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anbrainblasta
Joined: 14 Feb 2009
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 1:41 pm Post subject: I want to be your friend |
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So I'm minding my own business in the pc bang and an agoshi plonks down beside me with and wastes no time in telling me he wants to be my friend.
I was in an horrendously good mood beforehand and just didn't have the heart to fob him off.
Now that a polar cyclehas been completed in my head I know Im just going to be giving unpaid conversation classes.
So any advice on how to shake the korean male 'friend' would be very welcome
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carleverson
Joined: 04 Dec 2009
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 4:07 pm Post subject: |
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and Korean women are different?
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Son Deureo!
Joined: 30 Apr 2003
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 5:58 pm Post subject: |
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Did you give him your phone number? If you did, he'll probably still get bored of you within a few weeks.
If that doesn't work and you really don't want to hang out with the guy, make excuses, ignore his calls, and get an internet connection at home instead of hanging out in nasty PC bangs. |
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nukeday
Joined: 13 May 2010
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 7:38 pm Post subject: |
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i know you were in a good mood, but when anyone other than a cute non-christian korean girl sits down next to you, just say no.
happened to me the other day. i'm sitting on the bus, with my headphones on, and some guy CHANGES HIS SEAT to sit next to me. i ignore the guy, because i have my goddamn headphones on! but he taps my shoulder and gets me to take them out.
"excuse me...can i speak to you"
"uh...."
"no?"
"right. no."
speaking to strangers, for koreans, is DEVIANT behavior. remember that this person is a deviant and tell them no. they think they can get away with it because you're a foreigner. what would a korean do? it's as simple as that. |
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Vix
Joined: 18 Jun 2010 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Sat May 28, 2011 10:56 pm Post subject: |
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Lol this happens to me a lot. I look nicer than I am . I either pretend to be French/Spanish or show them my scary Japanese bf and tell them sorry but he wouldn't like it  |
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ldh2222
Joined: 12 Oct 2007
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 1:39 am Post subject: |
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"Why won't Koreans talk to me?" >> because I'm a foreigner.
"Why are Koreans talking to me?" >> because I'm a foreigner.
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robinsoncrusoe
Joined: 22 Jan 2010
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 8:21 am Post subject: |
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tell him you're gay. |
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soupsandwich
Joined: 20 May 2011
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 8:35 am Post subject: |
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Geez, guys......not showing a lot of enthusiasm for living in a foreign country, eh? |
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anbrainblasta
Joined: 14 Feb 2009
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 9:52 am Post subject: |
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tell him you're gay.
I thought of this but then reckoned I might be safer to say Im into animals.
Surely he's not into dog or pig love????????? |
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nukeday
Joined: 13 May 2010
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 10:23 am Post subject: |
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soupsandwich wrote: |
Geez, guys......not showing a lot of enthusiasm for living in a foreign country, eh? |
Interacting with strangers/deviants is not part of the living in Korea experience. |
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Gnawbert

Joined: 23 Oct 2007 Location: The Internet
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 7:45 pm Post subject: |
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nukeday wrote: |
soupsandwich wrote: |
Geez, guys......not showing a lot of enthusiasm for living in a foreign country, eh? |
Interacting with strangers/deviants is not part of the living in Korea experience. |
It may not be part of the experience I imagined, but it has definitely been part of the experience, if that makes sense. Maybe it's living in Gangwon-do, but my girlfriend and I are freakin' magnets for Watchtower enthusiasts and the mentally ill. Usually a polite "I'm an atheist" ends the conversation, but we've definitely been followed, bothered, and all around creeped out by a few of the odder nuts.
I vaguely remember something in a psychology class a long time ago where they discussed how particular types of people with a mental illness might fixate on something that's very different or unusual, and I can't imagine something more unusual than two blonde haired blue eyed waegs with California smiles in a sea of dark hair. Even had one guy the other week follow us all through HomePlus (while drinking straight from a KGB vodka), into the restroom where he offered me some KGB Vodka (!?), out to the taxi stand, and then try to find out where we lived from the taxi driver. Dude was freakin' HUGE too so it was a bit unsettling. |
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ssuprnova
Joined: 17 Dec 2010 Location: Saigon
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 8:57 pm Post subject: |
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Gnawbert wrote: |
nukeday wrote: |
soupsandwich wrote: |
Geez, guys......not showing a lot of enthusiasm for living in a foreign country, eh? |
Interacting with strangers/deviants is not part of the living in Korea experience. |
It may not be part of the experience I imagined, but it has definitely been part of the experience, if that makes sense. Maybe it's living in Gangwon-do, but my girlfriend and I are freakin' magnets for Watchtower enthusiasts and the mentally ill. Usually a polite "I'm an atheist" ends the conversation, but we've definitely been followed, bothered, and all around creeped out by a few of the odder nuts.
I vaguely remember something in a psychology class a long time ago where they discussed how particular types of people with a mental illness might fixate on something that's very different or unusual, and I can't imagine something more unusual than two blonde haired blue eyed waegs with California smiles in a sea of dark hair. Even had one guy the other week follow us all through HomePlus (while drinking straight from a KGB vodka), into the restroom where he offered me some KGB Vodka (!?), out to the taxi stand, and then try to find out where we lived from the taxi driver. Dude was freakin' HUGE too so it was a bit unsettling. |
This. I don't mind chatting with some friendly ajosshis over makkeoli while hiking. But the drunk/crazy/rude ajosshis in the subway are a whole different story. If you make the mistake of answering them once they'll keep pestering you for the rest of your trip. Ugh.
Also, to *soupsandwich* there's nothing wrong with chatting but most of these random conversations with normal Koreans end in "Can you come to my house and teach little Mi-na English on your free days? We'll cook kimchi jjigae". |
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The Great Toad
Joined: 12 Jun 2004
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 9:16 pm Post subject: |
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At first years ago I was kind and friendly back to all in Korea- however in time you learn NOT to taek offered drinks or foods from strange persons as this gives them rights to be your new friend and advisor... So now when I stop for a bit on a bike tour and some person(s) offer me food I refuse - unless it is old women or silly children or perhaps parents - but never will I any longer take gifts from Korean guys who I do not know. There was this old guy I was friendly with in turn who I would greet and at first I did not know he was a drunk - but later (too late ) I found this to be the case and had no end of foolish drunk guy bother - the guy ended up going to outside my apartment building police were called and bonked him a bit when he refused to be taken home in their car- kind of sad police donking a drunk 55 year-old-man about though... Ihave no pronlem with silly kids being 'friends' withme- like today the smae cute kid waved and said 'hi' to me when I was going to work - but of course kids can't be drunk and threatening here like good ole boys. |
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young_clinton
Joined: 09 Sep 2009
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Posted: Sun May 29, 2011 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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robinsoncrusoe wrote: |
tell him you're gay. |
What if he says, I'm gay too. |
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MollyBloom

Joined: 21 Jul 2006 Location: James Joyce's pants
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Posted: Mon May 30, 2011 6:38 am Post subject: |
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At least some drunk guy didn't walk up to your husband and hug him so tenderly for about 40 seconds on the subway... |
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