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Louis VI
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
Location: In my Kingdom
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| loveless wrote: |
| i miss my exwife even though she wont have anything at all to do with me... |
THAT is the source of your emotion. You really need to take a time out. I jumped into another relationship after my first love and I broke up, and that was a mistake. I learned from that and when later my second love and I broke up (she and I were married for five years), I refused to give in to rebound feelings and instead told myself to take some time instead of running into a new thing blind and needy. It's no good for anyone if you're desperate. I took one year off dating and it was the best decision. By the end of the year I was no longer an emotional mess and really level headed about how I felt and what I wanted and didn't want.
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| ... am i still worthy of being loved? perhaps that whats im asking...sorry for asking but wanted to know...can i be loved? |
 I don't understand this sentiment at all. Of course you're worthy of being loved. Where does that come from? Did you do something really bad that you can't forgive yourself for? Were you abused as a child or neglected by both parents? Really, that question you ask seems to have nothing to do with the matter at hand, except that it hints at underlying relationship or identity issues. Address them.
Whatever you do, you should know your feelings for that young woman are more about YOU than about her at this stage.
Good luck whatever. |
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Gom
Joined: 05 Oct 2010
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| Posted: Sun Oct 17, 2010 9:46 pm Post subject: |
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frNpdG4F9mw
This is a real love song.
As already stated, love and infatuation are two very different things. Similar? Yes, infatuation may evolve in to feelings of love, but they are truly not one and the same.
However, this is an INCREDIBLY subjective thing. We tend to dance around the semantics of things far too much and ignore passionate instinct. If you truly feel that you love this girl, then who am I to tell you that you are wrong? It is not for me to decide. Go with it, ride the tide until the swell abates or you hit the rocks. Run with it until your feelings disperse.
But remember one thing: Have fun. |
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conrad2
Joined: 05 Nov 2009
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le-paul
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
Location: dans la chambre
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 2:17 am Post subject: |
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id guess by the fact that youve posted on here (of all places) for advice on love, that you are looking for re-assurance that you are not doing anything immoral.
Id also guess that she must be about 16 and you are in you middle to late 30's? Shes probably a student in one of your classes who gives you more attention than the other girls?
Its called a mid life crisis - go and watch that movie with the rose petal and all that.
But dont worry, theres nothing wrong with wanting to _________ teenage girls - most people just dont act on it... |
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Globutron
Joined: 13 Feb 2010
Location: England/Anyang
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 3:26 am Post subject: |
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id guess by the fact that youve posted on here (of all places) for advice on love, that you are looking for re-assurance that you are not doing anything immoral.
Id also guess that she must be about 16 and you are in you middle to late 30's? Shes probably a student in one of your classes who gives you more attention than the other girls?
Its called a mid life crisis - go and watch that movie with the rose petal and all that.
But dont worry, theres nothing wrong with wanting to _________ teenage girls - most people just dont act on it... |
You know me so well. Although, remove the 1 from 16, and add it to the start of 30, and you'd be bang on. |
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Globutron
Joined: 13 Feb 2010
Location: England/Anyang
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 4:08 am Post subject: |
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| I was going for 130, but 40 is just as creepy. If not more so. |
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loveless
Joined: 27 Jul 2010
Location: love is a danger of a different kind...
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 5:44 am Post subject: |
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| le-paul wrote: |
id guess by the fact that youve posted on here (of all places) for advice on love, that you are looking for re-assurance that you are not doing anything immoral.
Id also guess that she must be about 16 and you are in you middle to late 30's? Shes probably a student in one of your classes who gives you more attention than the other girls?
Its called a mid life crisis - go and watch that movie with the rose petal and all that.
But dont worry, theres nothing wrong with wanting to _________ teenage girls - most people just dont act on it... |
she's 20 and i'm 40. oh, and she's taller than my handsome ass!  |
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Panda
Joined: 25 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 6:53 am Post subject: |
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| loveless wrote: |
| le-paul wrote: |
id guess by the fact that youve posted on here (of all places) for advice on love, that you are looking for re-assurance that you are not doing anything immoral.
Id also guess that she must be about 16 and you are in you middle to late 30's? Shes probably a student in one of your classes who gives you more attention than the other girls?
Its called a mid life crisis - go and watch that movie with the rose petal and all that.
But dont worry, theres nothing wrong with wanting to _________ teenage girls - most people just dont act on it... |
she's 20 and i'm 40. oh, and she's taller than my handsome ass! |
It's not love, its admiration and worship
You think its love because it feels similar to love (just imagine if you won a lottery, it would be the same feeling). I mean, the chemical reaction inside our body is similar, its the happy hormones, such as dopamine, endorphin. We are easily fascinated by people out of our league because they are someone unexpected. Good surprise always makes us happy. Is it love????? maybe you define me the expire date of love first.
You dont have to differentiate what the happiness is from though, as long as it's not harmful to others and yourself.
If you worry too much, you can always go for some other safer joyness. |
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Globutron
Joined: 13 Feb 2010
Location: England/Anyang
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:44 am Post subject: |
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| Chuh, Love is just a survival instinct, elaborated with our bigger brains. We don't need it now because we can just copulate with anything at will. Death to love! |
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rockymtn
Joined: 01 Oct 2010
Location: USA
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 12:48 pm Post subject: |
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| You've gone through the Big "D". Your next relationship will most likely be a rebound. You are too used to being with one woman. Get out there and date. Do not! I repeat do NOT get married! You need some time off and some much needed fun. 40 isn't old, get out there, have fun & date many girls! |
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loveless
Joined: 27 Jul 2010
Location: love is a danger of a different kind...
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| Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 11:37 pm Post subject: |
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| rockymtn wrote: |
| You've gone through the Big "D". Your next relationship will most likely be a rebound. You are too used to being with one woman. Get out there and date. Do not! I repeat do NOT get married! You need some time off and some much needed fun. 40 isn't old, get out there, have fun & date many girls! |
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this is the best advice i have ever received in my entire handsome ass life! |
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SeoulFinn
Joined: 27 Feb 2006
Location: 1h from Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 1:34 am Post subject: |
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Based on my personal experiences, when SeoulFinn is in love or has a very strong crush, either of the following can and usually will happen:
a) she does not feel the same, or
b) she wants us to remain very very good and close friends.
Women are strange. Some of them are willing to jump between the sheets with a complete stranger and try to change the guy if he turns out to be complete BEEP, but someone they already trust, know well, and who has repeatedly been there for them in their hour of need, well, we tend to stay in the "friends only" box.
(Sorry about the OT, but I just had the "b" discussion few days ago.) |
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interestedinhanguk
Joined: 23 Aug 2010
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| Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 3:55 am Post subject: |
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| Gotta know... You said you're older. Ages please. |
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cert43
Joined: 17 Jun 2010
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| Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 4:02 am Post subject: |
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If the sex is good,then mmm... 
Hell,after you have so many relationships go in the toliet,you
have to wonder if it's even worth it. 
Get yours and get out. |
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Illysook
Joined: 30 Jun 2008
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| Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 4:29 am Post subject: |
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Okay, I checked it out and I think it's quite lovely...now who wants to marry me?
Sorry, I couldn't resist. |
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