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Raptorboy0
Joined: 23 Jan 2006
Location: Daegu
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 Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 12:53 am Post subject: What to do with your long-term Korean girlfriend? |
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| I've been dating a Korean woman for several years now, and we are both trying to find a way to stay together but work outside of Korea. I'm curious to know how some other couples handled this? Oh and I'm American, which means it's extremely difficult for her to live in the US with me long term. We did the working holiday visa thing in Australia for a while, but I'm not so keen on spending the next couple years being migrant labor. What kind of work have you and your Korean lady been able to find in your home country or in a third country neither of you are from? |
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gogophoto
Joined: 20 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 1:07 am Post subject: Re: What to do with your long-term Korean girlfriend? |
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| Raptorboy0 wrote: |
| I've been dating a Korean woman for several years now, and we are both trying to find a way to stay together but work outside of Korea. I'm curious to know how some other couples handled this? Oh and I'm American, which means it's extremely difficult for her to live in the US with me long term. We did the working holiday visa thing in Australia for a while, but I'm not so keen on spending the next couple years being migrant labor. What kind of work have you and your Korean lady been able to find in your home country or in a third country neither of you are from? |
If you want to stay together when moving to another country, I believe everything is greatly simplified after you get married. Hey, you HAVE been together for several years now. |
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Milwaukiedave
Joined: 02 Oct 2004
Location: Goseong
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 1:28 am Post subject: |
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| Getting married would simplify things. It seems like you are asking if there is any other option. The only one I can think of is if she found a job that would sponsor her visa. That seems unlikely. If you are sure you want to move back to the US, marriage would be the way to go. That being said, the process is complex, time consuming and expensive. |
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jrwhite82
Joined: 22 May 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 1:33 am Post subject: |
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Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already!
You have limited options:
1 - Get married
2 - She comes on a work visa
3 - She comes on a student visa (but I think she can't work -legally- if she is doing that)
4 - Isn't there some kind of fiance visa she can get? That way she can try out the US and get a feel for it long term (2 years I think) before making a decision, but it gives you some time to think about marriage.
5 - She comes on a tourist visa and stays illegally...(not recommended) |
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gogophoto
Joined: 20 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 1:42 am Post subject: |
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Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already!
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Exactly what came to my mind... |
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akcrono
Joined: 11 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 2:00 am Post subject: |
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Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already!
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Exactly what came to my mind... |
I thought this was about what kind of work one can get, not "hey, judge me by my marital status." Marriage is the 2nd most important decision in one's life (the first is having children). Pretty stupid to just rush that for a visa, especially before anyone has gotten a feel for their new living situation.
Wish I had something to contribute OP. People w/ Korean language ability aren't very valuable outside of Korea. I suspect I'll be going through the same thing you are in about a year. |
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Drew10
Joined: 31 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 4:16 am Post subject: |
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| jrwhite82 wrote: |
Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already!
You have limited options:
1 - Get married
2 - She comes on a work visa
3 - She comes on a student visa (but I think she can't work -legally- if she is doing that)
4 - Isn't there some kind of fiance visa she can get? That way she can try out the US and get a feel for it long term (2 years I think) before making a decision, but it gives you some time to think about marriage.
5 - She comes on a tourist visa and stays illegally...(not recommended) |
The fiancee visa is good for 90 days, then you have to get married and adjust status. The spouse visa is good for 2 years after which you have to adjust status as well.
By adjust status I mean apply for a greencard. While the fiancee visa is 90 days and it takes much much longer to get married and get status adjusted, your spouse's status in the U.S is considered legal.
The whole getting a greencard process is long and expensive. So those wishing to take their foreign spouses to the U.S should keep that in mind. |
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gogophoto
Joined: 20 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 4:49 am Post subject: |
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| akcrono wrote: |
| gogophoto wrote: |
| jrwhite82 wrote: |
Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already!
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Exactly what came to my mind... |
I thought this was about what kind of work one can get, not "hey, judge me by my marital status." Marriage is the 2nd most important decision in one's life (the first is having children). Pretty stupid to just rush that for a visa, especially before anyone has gotten a feel for their new living situation.
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I agree that it is not something to be considered lightly; but neither is moving across the world with your significant other. And I think that any relationship that has lasted "several" years should have a long, hard look at the option. I mean, is he really going to give this commitment, or retain the option to dodge out when things get tough? Several years is no small amount of time, and at some point a person needs to take a hard look at himself and the woman he's with and ask himself: should I $4!t or get off the pot? |
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seoul777
Joined: 03 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 5:30 am Post subject: |
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get married. every married couple i know are very happy.
also, should have asked yourself this question after having an international gf for any appreciable period of time. |
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Vagabundo
Joined: 26 Aug 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 6:01 am Post subject: |
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get married. every married couple i know are very happy. |
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| Yeah, $#!& or get off the pot already! |
WTF is this?
the marriage glorification thread/forum?
either answer the OP's question or STFU.
maybe he/she doesn't want to get married. Maybe they want to live together in "sin". 
I didn't see anything in the OP soliticing opinions on whether he should get married or not. |
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jrwhite82
Joined: 22 May 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 6:13 am Post subject: |
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Wow, people totally don't get a joke on this forum....
Let's all focus on one sentence and ignore my 4 other helpful options that I gave the OP while claiming I did nothing to help him....  |
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seoul777
Joined: 03 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 6:26 am Post subject: |
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i was also kidding. the phrasing of the thread just begs for it.
i was originally gonna go with they have great resale value so dont worry, but didnt want to cause a stroke. |
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redaxe
Joined: 01 Dec 2008
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 7:30 am Post subject: |
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| Get married or dump her, those are your two options. You've had plenty of time to test-drive her, now make a decision. |
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50ptoes
Joined: 05 Jan 2011
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 9:24 am Post subject: |
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| have you considered teaching in another location? china, japan, etc.? What are her qualifications, if any? How good is her English? |
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tiger fancini
Joined: 21 Mar 2006
Location: Testicles for Eyes
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| Posted: Mon Feb 14, 2011 12:49 pm Post subject: |
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| redaxe wrote: |
| Get married or dump her, those are your two options. You've had plenty of time to test-drive her, now make a decision. |
It's highly likely that, by this point, she is expecting the first of your two options to happen. |
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