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crazylemongirl



Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 6:05 pm    Post subject: God I hate the hitting Reply with quote

I really hate watching kids getting hit. I just saw a kid get hit over the head with a wooden stick multiple times. I know he did something wrong but I really don't think he would have done anything to warrant that. Am I too soft?
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sadsac



Joined: 22 Dec 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 6:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

No, you are not to soft. It's interesting that under Korean law it is illegal for teachers to hit kids but they are still doing it. We have some very wealthy Korean friends and their daughter was telling us of instances where their teacher hit them, on one occasion with a broom handle and on the other occasion across the feet with the handle of a badminton raquet. We couldn't believe that the parents just accepted that kind of abuse and they replied that the children must have misbehaved to deserve the punishment. It was so common and they did not understand our horror at some teacher physically assaulting their students. Yet, the kids think this teacher is great. Got me baffled as to their way of thinking. Smile
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just because



Joined: 01 Aug 2003
Location: Changwon - 4964

PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 6:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't like abusive hitting(eg. with a broomstick) but I think a good hit is deserved every now and then.

I think in the west we have gone too far the other way and anything you do is abuse. I find that situation more ridiculous than the one we have here in Korea.

I'm definantly in support of the kid getting a good whack when they have done something wrong (now bring on the politically correct answers).
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Grotto



Joined: 21 Mar 2004

PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 6:58 pm    Post subject: hitting Reply with quote

while I do think that beating children is wrong I dont see anything wrong with a physical correction.

I find it interesting that as the 'adult' we are supposed to put up with rudeness, ignorance, and abuse when it comes from children but when we resort to capitol punishment it is labeled 'as child abuse'

I feel that at times it is necessary to use physical correction. I do think that all other methods should be exhausted first.

I have a student in one of my classes who is difficult to say the least....he is either autistic or borderline retarded. He is about 8 or 9 years old and often physically attacks other students..eg: choking, twisting arms behind backs, stabbing them with pencils, shit on a stick sticks, or throwing things. Basically he is a bully. I have tried time outs, yelling, talking, hands above heads, the korean teacher, the director and the owner. None of these have any effect,he comes back into class and resumes his behavior.

Now I send him to the bus driver, who takes the antenna of his cel-phone pulls it back and thwacks him right in the middle of his forehead...result I just have to threated to call Mr. Song and his behaviour is much better.

Find a Mr. Song
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Mr. Pink



Joined: 21 Oct 2003
Location: China

PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 7:02 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

sadsac wrote:
No, you are not to soft. It's interesting that under Korean law it is illegal for teachers to hit kids but they are still doing it. We have some very wealthy Korean friends and their daughter was telling us of instances where their teacher hit them, on one occasion with a broom handle and on the other occasion across the feet with the handle of a badminton raquet. We couldn't believe that the parents just accepted that kind of abuse and they replied that the children must have misbehaved to deserve the punishment. It was so common and they did not understand our horror at some teacher physically assaulting their students. Yet, the kids think this teacher is great. Got me baffled as to their way of thinking. Smile


THis topic has been done so many times.

Korean students know that 90% of their teachers use corporal punishment not out of anger, but to help the students. When I teacher has a class of 40-50 kids, reasoning or talking to the kid isn't going to set an example to the rest of the kids. Teachers usually hit the kids infront of the class for a reason: so they dont have to deal with the same problems over and over again.

CLG, hitting over the head is a bit over the top...I don't think you are too soft for cringing. I think there is a vast difference in whacking a kid on the feet (doesn't do any perm damage...short term pain) and whacking a kid on the head (could result in brain damage, or other long term damage).

Some teachers, and I'd say NOT the majority go too far in their responsibility to punish their students. IMO the head and private parts should be OFF limits.
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wylde



Joined: 14 Apr 2003

PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 7:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mr. Pink wrote:
Korean students know that 90% of their teachers use corporal punishment not out of anger, but to help the students. When I teacher has a class of 40-50 kids, reasoning or talking to the kid isn't going to set an example to the rest of the kids. Teachers usually hit the kids infront of the class for a reason: so they dont have to deal with the same problems over and over again.


well put

i had a new class this year of 1st grade high schoolers (36 in this class).. they were getting a bit noisy so i got a little angry.. a few minutes later a student was reading a newspaper, i told him to put it away, which he did and not 5 minutes later he was reading it again.. i took it off him and ripped it up.

he then ripped up the handout i had given, right in front of me..

i told him to go out and tell his homeroom teacher what had happened.. he refused.. i think he was just trying me out.. little shit

i said.. ok, last chance.
he didnt go so i went and got the homeroom teacher (i explained what happened).. this kid nearly shat.. i don't think he thought i was for real. anyways, they went out together and the student came back in about 10 minutes later.. you could tell he had been crying.. he stood at the front of the room and layed out this massive formal apology..

i think he had the shit kicked out of him.. anyways.. point being.. i have full respect of the all those students now.

i felt bad for him but..... i am the teacher, i have a responsibility to teach, they are students, they have a responsibility to learn. if i dont teach properly i will be punished.. maybe lose my job and income.. so, if they don't learn properly they also must be punished.. i am not 1 for hitting children but it seems sometimes that is the only language they understand
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crazylemongirl



Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 7:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

What's bizzare is that the kids seem to whinge and whine far more with my punishments than with the koreans. As I operate a demerit points system whereby each X on the board represents the number 10. At the end of the whole class they have to write a word or phrase however many times they have earned demerits. There is a huge hollering as the class is made responsible for their actions but a few classes have worked out that I give very little or no homework if they don't earn demerits. I had a horrible class come right after a few sessions of writing their name in english 100times for homework.

I think that coporal punishment is meated out a bit too regularly here, by both the teachers and the older students. Your right the topic has been done to death but I've only been here a few weeks and I have witnessed some stuff that would make even the strongest proponents of corpral punishment wince.
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FUBAR



Joined: 21 Oct 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 8:01 pm    Post subject: Re: God I hate the hitting Reply with quote

crazylemongirl wrote:
I really hate watching kids getting hit. I just saw a kid get hit over the head with a wooden stick multiple times. I know he did something wrong but I really don't think he would have done anything to warrant that. Am I too soft?


Yep. But maybe I am desensitized now.

I have seen: Knuckles to the head, paddles the butt, hands, calves. Sticks to the heels.

Now it doesn't even faze me anymore.
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rapier



Joined: 16 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 8:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

crazylemongirl wrote:
What's bizzare is that the kids seem to whinge and whine far more with my punishments than with the koreans. As I operate a demerit points system whereby each X on the board represents the number 10. At the end of the whole class they have to write a word or phrase however many times they have earned demerits. There is a huge hollering as the class is made responsible for their actions but a few classes have worked out that I give very little or no homework if they don't earn demerits. I had a horrible class come right after a few sessions of writing their name in english 100times for homework.

I think that coporal punishment is meated out a bit too regularly here, by both the teachers and the older students. Your right the topic has been done to death but I've only been here a few weeks and I have witnessed some stuff that would make even the strongest proponents of corpral punishment wince.


Its not bizarre. the kids whine and whinge more because they know they can get away with it....
As a hogwon clown, I've been kicked, bitten punched, dong chimmed and sworn at with every insult in the korean language. Of course it doesn't upset me too much because I know what kids are like and they will go as far as they can, exploring their world for boundaries.
I'm all in favor of corporal punishment. "Physical respect" goes hand in hand with verbal respect, and with learning. You don't learn much from someone you are allowed to disrespect... I'm afraid that we in the west have definitely become too soft. I'm not into brutalising kids, but there are instances where a child will only react positively to a caning or beating, and no amount of telling off or points, candies, etc will get the desired result.
However any corporal punishment that can physically damage a child, or is dangerous, unnacceptable.. , but, the cane/ ruler is fine to me...

It "amuses me" that korean parents allow corporal punishment in schools to control children, yet expect their kids to somehow be on their best behavior in hagwons- and will cry foul if a teacher so much as lays a finger on their darlings...yet we are supposed to submit to outrageous abuse from brats..
Bring back the cane...is all I can say...
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Mr. Pink



Joined: 21 Oct 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 8:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

wylde wrote:
Mr. Pink wrote:
Korean students know that 90% of their teachers use corporal punishment not out of anger, but to help the students. When I teacher has a class of 40-50 kids, reasoning or talking to the kid isn't going to set an example to the rest of the kids. Teachers usually hit the kids infront of the class for a reason: so they dont have to deal with the same problems over and over again.


well put

i had a new class this year of 1st grade high schoolers (36 in this class).. they were getting a bit noisy so i got a little angry.. a few minutes later a student was reading a newspaper, i told him to put it away, which he did and not 5 minutes later he was reading it again.. i took it off him and ripped it up.

he then ripped up the handout i had given, right in front of me..

i told him to go out and tell his homeroom teacher what had happened.. he refused.. i think he was just trying me out.. little *beep*

i said.. ok, last chance.
he didnt go so i went and got the homeroom teacher (i explained what happened).. this kid nearly shat.. i don't think he thought i was for real. anyways, they went out together and the student came back in about 10 minutes later.. you could tell he had been crying.. he stood at the front of the room and layed out this massive formal apology..

i think he had the *beep* kicked out of him.. anyways.. point being.. i have full respect of the all those students now.

i felt bad for him but..... i am the teacher, i have a responsibility to teach, they are students, they have a responsibility to learn. if i dont teach properly i will be punished.. maybe lose my job and income.. so, if they don't learn properly they also must be punished.. i am not 1 for hitting children but it seems sometimes that is the only language they understand


This story reminds me of my first year at my high school. I was new, the kids could smell the n00bie on me from the next room over. I would get so angry at them sometimes I'd get my supervisor, or their home room teacher. Tell ya usually they were good for the next month, but because I was so new, they would be back at it the next month.

Now I just don't put up with ANY crap and it is totally in my attitude. I think freshman are actually easier to control, as they are scared of being in high school and don't know how the system works...so once you lay down your ground rules, the kids listen.

I'd actually like to see what kind of kid would tear up a paper I had handed out.


CLG you get used to the corporal punishment that goes on. Either that or you don't stay at your school more than a year. Middle schools are the worst from what I hear. Maybe a boys technical high school might be worse...but not by much.
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rapier



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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 8:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

CLG if you actually quit, PM me, I'd love to work somewhere with basic disciplinary support...
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Cheyne



Joined: 12 Feb 2004
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 10:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

When I was at high school I had a teacher throw a chair at me....

Needless to say, I was a perfect angel after that!
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crazylemongirl



Joined: 23 Mar 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 11:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

here's the thing, despite my boys being a handful at times (as only a room of 40 teenage boys can) I actually really like them and I really enjoy teaching them (even the 3rd years). I love their creativity and energy. A bad day here is a lot better than a good day at my old hogwon.

I don't put up with any crap and my students are learning the hard way that if they act up then they will suffer the consequences, they may be immediate in the form of time standing in the hall but I also like my demerit system because there is a degree of peer control and if they don't do it with me then I have no problem with making them do it in the staff room during lunch time.

My kids already know if I find a cellphone it's mine, if they pass a note i read out the note as a declaration of love for me (embarssment is great teacher!)

I just really don't like the level of physical violence that goes on here. I have to learn to tolerate it but it doesn't mean I enjoy seeing a kid getting smack across the head.
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Saxiif



Joined: 15 May 2003
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PostPosted: Thu Mar 25, 2004 11:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I find myself getting crankier and crankier as I learn more and more of what the kids say to me.

But as far as corporal punishment goes, I generally like the "kneeling with your hands in the air" thing more as it takes the little bastards out of comission for a while. The closest I come to corporal punishment is punitive tickling for some of the kindy kids.
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rapier



Joined: 16 Feb 2003

PostPosted: Fri Mar 26, 2004 1:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A quick simple beating with whatever, would alleviate the need for all the threats, manipulations, confiscations, mind games etc that teachers have to constantly come up with and diversify... it would leave teachers free to concentrate on teaching well behaved students. Not spending 10 minutes at the start of each class trying to get them to sit down...
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