Korean Job Discussion Forums

cwflaneur · Joined: 04 Aug 2009

Honestly, how does it work? I'm sure everyone gets my point. I'd like to hear about someone's experience with this... what should I expect?

hexagonsun · Joined: 28 Dec 2007 Location: ROK

welcome to Korea

Brooksmatic · Joined: 06 Apr 2008 Location: Seoul

I've had a Korean girlfriend for over a year now and she still lives with her parents. Honestly, it's gonna depend on how strict her parents are. My girlfriend can stay out late on any given night but is usually expected to come home on weekdays. She usually sleeps over 1-2 nights a week on average (Fridays or Saturdays mostly).

Probably the worst thing about it is that my girl gets frustrated living with her parents. They are always on her case about her job and staying healthy (they're health nuts).

It's all gonna depend on how strict they are.

PatrickGHBusan · Posted: Fri Feb 19, 2010 9:58 am Post subject:

My wife lived with her folks when we met back in 1997. She was in her early 20s. I was in my mid 20s. (4 years difference).

How did it work?

Like dating works my friend. We went out to movies, dinner and so on. She went home around 11pm. I had no problem with that because I love her. Its just a small adaptation. We took weekend trips together to Jeju, Gyungju and so on. She told her parents she was going on trips with me and some friends. They knew better, we knew better...face was maintained.

How do I know? My mother in law told me this over lunch two years later. Laughing

If you are serious about the girl then you adapt. If not, I suppose you better move on!

cwflaneur · Joined: 04 Aug 2009

Brooksmatic · Joined: 06 Apr 2008 Location: Seoul

sesyeux · Joined: 20 Jul 2009 Location: king 'arrys

so generally speaking, most k-girls live with their parents until mid to late twenties, when they either a] earn enough to move out, or b] find someone to move in with? seems like a sweet deal. i, for one, could not handle living with my parents for more than a few weeks though. this is the first time since university i've been home for more than a few days [sorting out everything needed for the E2] and already i'm getting cabin fever....

Whitey Otez · Joined: 31 May 2003 Location: The suburbs of Seoul

Yes, they lie to their parents about you as long as they can. Applying pressure to get your relationship out in the open is failure wrapped in fermented cabbage.

Yes, they live with their parents well into middle age if they're single. The girls that move out are a new phenomenon, and they're a lot like freshmen at university who discover whole new layers of freedom. They enjoy dating a lot of different guys, and tend to be out later than the girls that live with their folks.

Of course, on any given night, a "good" girl could be lying about who they are with and be out til five. Fathers don't seem to mind their daughters being in Tin Pan Alley at 4AM so long as they are there with their old chum from junior high.

But reading between the lines, I believe your real answer to your original question is: DVD rooms.

Bless them.

Radius · Joined: 20 Dec 2009

i just hooked up with this girl today and shes 35 (K-age) and still lives at home. girls weird though Shocked

djsmnc · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe

My GF's parents have never cared at all. She has crashed at my place for days on end and I've shared a bed in her room with her numerous times while her parents were at home. No awkwardness whatsoever. Her mom has often made me breakfast. There's no way on earth any of that would fly with my own folks.

Stalin84 · Joined: 30 Dec 2009 Location: Haebangchon, Seoul

Possibilities:

1. It's not the parent's she is living with, it's her husband. She is telling you it's her parents so you won't think too much about it.

2. She is too afraid to tell her parents about you. If her parents find a suitable Korean for her, she'll get a new phone and you'll never hear from her again until after she's married with kids. It doesn't matter if you've been dating 2 weeks or 2 years. If her parents snap their fingers she will move on and forget you overnight.

3. She will tell her parents about you eventually but will stay with you either way. These are the best girls (although rarest).

jiberish · Joined: 17 Jul 2006 Location: The Carribean Bay Wrestler

Living with your parents for a long time in Korea is pretty common. It isn't strange at all to have a 30 year old still living with their parents. One of the women I worked with once was 38 and married. She moved into her husbands parents' home with her husband...

crescent · Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Location: yes.

Quite a few women are maintaining life with the folks for longer periods back home now, too.

Kurtz · Joined: 05 Jan 2007 Location: ples bilong me

The telling of the parents bit can be unpleasant. Next time your see Mr Kim, you might find him saying "so are you going to marry our daughter?"

Dating a Korean girl who lives with her parents is like dating Cinderella.

Englishee · Joined: 21 Jan 2010

usually stays over on Fridays, spends the day Saturday but then goes home late at night.

She told her older sister she's going out with a white guy, but I don't think she told her parents. I don't think she ever told her parents she's sleeping over at my place. when i asked her about it, she said, "they don't ask, so i dont tell..."