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[daisydew]

So a friend of mine and I were having a chat today about the dating scene in Korea. We were trying to figure out where the best places to find a guy to date would be- online dating sites, friend of friend, work, online groups, etc. She has an expiration date that is coming up (even though she is younger than I am, ha) and is slightly concerned that she won't be able to find the person to marry, or at least a boyfriend in Korea. I just told her that I guess it depends on if she's strictly looking for westerners or if she's open to dating Koreans as well. She's up for either, but not up for the korean guys who want her to cook and clean all day (i know, that's stereotyping)

Anyway, it got me thinking too (since it seems like I've been single forever) where can we find some nice gentlemen to at least have a conversation with? Are we just not going out enough? (She's been going out, I really haven't been) or are we going to the wrong places? Is this all pointless and should we put it on hold until we go back home? haha

It seems like guys who come to Korea do pretty well for themselves, most getting a Korean gf. I've met a lot more single lady teachers, compared to guys. what do you think?

[hondaicivic]

[daisydew]

actually she's blonde haired, blue eyed, but i'm a halfie so i understand where you're coming from. it's a weird middle category.

[Zackback]

Are you two hot?

[Radius]

[Mr. Peabody]

[daisydew]

Radius- yes that's what I am.

I dont like complimenting myself but I'd at least say we are both easy on the eyes. So what are we doing wrong?

[ldh2222]

[Zackback]

Be more assertive with men. Don't play these hard to get games. Just be up front from the get-go.
Wear a good amount of make-up and dress sexy...not slutty.

[ldh2222]

[sadguy]

[tatertot]

Join a group or club. There are a bunch of meetup groups based in Seoul, or if you're into running you could join the Seoul Flyers or one of the Hash House Harriers groups in Seoul. If you're based outside of Seoul, but in another big city, you should still be able to find a group or club. The bonus to this method is that even if you don't find a boyfriend, you will still be having fun.

[decolyon]

I think you can meet good guys anywhere. Coffee shop, book store, gym, Korean language class, day tour groups. Just not bars. I find it hard to take bar girls seriously unless I knew them before the bar.

The more important issue is that you have to try harder than you do back home. Seriously look at your competition. It's hard for Western guys to not fall for Korean girls. They're kind (at least at the start), soft, thin, dress well, take a lot of time with hair/make up, proper acting in public and bit wild in private (guys really love that actually.) They're considerate as well. Meaning they don't object to giving a little shoulder rub after a long day or work. They cook not because we tell them, but because they want to. They'll even clean up a little bit around the place once they're comfortable.

If there was once piece of advice I could pass on to Western (especially American) women in Korea: it's to take yourself off your high horse. I know I personally can not stand a woman who thinks I'm supposed to go out of my way to please her simply because she has a v*****. The arrogance of American women is what turns me off. Their need to "compete" with me for power in the relationship. And their selfishness. If I buy flowers for an American girl or pay the dinner ticket in full, I won't get a word of thanks and then she'll be a tease when it comes time to call it a night. A Korean girl may not let me round the bases on the first or second date, but every time I do something nice for her, even like holding the door or her chair, I always get a thank you from her. As if she wasn't expecting me to put myself out for her in any way (and it can be argued after dating Korean men, why should she?)

American men match well with East Asian women because all our lives we've been taught to at least attempt to be gentlemen but expect the bare minimum or very little at all in return for it. Buy her flowers, open the door, pay the full ticket, listen while she rambles on about the dullest things, and maybe, just maybe you'll get laid. But right after you're finished she's going to expect you to fix something around the house or at the very least take out the trash and wash the dishes.

Well bullocks to that.

I'd rather be with someone that I don't communicate as well with, but she appreciates (and expresses that appreciation) for even the smallest of things I do for her. And in return, she takes the time and effort into making herself pretty and attractive for me. Both groups (Korean women and American men) have been trained to give and expect nothing back. So when we meet each other and we both give and appreciate the other doing for us... it's hard to ever look back.

[ESL Milk "Everyday]

My advice is to post your photo on Dave's and send flirty private messages to Zackback.

[hondaicivic]