I suspect that is due to my discipline [stubborness] and introspection. In general, where a woman changes me is in respect to down time. Breaks do not suit my personality, but they remind me that it's ok to spend a day in bed sharing stories instead of hitting the gym or reading whatever.
Being in a relationship for a long time is almost like living the other person's life with them: you understand what they expect, love and fear, what sort of choices they can or won't make, etc. It's like having two lives. Should we then choose people who are different from us? Perhaps this will come down to neophilia or neophobia and one's psychic plasticity.
I was once with a girl that fancied herself a vampire. Fun, but while sharing the whirlwind that was her life I fell behind in my academic duties and had to repeat an entire semester. Panda, apart from music, have your relationships helped you avoid [or plummeted you into] and of life's potholes? |
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Darashii
Joined: 08 Jan 2008
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| Posted: Sun Aug 23, 2009 11:54 pm Post subject: |
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I have to admit (and gladly) to having been dramatically changed / influenced by one of my ex girlfriends.
We met at university. I was bright and very into my studies but had little to no social skills (socially awkward, either was too quiet or often went too far, put my foot in it and basically found it hard to like or get on with most others..) couldn't let go easily, was obsessed with showing a strong front, tough attitude and had no idea how to enjoy the small things in life. Basically I was a bit of a wanna be tough guy and always felt like I was on the edge of society.
THen I met her and fell in love. This was odd at first as I used to just be into the magazine model blonde bimbo with big *beep* kind of girl with little to no interest in personality or her mind only s*x. But this girl was an English major, into art, literature, ideas. She was a socical dynamo and got on well with almost everyone due to her energy and general niceness and genrosity. She was very open and giving and flexible also very ladylike in almost an old fashioned way (grew up in the very rural south of the USA) and wasn't really my type in the looks department. In a lot of ways we were proverbial chalk and cheese from completely different backgrounds and with very different personalites and outlooks. I was (and still am) agnostic / atheist, she a Catholic.
Well I can't say what it was she saw in me as only she will truly know that but she opened my eyes / mind / heart up to so much in life that I was missing out on or was ignortant of before.
I'd always been into cinema (was a drama / film student) and loved the technical aspects of film and narrative and was always an avid reader but my tastes were very pedestrian, I had bo actual idea of or appreciation for art with deeper meaning. She got me into literature which is now 10 years later one of the biggest loves of my life. She also got me inspired by art and ideas based on feeling and emotion whereas beofre my ideas for films were very technical and genre / plot driven rather than people driven. I'm now into art and movies from a much broader range...
She also taught me how to soften up and not be against everything, to not worry about showing my soft side to others alone or in public . She also taught me how to gain great enjoyment from and pleasure in the small things in life - watching a bird in the garden, a sunny day, a nice cafe and a simple meal, poetry, things like that...
Also I started hanging out with a broader range of people. Before I'd only hang out with people very simillar to me with saimillar tastes but after that I started to give others a chance and definately made a better grpoups of friends and also founf it easier to make friends and get on with people.
Sounds very American Beauty doesn't it...? Well, there weren't any 'lectures' on all this stuff or anything during the few months we were together, but thsoe things just rubbed off on me from her...
I have to say she started off/ inspired a revolution of my character and personality. I mean I'm still me and have a lot of traits I've always had but these are now complemented with a lot of new aspects too which have made me a better and fuller and happier person. And it doesn't make me feel week or that I'm not you know, existentially self made / reliant etc, to admit that somene else had such a profound effect on my development.
And we're still good friends. |
That's interesting and encouraging. Sometimes I wonder if I'm the type who is even capable of that any more. Like I said, I've met more un-willing pupil-boyfriends than willing ones. BUT it could very well just be my technique or reluctance to enter that role. Mainly because....I DON'T WANT TO BE GOOD FRIENDS. I want a husband who I respect and love and yes, more often than not obey. This current dude does have all the signs of a willing pupil boyfriend, but ugh... I really just want to procreate with him.  |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2009 2:12 am Post subject: |
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| Darashii wrote: |
| That's interesting and encouraging. Sometimes I wonder if I'm the type who is even capable of that any more. Like I said, I've met more un-willing pupil-boyfriends than willing ones. BUT it could very well just be my technique or reluctance to enter that role. Mainly because....I DON'T WANT TO BE GOOD FRIENDS. I want a husband who I respect and love and yes, more often than not obey. This current dude does have all the signs of a willing pupil boyfriend,but ugh... I really just want to procreate with him. |
To summarize what you said: love is illogical 
Darwin wins again. |
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Aelric
Joined: 02 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Tue Aug 25, 2009 7:39 pm Post subject: |
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I'm most recent ex made me really fear starting a relationship with another Korean girl after talk of kids started two weeks into it, she played god awful loyalty test games with me (randomly packing her things and leaving just to see if I would chase her) and constantly dissing me for being American and acting disgusted with herself that she was dating an American. That was 8 months ago and I still can't come around to dating with Korean girls even when the opportunity presents itself.
That and being cheated on my past girls in America has made me venomously anti-cheating, to which I get direct crap from my fellow males and sometimes females over. Wish I could name off more positive things. |
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