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I'm no Picasso
Joined: 28 Oct 2008
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The Gipkik wrote:
Hey, listen, if you insist on meeting drunk Korean girls in bars; girls who are specifically looking for the white boys, you're going to get some real head cases going on. They're essentially outsiders. Good luck.
so true...
jsk wrote:
Of the few girls I've gotten to know that are really quality, I noticed they all had something in common. All of them had experience living on their own or away from their family while working to support themselves. I'm not saying that's what defines quality, but it probably had a lot to do with their maturity level. Of course, they're not as good-looking as the princesses, but they aren't whining "짜증나" whenever they don't get their way either.
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Pretty much spot on in my opinion. Especially the first part. Dating multiple guys is also extremely common here. Much more than the west. If a girl is flaking out, many times its because she is dealing/spending time with one of her other guys. Many Korean girls know it is game over once they hit 30. This new generation wants to "keep their options open" but I'm sure this has already been mentioned. I find South Korea is the 2 extremes. Either you get the above or some hard core church girl that wants to know if "things are good to go" within the first few months of a relationship. Either scenario isn't ideal if you are a 20 something year old guy that is looking for a good steady girlfriend. If you want meaningless fun or marriage then it is great. I'm sure that many Korean men flake out quite a bit too as posters like Picasso has pointed out. Maybe it is for the same reasons? |
Right. In my opinion, it's just a matter of adjusting. And knowing this simple fact:
Playing the flaky, on-and-off texting occasionally calling and meeting up when there's nothing better on offer thing is fine, so long as you both feel the same way. If one, but not the other, starts to feel more (especially if that one is you), it's time to drop the whole thing like the hot mess it's bound to become. |
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sarahsiobhan
Joined: 24 May 2009
Location: Wherever I am , I am probably drinking tea.
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| Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 10:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Hmmm......it's rather sad, but threads like this one (among many others) have gone a long way to convince me that dating just won't be on the cards until I leave good old S. Ko. |
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Silk
Joined: 09 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 10:57 pm Post subject: |
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| sarahsiobhan wrote: |
| Hmmm......it's rather sad, but threads like this one (among many others) have gone a long way to convince me that dating just won't be on the cards until I leave good old S. Ko. |
Sure there are antics that seem more common here, but everything has its ups and downs, not dating period in Korea is either viewing the korean dating scene in an unrealistically negative light, or viewing your native country's dating scene in an unrealistically positive one. |
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adventurrre
Joined: 18 Aug 2009
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 3:09 am Post subject: |
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| I stopped messing with those girls that lead you on and as SOON as I gave up I met a nice girl, who I'm dating right now... and now that I'm dating, the pressure is totally off and the cool genuine girl flood gates opened and now I have some legit options.... so my advice -- STOP CHASING THOSE LAME GIRLS -- but if you are chasing, don't put all your eggs in one basket, have at least 3 baskets and make sure none of those baskets mess with your mental.... |
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mc_jc
Joined: 13 Aug 2009
Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 3:35 am Post subject: |
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The thing about my advice is to use it on girls you know are going to act flaky. If you meet a girl who you know to be geniune, then of course its not going to work.
Those that say they've allegedly grown out of that stuff are going to get frustrated when the girl pulls the "no texting back" game on them.
You need to let them know you mean business. |
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bobbyhanlon
Joined: 09 Nov 2003
Location: 서울
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:20 am Post subject: |
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| a little same-same but different.. from my experience of going to booking clubs, getting 10 phone numbers, texting 3-4, but having them flake out, i've come to the conclusion that you just have to out-flake them. make a date with them, then cancel it before they get the chance to cancel on you (which they almost inevitably will). tragic to admit, but i've experimented with this: when i didn't cancel first, the flake rate was almost 100%, but when i postponed first and asked to meet another time, they showed up without fail. |
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beercanman
Joined: 16 May 2009
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:59 am Post subject: |
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| man I had this dream where I was running in a race against Cartman and i totally kicked his ass dude, it was sweet. |
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nautilus
Joined: 26 Nov 2005
Location: Je jump, Tu jump, oui jump!
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 6:40 am Post subject: |
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And for the flaky ones, try txting them you want a nice girl, not just a pretty face and you don't want to txt anymore (you have to mean it), and they will fall all over themselves trying to prove that they are a nice girl...but in the end, if you have to send that text message, you're better off not being with them anyhow. |
Exactly..
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| make a date with them, then cancel it before they get the chance to cancel on you (which they almost inevitably will). tragic to admit, but i've experimented with this: when i didn't cancel first, the flake rate was almost 100%, but when i postponed first and asked to meet another time, they showed up without fail. |
if you have to perform such a magic feat to get her to simply keep her word...then you already know that ultimately she's going to be a waste of time. |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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Sheesh, so complicated. I don't text girls I'm interested in, I just call them. Does this make me old-fashioned and weird, or what?
I haven't had any trouble with girls not showing up to dates though--they're always 30 minutes late, but they never cancel on me.
Perhaps she canceled on you because she made plans with me?  |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:26 pm Post subject: |
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Many Korean people are of the one who know little about the art of conversation.
Reason: they have their conversation designed by some stupid dramas or whatever else.
Last edited by Panda on Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:30 pm; edited 1 time in total |
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Old Gil
Joined: 26 Sep 2009
Location: Got out! olleh!
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:27 pm Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
The majority Korean people are of the one who know little about the art of conversation.
Reason: they have their conversation designed by some stupid dramas or whatever else. |
Dui ni hen congming! |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 5:32 pm Post subject: |
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hehe, I just edited my post, I think the majority is probably over-estimation 
Save some face for Daehan Mingook |
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Cartman
Joined: 30 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:47 pm Post subject: |
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| beercanman wrote: |
| man I had this dream where I was running in a race against Cartman and i totally kicked his ass dude, it was sweet. |
+1 LOL |
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Goku
Joined: 10 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 8:28 pm Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
Many Korean people are of the one who know little about the art of conversation.
Reason: they have their conversation designed by some stupid dramas or whatever else. |
I went out with some high school girls (a co-teachers daughter) in a thinly guised reason for me to give free engrish lessons...
Anyways, they kept telling me their concept of love and dating and I could swear I was listening to a Korean version a of Fabio romance novel. It was like as unicorns and leprechaun existed they way they were talking.
I have pretty messed up and unrealistic expectations of dating myself, but these girls take the cake. They were like... "I will someday find a man who is rich, perfectly understands me, is powerful, handsome etc etc..."
Right.... just also expect him to constantly eat sam gyup sal, wasted off of soju, bang room salon whores, and pass out in the street every other night.
Now it's not just a REGULAR fairy tale that all women have about men. Their idea was SO unrealistic with a Korean twist. They expected literally the men to worship the ground they walk on and to do everything for them. Which frankly isn't too far from the reality of Korea. Men here are whipped before marriage. |
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Joe666
Joined: 19 Nov 2008
Location: Jesus it's hot down here!
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| Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 11:03 pm Post subject: |
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Goku wrote:
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I have pretty messed up and unrealistic expectations of dating myself, but these girls take the cake. They were like... "I will someday find a man who is rich, perfectly understands me, is powerful, handsome etc etc..."
Right.... just also expect him to constantly eat sam gyup sal, wasted off of soju, bang room salon whores, and pass out in the street every other night. |
Artwork fellow Googin, artwork!!
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| Now it's not just a REGULAR fairy tale that all women have about men. Their idea was SO unrealistic with a Korean twist. They expected literally the men to worship the ground they walk on and to do everything for them. Which frankly isn't too far from the reality of Korea. Men here are whipped before marriage. |
Depends on the agoshi's age. Mutants over the age of 40 are more old school and are for the most part, the exact opposite. I agree, the younger generation males are feminine and bagless. |
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