Korean Job Discussion Forums

Cheyne · Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Location: Ilsan

I need some advice on how and what to tell your parents when you want to move to Korea for one year to teach English.

What works? What doesn't?

Any help would be awesome...

Cheers

peppermint · Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2004 7:05 pm Post subject:

A lot depends on the details of your situation, but it's really easy to stay in touch. My parents in Canada call me for less than they call my sister who's on the other side of my province. pm me for details if you want. Make sure that you tell them you've done the research.

You'll be fine.

Mr. Pink · Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Location: China

You are over 18 right?

What's the big deal?

Cheyne · Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Location: Ilsan

Peppermint thanks for that but....

I will throw you another curly one...

My family have there own business in which I work part-time. The business is such that it is basically impossible to replace me without my parents doing the work, which I do not want them to do.

At the same time, I want to move to be with my girlfriend who also teaches (and is Korean) English.

What the hell to do?

Advice would be great...

Toby · Joined: 15 Jan 2003 Location: Wedded Bliss

Hey Mum. Hey Dad. How's it going? Got some news. Great news actually. I am going to teach in Korea. I will let you know when I get there when the best time for you to come and visit will be. Sounds like a good job. I can always come back if it doesn't work out. Leaving in a few weeks.

just because · Joined: 01 Aug 2003 Location: Changwon - 4964

In my situation my parents know me too well to say no.

They know I'm an international traveller with wonderlust in my eye, so they just said good luck. Been in and out of Australia at least a dozen times.

The first time was a little hard, I was 15 but since they knew I had a good head on my shoulders it all worked out for the best.

In your situation i'm not sure what you should do. Your parents have to realize I suppose that you have to press forth with your path in life and just let you be for a while. Sure they will be dissapointed at first (maybe even a little angry) but if they have your best intentions at heart they'll let it be eventually.
I would recommend just do it because if you don't come and see what might be you will always be wondering. Even if it doesn't work out at least you will know and I can be sure you will a little more wiser and smarter in your ways of the world.

Cheyne · Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Location: Ilsan

Just Because thanks for the advice mate.

I am going to Seoul at the end of next week for close to a month to really decide on what to do....

I am coming back to Australia after a month though...

Also, my father really wants me to take over the business and I do too but I feel as if I am being pressured into it too early....

djsmnc · Joined: 20 Jan 2003 Location: Dave's ESL Cafe

Dad, please can I go? Please?

Mom, no, you don't need to pack a lunch for me, I'll be gone for a year. Hmm...I don't know if they have Sesame Street there....Whoa, I hear the ice cream truck, please can I have some money?

Independent decisions require independent minds...

peppermint · Posted: Wed Mar 10, 2004 7:34 pm Post subject:

Well, make sure that your parents know how you feel about the family business and all. Just let them know that before you can settle down and take over the family business, this is something that you feel you need to do.

Swiss James · Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai

I agree with Peppermint, if you give them a definite plan of why you're doing this and a pretty solid idea of when you'll be back I can't see how any reasonable parent could object.
Of course if they're unreasonable I guess you might have to start getting crafty

Sarah-in-Korea · Joined: 20 Aug 2003

A year isn't very long. After you go the hole you leave will be absorbed by those around you and soon enough they will cope just fine. Then before you know it it'll be time to head back and you'll be able to step into the life you want knowing that you tried something you wanted to do. You wouldn't want to take on more responsibility then not be able to get away in the future because then you'll end up resenting your parents. Also you can tell them that this is an awesome opportunity for you to experience your girlfriends culture. Surely they'll appreciate that.

Live the life you choose bro. It'll make everyone happier in the end.

SiK

Cheyne · Joined: 12 Feb 2004 Location: Ilsan

Thanks for all the advice guys, I will take it all on board...

Bloody looking forward to going to Korea....

sadsac · Joined: 22 Dec 2003 Location: Gwangwang

It's a tough choice, your parents rely on you, yet you want to pursue a life outside of the family. As we all do. Look for some options in regard to replacing yourself. Check out some links with government websites and see if your parents' business qualifies for a traineeship or some form of employment subsidy. That may give you an excellent opportunity to pursue your desire to work with your GF in Korea. All the best. Smile

Alias · Joined: 24 Jan 2003

Was this a big issue for many people?

My parents were thrilled that I was finally leaving the damn house!

oneiros · Joined: 19 Aug 2003 Location: Villa Straylight

Go to a country experiencing major civil unrest first. That way, when you tell them you're moving to Korea, they'll be overjoyed. Worked wonders for me...

Seriously, I've also been lucky that my parents have always been really supportive of my relocations. I do have siblings back home, though, so I guess that takes some of the pressure off of me.