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the_beaver
Joined: 15 Jan 2003
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 Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
| All is not lost. If you want revenge (and you do because it's fun and easy) you have to convince him you are completely over him AND you've moved on to better things. Sexually intimidating better things. You must have hot friends floating around, an ex maybe? Drag him out of the woodwork and start spending time out in public with him. No matter how miserable you are, go out and look like you are having fun with hot guys. I am willing to bet 100 dollars that your ex will call you within three days of seeing you looking genuinely happy with another HOT dude. |
The ex would call if he's somewhere under the epsilon range on the man scale. |
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mc_jc
Joined: 13 Aug 2009
Location: C4B- Cp Red Cloud, Area-I
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| Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 5:18 pm Post subject: |
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The last time I was with someone seriously was about 3 years ago. When we broke up, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
We both were successful people- me, a senior civilian executive and she was an Air Force Lieutenant Colonel in charge of Strategic Affairs at Munsan AFB. We met at a gala at the Dragon Hill Lodge and what could I say- sparks flew and we hit it off rather nicely.
But in the end, our careers got in the way (I got promoted to GS-13 and she was promoted to full Colonel) and she wanted to move back to the states where she could start a family- I was not ready to pack up and leave what I have here.
It took me about four month to get over her- but after taking some soul-searching trips through India and Nepal, I started to feel that my destiny is to be by myself. Am I bitter? No because I have experience being loved and giving love.
Am I shutting myself to any potential relationship? No.
You will be ok and life is not over- I am not going to say "you will find someone better" because that is the worst thing anyone could say because it makes their previous attempt at a relationship seem irrelevent. |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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It took me about four month to get over her- but after taking some soul-searching trips through India and Nepal, I started to feel that my destiny is to be by myself. Am I bitter? No because I have experience being loved and giving love.
Am I shutting myself to any potential relationship? No.
You will be ok and life is not over- I am not going to say "you will find someone better" because that is the worst thing anyone could say because it makes their previous attempt at a relationship seem irrelevent. |
Thanks for sharing the story, looking back at something beautiful in our life is why we don't give up hope after we fail.
I also find "you will find someone better" very lame. I prefer bitter hate letters than that...  For some reason, I dont want to make any of my ex feel bad leaving me, I sometimes said something verty mean to them intentionally when we brok up, just because I wanted the relationship die faster with less pain. ( illogic?)
I feel much better today. Being on Dave's helped me quite a lot.
Long journey to Rome......anyway.  |
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cruisemonkey
Joined: 04 Jul 2005
Location: Hopefully, the same place as my luggage.
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| Posted: Sat Oct 24, 2009 2:16 am Post subject: |
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| Panda wrote: |
| Long journey to Rome......anyway. |
Never fly Air China.  |
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Sector7G
Joined: 24 May 2008
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| Posted: Sat Oct 24, 2009 2:23 am Post subject: Re: Finally, we broke up |
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| Panda wrote: |
I sufferred from this last relationship, finally, we broke up...tonight
I cried bitterly, and wrote a hate letter and clicked "send".
I deleted all his emails and contact information, blocked him from my MSN. All pictures and videos of us got the treatment of "Del+F4"
Then I looked into the mirror, I was still as fresh as 6 months ago...
Now I am here posting, I even feel a little bit delighted, with ABBA singing in the air.
I thought I loved him, when we chatted everynight on MSN
I thought I loved him, when I took 2 hour train to see him every weekend.
I thought I loved him, when I looked through 5 streets and finally bought him a pair of socks with Che Guerava on the top.
I thought I loved him so deeply that no any other women would love him as I did.
But why I was not even very sad when I broke up with him. because I am a loser who doesnt even have anything to lose, hence to cry for?
Oh yes, I gave out all my love for him........when he went away, so did my love and pain.
Goodbye, pirate, without you, I am still this pretty panda girl, with my soft and warm black and white suit and cool sunglasses on. |
Sorry for the pain, but nice post.......the word pathos comes to mind..... |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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Why does it still hurt when I was told he got a new girlfriend, even he is just an ex of mine.
I made a declaration that I just joined another campaign to see who is gonna lead a happier life without being with the other one, I am too proud a woman and am too stubborn to admit my bloody sh*tty failure in the previous love game.
No I don't want that b**** to put a finger on the aquarium I helped him build.
But yes, all my best wishes to him and his new girl are genuine.
I refused to talk to him again, all because I wanted to protect his current relationship as I used to do to my own...Because I still miss him damn so much.
I would agree to [MOD WOULD EDIT] him anytime as his wish. But again, I am too protective, and I still want to keep the dignity before we become entirely strangers.
Then I buried my face into my hands and thought "pirate, finally I am over you". |
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Triban
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
Location: Suwon Station
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| Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 3:55 pm Post subject: |
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| After 6 years, I am still not over the woman that broke my heart; some wounds may never heal, poppet. You just learn to live with them. |
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam
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I cut off all contact with my ex almost five months ago. I still think about him way too much.
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Oh god panda how could you. This thread reminded me that I still hadn't gone through my email and deleted everything so I did a search to find it all and [MODEDIT]!!! I set the email to send it to the trash if he sent me anything and:
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| A deleted message matches your search. View it or go to Trash to delete forever. |
NO!!!  |
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Triban
Joined: 14 Jul 2009
Location: Suwon Station
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| Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 5:16 pm Post subject: |
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| Draz wrote: |
I cut off all contact with my ex almost five months ago. I still think about him way too much.
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Oh god panda how could you. This thread reminded me that I still hadn't gone through my email and deleted everything so I did a search to find it all and [MODEDIT]!!! I set the email to send it to the trash if he sent me anything and:
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| A deleted message matches your search. View it or go to Trash to delete forever. |
NO!!! |
I still have the e-mails; pathetic. |
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sarahsiobhan
Joined: 24 May 2009
Location: Wherever I am , I am probably drinking tea.
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| Two years for me, still have the emails, pictures, voice message files he sent me when I moved away to do my MA.....so not healthy. But I can't bring myself to delete them. |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 6:23 pm Post subject: |
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| Triban wrote: |
| Draz wrote: |
I cut off all contact with my ex almost five months ago. I still think about him way too much.
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Oh god panda how could you. This thread reminded me that I still hadn't gone through my email and deleted everything so I did a search to find it all and [MODEDIT]!!! I set the email to send it to the trash if he sent me anything and:
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| A deleted message matches your search. View it or go to Trash to delete forever. |
NO!!! |
I still have the e-mails; pathetic. |
Yeah, it's hard, like you ask a kid to hide cookies by himself and not to eat them.
I said I deleted everything, but I then didn't, I kept him on my MSN, blocked, so I could see him but he couldn't see me and we wouldn't talk either......
I just wanted to see him on my MSN, that made me feel better...
But it almost disgusted me when I pictured him taking another woman into bed in less than a month after we broke up... Nothing wrong with that, that didn't make him a lower person...But it did help me finally get over him...
However that jealousy and uneasiness pushes me to want to compete with his new girl...and try my best to improve myself... I would probably have no chance to meet him in my life any more, but I want to prove him he made a wrong choice... and I did a right one...
I applied the Ego Defense Mechanism too well...   |
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thecount
Joined: 10 Nov 2009
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Draz
Joined: 27 Jun 2007
Location: Land of Morning Clam
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This was a new email. I know, because I went in and checked. I didn't read it, but the message preview looked to be the same old crap. ("Hi I'm just wondering how you're doing..." = "I'm bored and feel like jerking you around some more, dance puppet dance!")
I resent the swear filter right now. |
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jeffbright
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Fri Dec 18, 2009 12:41 am Post subject: |
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Thanks, thecount, I pretty much enjoyed all on that list...
The second song drives Draz's Santa Claus very high, lol...
Jeffbright: are you a guy that would cry in public? shame on you shame on you...=) |
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