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MollyBloom
Joined: 21 Jul 2006
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 Posted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 9:24 pm Post subject: parenthood in general and in korea |
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I'm getting married in the spring, so I'm thinking a lot about motherhood! Well, I'd like to wait 3-4 years before I have my first child...
I was also wondering how many posters have children. Also, if they were born in Korea, how is raising them here? Furthermore, if they are in school in Korea, how is that working out? |
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam
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| Posted: Fri Nov 13, 2009 11:28 pm Post subject: |
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I don't want to raise a child in Korea. I don't like the way kids behave here, and I don't want to (have to) be that involved with the culture.
I think my lack of interest in Korean men is at least partially due to this issue. I'm not thinking about having kids now, or any time soon but... well. |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 5:08 pm Post subject: |
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My girl is 2 1/2. So far i have found...
The positives:
-very supportive family.
-my flexible work schedule.
The negatives:
-Horrible air quality on many days
-dangerous roads
-dangerous sidewalks
-sparse greenspace
-inconvenient to use a stroller
-too much construction (noise, dirt, etc...)
-expensive kiddie activities
-limited playdate potential |
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youtuber
Joined: 13 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 6:28 pm Post subject: |
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| Draz wrote: |
| I don't like the way kids behave here. |
At least the kids in Korea listen to adults.
A little twit in the West has no problem telling an adult to f-ck off. |
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youtuber
Joined: 13 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 6:29 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| MollyBloom wrote: |
I'm getting married in the spring, so I'm thinking a lot about motherhood! Well, I'd like to wait 3-4 years before I have my first child...
I was also wondering how many posters have children. Also, if they were born in Korea, how is raising them here? Furthermore, if they are in school in Korea, how is that working out? |
Mixed kids are generally treated like shitt so that should be your main concern. Why not adopt? There are thousands of abandoned kids here. |
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam
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| Posted: Sat Nov 14, 2009 8:33 pm Post subject: |
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| youtuber wrote: |
| Draz wrote: |
| I don't like the way kids behave here. |
At least the kids in Korea listen to adults.
A little twit in the West has no problem telling an adult to f-ck off. |
What Western country are you thinking about?
When I was in Europe over the summer, I saw a woman taking care of seven young children. They were all about 2-2.5 years old. They were paired up and walking down the sidewalk hand in hand. They weren't moving very fast, but everyone was doing what they were supposed to, no one was whining or running off. And I saw many other nannies (though this one was the most impressive caring for seven toddlers alone) and their charges were all behaving themselves too.
When I saw that... it made me seriously reconsider never having kids.  They were so cute! |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 2:17 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| youtuber wrote: |
| MollyBloom wrote: |
I'm getting married in the spring, so I'm thinking a lot about motherhood! Well, I'd like to wait 3-4 years before I have my first child...
I was also wondering how many posters have children. Also, if they were born in Korea, how is raising them here? Furthermore, if they are in school in Korea, how is that working out? |
Mixed kids are generally treated like shitt so that should be your main concern. Why not adopt? There are thousands of abandoned kids here. |
Do you have a 'mixed kid'? |
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Juregen
Joined: 30 May 2006
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 4:31 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| youtuber wrote: |
| MollyBloom wrote: |
I'm getting married in the spring, so I'm thinking a lot about motherhood! Well, I'd like to wait 3-4 years before I have my first child...
I was also wondering how many posters have children. Also, if they were born in Korea, how is raising them here? Furthermore, if they are in school in Korea, how is that working out? |
Mixed kids are generally treated like shitt so that should be your main concern. Why not adopt? There are thousands of abandoned kids here. |
Yeah right
That is why my son gets constantly free food and people can't keep their eyes of off him. I constantly have to tell people to stop taking pictures and stop gawking at him.
Not all kids get treated like that. |
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youtuber
Joined: 13 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 8:51 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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people can't keep their eyes of off him. I constantly have to tell people to stop taking pictures and stop gawking at him.
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Is that a good thing?
Anyways, my main point is why not adopt? Why go thru the trouble of creating a new person when there are tons already available? |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 9:20 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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Anyways, my main point is why not adopt? Why go thru the trouble of creating a new person when there are tons already available?
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While adopting is certainly a noble thing, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to want to have a child of your own, and it's unfair to criticize any couple for wanting their own child instead of taking up someone else's burden. You seem to be saying, "Someone else made a child for whatever reason, so instead of having one of your own, why not raise theirs?" For many people, it's simply not the same.
I'm not sure whether I want children of my own, but I certainly wouldn't want to adopt a child. Raising a child I'm directly responsible for the creation of is one thing; taking on someone else's burden in this regard would likely be intolerable. |
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 11:05 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| Fox wrote: |
While adopting is certainly a noble thing, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to want to have a child of your own, and it's unfair to criticize any couple for wanting their own child instead of taking up someone else's burden. You seem to be saying, "Someone else made a child for whatever reason, so instead of having one of your own, why not raise theirs?" For many people, it's simply not the same.
I'm not sure whether I want children of my own, but I certainly wouldn't want to adopt a child. Raising a child I'm directly responsible for the creation of is one thing; taking on someone else's burden in this regard would likely be intolerable. |
Many many people don't see children mainly as a burden fyi.
I wouldn't adopt either, unless I'd already tried the easy way (having sex and giving birth) and it didn't work. I've seen enough tv dramas to know that adoption is a pain in the ass. |
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youtuber
Joined: 13 Sep 2009
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I dunno I just don't really understand the whole baby making thing. Do people feel that their genes are superior to others so they should "go forth and multiply"? That's kind of weird isn't it? Kind of narcissistic isn't it? What's wrong with someone else's "burden"? If an adoptee is healthy, what's the problem? Why not help a kid out? Seems kind of selfish doesn't it?
It boggles my mind that some people in Canada will spend tens of thousands of dollars on fertility treatments when they could just adopt. |
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jmuns
Joined: 09 Sep 2009
Location: earth
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 11:20 pm Post subject: |
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| That's kind of weird isn't it? Kind of narcissistic isn't it? |
this makes your mom one weird, narcissistic b.... |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 11:33 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| youtuber wrote: |
| Juregen wrote: |
people can't keep their eyes of off him. I constantly have to tell people to stop taking pictures and stop gawking at him.
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Is that a good thing?
Anyways, my main point is why not adopt? Why go thru the trouble of creating a new person when there are tons already available? |
I noticed how you avoided my question.
I know may parents here with mixed kids... and NONE OF THEM have said that their kids are treats 'shitty'.
So, where does your grand knowledge on the subject come from? |
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Fox
Joined: 04 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Sun Nov 15, 2009 11:50 pm Post subject: Re: parenthood in general and in korea |
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| Draz wrote: |
| Fox wrote: |
While adopting is certainly a noble thing, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to want to have a child of your own, and it's unfair to criticize any couple for wanting their own child instead of taking up someone else's burden. You seem to be saying, "Someone else made a child for whatever reason, so instead of having one of your own, why not raise theirs?" For many people, it's simply not the same.
I'm not sure whether I want children of my own, but I certainly wouldn't want to adopt a child. Raising a child I'm directly responsible for the creation of is one thing; taking on someone else's burden in this regard would likely be intolerable. |
Many many people don't see children mainly as a burden fyi. |
I think many people don't see their own children as a burden. I think many people would see caring for another person's child as a burden. I'm not sure how many people could view an adopted child as truly their own. I'm not sure I could. Maybe I'm judging too many people by my own standard, I don't know. |
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