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BoholDiver
Joined: 03 Oct 2009 Location: Canada
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:15 am Post subject: Unbelievable sight |
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Today I was waiting in Sindorim station and saw the start of an altercation between one ajosshi of around 55 and another of around 60 with a prosthetic leg. I watched as usual, as these fights are often comical.
It got worse, as the one man actually punched and assaulted the handicapped man. Somewhat badly. Of course one man jumped in somewhat half-arsed and didn't allow him to mount the other day and turn his face into hamburger, but really didn't stop it.
The crowd did the dirty look thing, the general disgust, but no one saw it in them to stop this. I was pondering what to do, then the train came, and finally 3 people jumped in and made the other guy walk away, after he'd knocked down the handicapped man about 4 times and punched him about a dozen times.
I felt bad after it. I should have defended the handicapped man, even if he caused it. But I don't trust the law here. |
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SHANE02

Joined: 04 Jun 2003
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:34 am Post subject: |
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You did the right thing. walk away. |
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mc_jc

Joined: 13 Aug 2009 Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:49 am Post subject: |
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Yes- walk away and stay out of it.
If you had gotten involved, you would've been the scapegoat for the altercation and might've been arrested if the police got involved or the crowd could've turned against your good deed and you would've been beaten up.
Again, it doesn't pay to be chivalrous in Korea. |
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shinramyun
Joined: 31 Jul 2009
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 11:07 am Post subject: |
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Act like an Italian, mind your own damn business. |
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BoholDiver
Joined: 03 Oct 2009 Location: Canada
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 4:12 pm Post subject: |
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Lovely.
I agree that getting involved is bad for me, but it's stupid that a Korean man thinks it's okay to beat up a handicapped man. I wonder, does he kick babies and little dogs too? |
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JJJ
Joined: 27 Nov 2006 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 4:16 pm Post subject: |
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You did the right thing, even if it didn't feel right.
A couple years ago, I saw a guy beating the crap out of a woman at Sillim Station with about 100 people watching in a big semi-circle. No one moved. I almost did and remembered a story about a good soul who intervened and was charged. That's the way it goes here. |
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hellofaniceguy

Joined: 10 Jan 2003 Location: On your computer screen!
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 4:38 pm Post subject: |
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All you..."won't get involved" are bad. When you see bad and do nothing, you are just as guilty as those doing the bad. It could well be YOU getting harmed and others standing around with your attitude watching you get hurt! Would you like others to just stand around while you get your azz whipped? You don't have to rush in and break it up, but at least let your presence known and try to stop the beating. I have spent many years here and have stepped in between countless fights especially when it involves a male whacking on a female. Cops have never ever done me bad by my interfering. |
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crossmr

Joined: 22 Nov 2008 Location: Hwayangdong, Seoul
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 4:44 pm Post subject: |
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I haven't seen too many attacks since I've been here, but there was a crazy guy yelling at a woman on the subway platform about 6 months or so ago at goseok terminal. At one point he actually charged at the woman and tried to hit her. This guy, maybe 20ish suddenly ran over from the platform got in between them, while at the same time trying to appear very polite to the crazy guy and told him to go away. The crazy guy would back off and the young guy would go back to waiting for his train. Apparently this crazy guy wanted to live behind the woman's booth on the platform. This happened several times and then my train came, I had seen some people on their phones so they were likely calling the police.
The best thing I saw was some 15 year old transit station kid trying to herd a drunk 50ish guy out the gate. He was trying to be polite at first then he got tired so he started doing the full on head down push trying to get this guy out. |
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contacts
Joined: 19 Nov 2009
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 5:31 pm Post subject: |
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If only the prosthetic leg somehow came into play - that would have been a story! |
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djsmnc

Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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I'd be like "Beat that cripple azz man!" Sho nuff |
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Steelrails

Joined: 12 Mar 2009 Location: Earth, Solar System
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 6:01 pm Post subject: |
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contacts wrote: |
If only the prosthetic leg somehow came into play - that would have been a story! |
Yeah, the sick jokester part of me is trying really hard not to laugh at this. Seems like even the OP saw the comedy in this initially.
But yeah going after a guy who might have lost his leg in Nam or something was pretty low of the ajosshi.
It does seem that the only time the foreigner can get away with things in these situations is if the other guy is clearly a raving derelict or similar person. [/quote] |
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Adventurer

Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:42 pm Post subject: |
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I remember first hearing about such a phenomenon about some people who lived in a city like New York City where a woman was screaming as she was getting raped and no one came to help her. This sort of thing does tend to happen more in large cities. However, I doubt I would see someone hitting a handicapped person on a bus in Dallas without any Texans doing anything to stop what's happening. Many folks in Korea act in a way that reminds me of characters in the movie "The Time Machine" where people watched the Morlocks killing people like them. However, there are plenty of Koreans who will help people in need. We can't see we know the culture very well. I read somewhere that the concept of the public good is not as strong in Korean society. However, that was written by that Korean American writer who often writes things EFL instructors don't like. I forget his name.
I can tell you once I was in a bad mood and this fellow was scaring an ajumma and acting nuts in front of his wife/girlfriend. I think she didn't know how to calm him down and made him more aggravated. Eventually, I got tired of him bothering the ajummas. So, I gave him a look. Then, he threatend me, and I told him to go ahead and try to deck me and talked in a threatening, nothing to lose tone. I was ticked off with immigration that day, I believe. I told him to get off the subway and leave the ajumma alone. He eventually did at the urging of his girl instead of fight me.
What happened after that? The people on the subway train were all smiles and happy that he was gone and someone did something. |
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abigolblackman
Joined: 06 Jun 2009
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 8:25 pm Post subject: |
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@Adventuer
To clarify that New York Story.
The woman was getting raped in the middle of a park that was surrounded by 4 or 5 high rise apartment buildings. People could see the rape happening from their apartment. Everyone was waiting for someone else to do something but nobody called the police.
The man left the woman there, then came back 15 minutes later and stabbed her to death. Again, no one intervened or called the police.
I forget the psychological term for this kind of social behavior is, but personally, I just called it F***ed up.
2 years ago I was in Japan on the subway. My back was to the open doors. All of a sudden, my friend says, "OMG!" I turn around to find a small and petite (of course) Japanese woman stuck between the doors. By the time I saw, it had already been well over 10 seconds and no one made a move to help her. I immediately pushed everyone out the way and forced the doors open so not only she could get inside, but also not DIE/or get INJURED. Beyond that, the subway train will not run until the doors close completely. What is wrong with these people? After she was inside, I turned around, looked at everybody, threw my hands in the air and said, "What the f***?!?!?!?!?!" Whether they understood me or not, they got the message and all put their heads down in shame.
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asylum seeker
Joined: 22 Jul 2007 Location: On your computer screen.
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 8:31 pm Post subject: |
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abigolblackman wrote: |
@Adventuer
To clarify that New York Story.
The woman was getting raped in the middle of a park that was surrounded by 4 or 5 high rise apartment buildings. People could see the rape happening from their apartment. Everyone was waiting for someone else to do something but nobody called the police.
The man left the woman there, then came back 15 minutes later and stabbed her to death. Again, no one intervened or called the police.
I forget the psychological term for this kind of social behavior is, but personally, I just called it F***ed up.
2 years ago I was in Japan on the subway. My back was to the open doors. All of a sudden, my friend says, "OMG!" I turn around to find a small and petite (of course) Japanese woman stuck between the doors. By the time I saw, it had already been well over 10 seconds and no one made a move to help her. I immediately pushed everyone out the way and forced the doors open so not only she could get inside, but also not DIE/or get INJURED. Beyond that, the subway train will not run until the doors close completely. What is wrong with these people? After she was inside, I turned around, looked at everybody, threw my hands in the air and said, "What the f***?!?!?!?!?!" Whether they understood me or not, they got the message and all put their heads down in shame.
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It's called the the bystander effect or Genovese syndrome. The woman was named Kitty Genovese:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitty_genovese |
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Bloopity Bloop

Joined: 26 Apr 2009 Location: Seoul yo
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 8:41 pm Post subject: |
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abigolblackman wrote: |
@Adventuer
To clarify that New York Story.
The woman was getting raped in the middle of a park that was surrounded by 4 or 5 high rise apartment buildings. People could see the rape happening from their apartment. Everyone was waiting for someone else to do something but nobody called the police.
The man left the woman there, then came back 15 minutes later and stabbed her to death. Again, no one intervened or called the police.
I forget the psychological term for this kind of social behavior is, but personally, I just called it F***ed up. |
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kitty_Genovese
If you're talking about the Kitty Genovese attack, get your facts straight.
People often grossly exaggerate and twist the facts of this case.
If you weren't referring to this case, then I apologize. |
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