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earthbound14
Joined: 23 Jan 2007
Location: seoul
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 Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 2:51 am Post subject: So I lost it on that drunk guy at the bar, u know the one |
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You know the guy, that ajoeshi guy who butts in, has to ask you about kimchi and Korean girls and then demands that you have a drink with him...while you keep hoping this dumb mo-fo will get the hell out of your face so you can go about the rest of your night.
Anyway, he came over as usual (different guy than before...but hey, they tend to blur together after a while), butts in on my conversation with my mate to blurt out
"What you think Korea?"
"Why you Korea?"
"You like a spicy food?...kimchi OK?"
"Why you not live in your home country..... " Christ, I'm usually on auto pilot with these stupid asst questions.
Great
Because
I like Korea
Love Korea
Kimchi is good......Fighting Doekdo
Anyway he asks me to have a drink and I politely decline showing him my motorcycle helmet...Thanks but no thanks...I don't drink and drive.
The dum feck then grabs a bottle from the bar...a bar I go to far more than he and I would never just pour my own. The bar man is my friend and that's just not cool. Then he tries to give it to me, the drink he's just stolen. Not only that, but he keeps on insisting after I told him no, he ignore me and tells me to drink.
At which point I lose it, stand up, get about 1 inch from his face and yell at him to get the hell out of my face and never ever tell me what to do again. The whole bar stops dead thinking a fight is about to happen.
The poor bastard is stunned and stands mute for about 3 minutes in front of the whole bar, then walks out. Finally...His little puppy dog look of dismay was getting disgusting.
Then he plucks up the courage to come back and ask me to say sorry for doing that do him in front of the whole place. I suppose he lost face.
Anyway, I kindly explain to him that he was rude and that kind of behaviour isn't cool. He then demands that I stay and say sorry.
"Sorry mate, that's your problem and you just don't get it."
Crap, I felt bad for the guy, thinking perhaps I over reacted...but I just get tired of this little "big" man circus act. Do groups of mis-informed Korean men sit around together and plan this crap or what?
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 2:59 am Post subject: |
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Well done. Why feel bad? You did what any person would do. You told him as is. His behaviour was shameful and unacceptable  |
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McGenghis
Joined: 14 Oct 2008
Location: Gangneung
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 3:08 am Post subject: |
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There's a certain, pluck? that a fellow needs with these guys, U's doin it wrong. I can't spell it out, because there isn't an alphabet for it. But seriously, weren't you enjoying this episode, and as it was happening, did you imagine posting about it here? Imagine the commiseration, the 'sorry bro I been there's?
You yell at a man in his own country and then publish it in the drivel tabloids? AND you want someone to pat you on the back?
I don't accuse you of cultural insensitivity, or immorality, or rocking the kimchi pot. I'm only pretty sure your imagination is about as strong as my dead dog's ear muscles, though. |
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oskinny1
Joined: 10 Nov 2006
Location: Right behind you!
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 4:25 am Post subject: |
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| McGenghis wrote: |
You yell at a man in his own country and then publish it in the drivel tabloids? AND you want someone to pat you on the back?
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Someone acts like an ass in their own country and you should just sit there and take it each time?
I had some drunk adjosshi trying to shove food down my throat (food from some random plate that was sitting at the bar that was neither his nor mine) and then proceed to stroke my face. At that point does it matter that he was born in this land and I wasn't?
Some of these people (drunk idiots who think they are in a petting zoo when they see foreigners) need a good talking too once in awhile. I award the brown dduk bae kie award for valor to earthbound. |
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sarahsiobhan
Joined: 24 May 2009
Location: Wherever I am , I am probably drinking tea.
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 4:29 am Post subject: |
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| Well done, OP. It needs to happen more often. |
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Old Gil
Joined: 26 Sep 2009
Location: Got out! olleh!
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 4:32 am Post subject: |
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| McGenghis wrote: |
You yell at a man in his own country |
What does that have to do with it? Reverse that and say it about your home country. Sounds pretty chauvinistic doesn't it. |
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DorkothyParker
Joined: 11 Apr 2009
Location: Jeju
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 5:10 am Post subject: |
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All's well that ends well. He will be more thoughtful in the future, I hope.
As a side, it's very likely the bottle belonged to him. I've gone to several bars where you purchase a bottle and they mark it in some way for you for return visits.
Personally, I don't drive and I'd put up with all kinds of antics for free booze. (Well, all except sexual harassment!)  |
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mayorgc
Joined: 19 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 5:37 am Post subject: |
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| I sorta feel sorry for the Korean guy. It seems like he just wanted to make friends (in a korean kind of way). I wasn't there, so obviously I might be wrong. |
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Teddycakes21
Joined: 18 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 6:02 am Post subject: |
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| DorkothyParker wrote: |
All's well that ends well. He will be more thoughtful in the future, I hope.
As a side, it's very likely the bottle belonged to him. I've gone to several bars where you purchase a bottle and they mark it in some way for you for return visits.
Personally, I don't drive and I'd put up with all kinds of antics for free booze. (Well, all except sexual harassment!) |
My wife and I finished shopping at E-Mart tonight, and we had 10 huge bags of food in a shopping cart and were going to get a cab. There was a cab outside waiting when we came out of E-Mart. "How convenient." I thought. Wrong.
I ask the cab driver to open the trunk so we can start putting our food in the car. He is telling me that it's full and to just put it in the back seat. I see another cab pulling up behind him. I tell the cab driver that there is not enough space. There was only enough space for about 6-7 bags in the trunk, and the rest would have to go in the front seat. However, this was impossible because there was no space. I tell him politely that we'll just take the 2nd cab because there is no room. He insists that we put all of our bags in the back seat with us. I say no thanks and start moving towards the 2nd cab.
The driver from the 2nd cab gets out of the car and starts yelling that I should be taking the first cab in line. I'm telling them that there clearly not enough space for all of our sh*t, at which point the 2nd cab driver grabs my wife's shoulder and I shove him and yell at them both. The 1st cab driver is smiling so nervously and dumb. They both quickly return to their cabs.
Do they not have brains?
I would have loved to make quick work out of both of them. These people frustrate the hell out of me. |
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 6:13 am Post subject: |
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| I hate those stupid taxi queues. I just wanna take the first cab I see and get the heck out of dodge. What was it full with or was he just too lazy to pop the trunk? |
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Teddycakes21
Joined: 18 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 6:24 am Post subject: |
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| Xuanzang wrote: |
| I hate those stupid taxi queues. I just wanna take the first cab I see and get the heck out of dodge. What was it full with or was he just too lazy to pop the trunk? |
The trunk was full. He popped it open and showed me. They were insisting that we put our bags in the back seat with us - which was ridiculous. My wife feels extremely sick when we ride in cabs as it is. She has to lay her head on my lap. Why do Koreans need a goddamn explanation for every little thing? Why can't a simple "No thank you" be enough for them?
The fact that the 2nd driver got out and was insisting the same thing was frustrating and laughable, but the moment that grubby hand went on my wife's shoulder I lost it.
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Xuanzang
Joined: 10 Apr 2007
Location: Sadang
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 6:27 am Post subject: |
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| Next time look for the orange international ones. Maybe they might be better? I'd lose it too if he suddenly grabbed my woman's shoulder. |
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Teddycakes21
Joined: 18 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 7:08 am Post subject: |
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| Xuanzang wrote: |
| Next time look for the orange international ones. Maybe they might be better? I'd lose it too if he suddenly grabbed my woman's shoulder. |
Thanks. =D |
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fermentation
Joined: 22 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 7:27 am Post subject: |
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I try my best to ignore drunk ajushis the best I can. I really don't know what it is with drunk Korean guys that makes them gravitate towards foreign looking people.
Once I was with a french friend who speaks ok, and this random drunk Korean dude comes out of nowhere follows us around for about 20 minutes straight. My friend made a big mistake of giving him attention in the first place. The guy kept asking my friend if he can ask a question. This was how the gist of the conversation went
Korean Guy: Can I ask you question?
Friend: Yes, what is it?
KG: Sorry if I bothering you.
Friend: No it's okay. What is it you want to ask?
KG: I want to ask question to you.
Friend: Its ok. Just ask me
KG: I'm sorry, is ok if I ask?
Friend: I'm telling you its ok. If you're not going to ask me the question, then please leave me alone!
Repeat for like 20 minutes. Near the end my friend had enough and pushed the guy and told him to go away. The Korean guy stopped bothering us when he saw a group girls and made a bee line towards them. Jesus Christ. |
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robot
Joined: 07 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Mon Nov 09, 2009 7:30 am Post subject: |
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Sorry OP, but I'm going to have declare that an overreaction.
Pressure to drink sucks in Korea, but it sounds like he was doing it with good intentions. It's the culture for older people to "take care" of younger people by forcing things on them. It used to throw me off -- I even got a bit ticked off at my Korean mother-in-law once because she would constantly be piling things on my plate and telling me what to eat.
But it's all out of love. Or, in this guy's case, hopeful friendship.
Annoying, yeah, but we're not back home, and we've got to be cool-headed about things like this. |
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