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curiousaboutkorea · Joined: 21 Jan 2009

Only been dating 6 weeks. Her mom (haven't met the parents) knows about me. The 'M' word is already getting tossed around. In Korean terms, she's of that age (though I'm still about 5 years before that time). I think she's getting pressure from her parents, though I feel she, herself, doesn't want to rush it. The 'M' word is not something I'd rule out forever, but jeez, it's just so soon.

Louis VI · Joined: 05 Jul 2010 Location: In my Kingdom

Megook?

WadRUG'naDoo · Joined: 15 Jun 2010 Location: Shanghai

Milk? I obscenity in thy milk?

catman · Joined: 18 Jul 2004

Masterbation? Confused

Globutron · Joined: 13 Feb 2010 Location: England/Anyang

M-theory is an extension of string theory in which 11 dimensions are identified. Because the dimensionality exceeds the dimensionality of superstring theories in 10 dimensions, it is believed that the 11-dimensional theory unites all five string theories (and supersedes them).

curiousaboutkorea · Joined: 21 Jan 2009

Alright, alright, enough Laughing

. I'll say it. Marriage Shocked

WadRUG'naDoo · Joined: 15 Jun 2010 Location: Shanghai

Oh, yeah. Masochism.

RMNC · Joined: 21 Jul 2010

If you're not ready for it, don't do it. If she's going to be controlled by her parents into getting married and leaves you because you're not ready, then it's not meant to be. If she can wait, despite her parent's influence, then she's a keeper, obviously.

You know the answer to this one. Stand your ground. I mean, you've only been going out 6 weeks. Rushed marriages are what leads to so much infidelity, wife-beating, and unhappy ajummas in Korea.

GoldSoundz · Joined: 12 Jun 2008 Location: Pohang

Somebody misspelled "masturbation".

Yeah, I had a coworker looking for marriage after a few months. After a certain age (we'll say 30), they look for the following:

1) Man with a pulse
2) Man unmarried, currently
3) Man heterosexual

(Actually, they may be willing to compromise on number 3.)

If I am just a candidate for pleasing their parents, I move on or get to know them better, at best.

If you aren't ready NOW, let 'em know. You don't have to say "no", but let 'em know you don't roll so quickly. If you don't want marriage don't lead her/him on. Just send 'em a card when they get married a few months later to whomever was willing to jump in blindly.

Happens all the time.