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toonchoon
Joined: 06 Feb 2009
Location: Gangnam
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 Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 10:42 am Post subject: Korean wives charging husbands for sex |
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Maybe posted before...
Blog post here - could be a bunch of hot air, but probably not 
http://busanmike.blogspot.com/2007/12/sex-love-marriage.html
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Sex, Love & Marriage
So, this comes as a bit of a revelation. We're tagging along with some ajummas and, probably forgetting our presence, one of them starts talking about how much she charges her husband for sex when she's not in the mood. Erm, sorry, what?
Demonstrating a complete lack of shock her companions chimed in with their rates - 300,000 won (about �161) seemed to be the going rate although 1,000,000 won (about �538) was not unheard of, under which circumstances a major shopping trip usually followed the next day.
The thinking among the assembled ajummas was that it was better that they acquiesced to their husbands' appetites and compromised by imposing a charge rather than have their husband paying someone else, which was all very well and good for the ajummas, but it didn't look like such a good deal for their partners, considering the alternatives were probably a bit cheaper and more entertaining. Had we just bumped into a Korean version of the women from Sex and the City? Apparently not, because discrete enquiries afterwards suggested that this is not an unfamiliar concept to some older Korean women, and for the most part it really is a business transaction rather than a way of spicing up their sex lives.
Perhaps this is a reflection on an previously emancipated female society, which in Korea's rapid transition to Asia's third biggest economy has suddenly found itself emboldened to make previously unthinkable demands in return for what was formerly seen as a wife's 'duty'. At the same time, the legacy of hundreds of years of tradition mean that divorce still carries a considerable social stigma among certain age-groups, although this is beginning to change. For example, I heard the story of a man who had a job where he was respected in his organisation, and who believed that if he divorced it would reflect so badly on him and affect his career that the option was just unthinkable. By the same token, many wives amongst the older generations didn't work once they had children, giving them limited financial independence. It conspires to create a large number of people who are stuck in marriages they feel they are compelled to maintain because of complex social and financial circumstances. Perhaps this goes at least a little way towards explaining why charging your husband or paying your wife for sex goes on amongst some couples here. |
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highstreet
Joined: 13 Nov 2010
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 11:29 am Post subject: |
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The comments are pretty funny.
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| This is amazing O_o I never thought that something like that could exist in the korean society. We never stop learning! |
Yes, because some guy on the internet claims to have overheard a conversation, it must be real. |
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toonchoon
Joined: 06 Feb 2009
Location: Gangnam
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 1:46 pm Post subject: |
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| highstreet wrote: |
The comments are pretty funny.
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| This is amazing O_o I never thought that something like that could exist in the korean society. We never stop learning! |
Yes, because some guy on the internet claims to have overheard a conversation, it must be real. |
i wouldn't be surprised if it was real. |
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Radius
Joined: 20 Dec 2009
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 3:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Screw that, the hookers are 70% cheaper. |
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D.D.
Joined: 29 May 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 3:34 pm Post subject: |
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| Radius wrote: |
| Screw that, the hookers are 70% cheaper. |
and hotter |
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hondaicivic
Joined: 01 Jul 2010
Location: Daegu, South Korea
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 3:40 pm Post subject: |
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| D.D. wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
| Screw that, the hookers are 70% cheaper. |
and hotter |
+1... |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 4:29 pm Post subject: |
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This is another in a long line of stories Westerners tend to do about other cultures- Some anecdotal story (that may or may not be translated/taken out of context) is grabbed by some "journalist" and turned into a story that declares it a cultural trend.
You'll see these kinds of stories all the time about people from Thailand or Peru or Zaire and some weird social custom that is done by a half dozen people is branded upon the entire society. |
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travel zen
Joined: 22 Feb 2005
Location: Good old Toronto, Canada
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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^ +1
Yup. Korea seems to get alot of that.
Last year, they were talking about doctors and lawyers swaping mates in orgies...becasue they were bored. When these pillars of society were arrested, they wanted to sue the police for interfering in their private business. |
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chellovek
Joined: 29 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 4:54 pm Post subject: |
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| Steelrails wrote: |
This is another in a long line of stories Westerners tend to do
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...... that is done by a half dozen people is branded upon the entire society. |
Yes, it is. |
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Louis VI
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
Location: In my Kingdom
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 5:11 pm Post subject: |
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Maybe among thirtysomethings but such a thing flies in the face of what Koreans themselves have told me over the years:
1. Korean men handing over their paycheques to their wives as a matter of tradition and getting money back for, among other things, nights out including prostitutes (even if superficially hidden as expenses of nights out with the guys);
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2. Korean women reach ajumma status by their forties, are joked about by Korean men as being 'it' not 'she' and that a married man OF COURSE goes outside of marriage for sex when in his forties. |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 5:24 pm Post subject: |
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| chellovek wrote: |
| Steelrails wrote: |
This is another in a long line of stories Westerners tend to do
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...... that is done by a half dozen people is branded upon the entire society. |
Yes, it is. |
touche, I should have clarified Western Journalists...
Although I should say that probably journalists of all countries do this.
I'd bet a million bucks Korean journalists, Peruvian journalists, and Ethiopian journalists all do the "Weird people from such and such a country are an example of that culture" stories for their newspapers. |
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chellovek
Joined: 29 Feb 2008
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 5:41 pm Post subject: |
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| Steelrails wrote: |
| chellovek wrote: |
| Steelrails wrote: |
This is another in a long line of stories Westerners tend to do
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...... that is done by a half dozen people is branded upon the entire society. |
Yes, it is. |
touche, I should have clarified Western Journalists...
Although I should say that probably journalists of all countries do this.
I'd bet a million bucks Korean journalists, Peruvian journalists, and Ethiopian journalists all do the "Weird people from such and such a country are an example of that culture" stories for their newspapers. |
hahaha, aye I knew that was what you meant, I was just teasing you |
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oldfatfarang
Joined: 19 May 2005
Location: On the road to somewhere.
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 7:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Louis VI wrote: |
2. Korean women reach ajumma status by their forties, are joked about by Korean men as being 'it' not 'she' and that a married man OF COURSE goes outside of marriage for sex when in his forties. |
This might not be Korean specific. It could be an Asian culture thing. I've read many times about Thai wives just closing up at 40 years old. Poor old western hubbie hasn't been expecting this - and is deeply shocked and hurt. In contrast, Thai husbands know the score - and play away after 40. |
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conrad2
Joined: 05 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 9:41 pm Post subject: |
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| D.D. wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
| Screw that, the hookers are 70% cheaper. |
and hotter |
And hookers leave. |
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Caffeinated
Joined: 11 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Tue Jan 11, 2011 9:55 pm Post subject: |
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| conrad2 wrote: |
| D.D. wrote: |
| Radius wrote: |
| Screw that, the hookers are 70% cheaper. |
and hotter |
And hookers leave. |
And the hooker doesn't have to be Korean.  |
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