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eamo
Joined: 08 Mar 2003
Location: Shepherd's Bush, 1964.
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Yeah, I wouldn't advise going out to bars to meet people.......that seems old fashioned, awkward and a bit random now.
These days it's far better to go online and join groups which you share a mutual interest with. Or meet members of the opposite sex with online dating sites.
Much less work and far more efficient. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 4:36 pm Post subject: |
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| Really? When I go to Seoul, I notice women looking at me on the subway and even talking to me in some different stores. I'm not saying all, but definately some. I'm a 30's something guy with no armani suit. I don't project wealth. But, I will agree that booking clubs are to be avoided along with attractive women from really poor Asian families. They will suck you dry. |
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Rutherford
Joined: 31 Jul 2007
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Here's a compromise. Do the things you like to do, and meet people who are also doing things you like to do. You are likely to have much in common which is the basis for a new friendship.
For example, if you like to spend your time socializing in bars, then you will probably meet friends in bars.
If you don't like bars but enjoy hiking, then you will probably meet friends on a mountain or in a hiking group. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 4:44 pm Post subject: |
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I mean suck you dry financially.  (You're money will disappear so fast, then she'll be gone.)
But real money girls? Don't underestimate the ones working in hotel basements? Those girls are the true money whores. I stayed in a cheaper hotel for a few days booked online (90,000 won night) and saw many going up and down the elevator as I was going out through the evening. One even told me I was "Handsome" as she led her Ajossi to his floor. Yuck! Anyhew beware.
I'd say go for regular pretty women riding the subway in the evening. It mean they aren't "working girls". But beware where you go. Ha ha. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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I've done it a plenty. Sometimes failed, sometimes made new friends.
The key is to be very friendly, seem interested in what people have to say (even if it's kinda boring) until you can eventually get past that and get to know them.
It's rare that you'll make new friends on one night as people are busy trying to get laid, celebrate as friend's b'day etc etc. Though it has happened to me, but only with other single guys who were alone and in the same boat, but that's cool too.
You then turn up the next week, say hi to some of the same folks, invite them for a beer, or they invite you for a beer or to join the group and hey presto, after a month you have a new social group. That's how it goes down with me anyhow.
Good luck. |
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Trip
Joined: 28 Dec 2008
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| Joining an interest group and then going to the bars with them is usually a better way to meet people. Find an organization, team, or event to join. Toastmasters clubs are in many cities in Korea, though Ulsan people would have to get to one of the Busan clubs. |
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ThingsComeAround
Joined: 07 Nov 2008
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 9:44 pm Post subject: |
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I don't go to bars to meet people. People go to bars and meet me 
I've had so many strange memorable experiences.. 40's+ kimbap lady prowling for some fresh fish (ME) other 40's+ adjosshis coming up to me telling me the evils if intravenous marijuana  |
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Yaya
Joined: 25 Feb 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 10:49 pm Post subject: |
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Most of the time, I just like to chat with the person near or next to me and it ends there. Trying to be friends is dangerous -- friendships take time and effort and bars are often not the best places to find them.
That said, I have met a few good people that way so no way is a bad way, though I'm skeptical of meeting people at clubs. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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Another thing is choosing the right bar.
A cocktail bar = no.
It has to be more of a cosy 'regular's' type bar imo.
Somewhere where the same crowd turn up most nigths so that you can become part of the crowd.
No point trying to make friends in Gekkos or B1 for an itaewon example, but 3 Alley, Seoul pub, Nashville, more likely. |
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UlsanBoy
Joined: 19 Jun 2011
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Thanks for all the replies guys, it's not easy starting a new life some place new is it?  |
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jvalmer
Joined: 06 Jun 2003
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| This thread is hilarious. It seems a lot think they are placed pretty high on the Korean hierarchy. If you're not ethnically Korean you're pretty low on the ladder to begin with. |
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The Floating World
Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here
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| jvalmer wrote: |
| This thread is hilarious. It seems a lot think they are placed pretty high on the Korean hierarchy. If you're not ethnically Korean you're pretty low on the ladder to begin with. |
I think most of us were talking about making new foriegn friends. Thats the way it came accross.
For sure a few said being foriegn makes it easy to make korean friends (they just don't realise yet that a lot of those 'friendships' won't be full friendships in the western sense of the word, though I guess some will.) |
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sirius black
Joined: 04 Jun 2010
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| Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 9:36 am Post subject: Re: I Go Out To Bars Alone But I don't Meet People. |
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| UlsanBoy wrote: |
Everyone says that if you want to meet new peeps you got to drag yourself down to a bar. Well I did it and boy was it interesting. I went to bars in a foreign country very bravely on my own and other times with people.
WRONG!
all I meet were white dudes who wanted to kill me and Korean chicks who probably heard the $$$ sound the second I walked in the door.
Not to worry. Thanks to the internet and groups that organize via the net I'm having a great time and meeting lots of cool GENUINE people but I wish people would stop recommending bars to people as the place to go.
So am I right or wrong? Have you hit the bars on your own in Korea? What was your experience? |
Assuming you're in Ulsan going by your screen name. I've always heard Ulsan has a fairly close knit foreigner community, isn't that so? White dudes who want to kill you? That's a very strange thing to say as I've never heard this before. Are you a white guy? Are you korean or gyopo? As for women who see dollars the second you walk in, most guys would kill just to have that golddigger type approach. If there are those types around there are often just regular korean women who want to be around foreigners and aren't gold diggers.
There are tons of great foreigners in Korea. If you're a quality person yourself you can befriend them. Cool people end up finding each other.
There is nothing wrong with bars. I think its one of a few places tog to meet people. I go to foreign bars but I also go to places where very few foreigners go. My Korean isn't great but its enough for a little small talk. |
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everything-is-everything
Joined: 06 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 4:53 pm Post subject: Re: I Go Out To Bars Alone But I don't Meet People. |
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| UlsanBoy wrote: |
all I meet were white dudes who wanted to kill me and Korean chicks who probably heard the $$$ sound the second I walked in the door.
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We aren't in Thailand or the Philippines you moron.   |
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