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definitely maybe
Joined: 16 Feb 2008
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
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| It's becoming more and more common, and tends to be a good talking point if you don't take it personally. I find that it tends to be viewed as a positive by most of the people who ask. This is especially true if your wife is attractive! |
I don't know, I told some of my younger kids that I'm married, and even they ask me if she's Korean, and when I say of course, some will get a disgusted look on their face.
Obviously I have to question some of the things they are learning at home about interracial dating/marrying.
I have an adult class too, and when I tell some of the older men, I can see the brief let down in their face.
I'm pretty attuned to these kinds of things and can read people pretty well. I always could. |
If you always expect things to go sideways, they usually will. |
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Oreovictim
Joined: 23 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 3:06 am Post subject: |
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| I'm a guy. If I were teaching a bunch of adults and some guys asked if she's Korean, I'd give a puzzled look and say, "SHE?" Then I'd give the guys a wink. |
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Times30
Joined: 27 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 7:07 am Post subject: |
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It really depends on how they view you.
If you are "handsome" or "likable" in their eyes, they will obviously view that you marrying a Korean is a positive thing.
But some people just don't like interracial marriage.
People have asked me... are you dating a Korean?
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. I've had people say "Stay here and have babies!". Other people say "Why don't you find a foreigner woman to marry?".
I think the key is not to let this bother you at all. There are a million more things irritating in life, why should this be one? Frankly, I find the fact I can't find liquid soap in public areas much more irritating than what people think about my romantic life.
SUCK IT UP BABIES. |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 7:36 am Post subject: |
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| Times30 wrote: |
It really depends on how they view you.
If you are "handsome" or "likable" in their eyes, they will obviously view that you marrying a Korean is a positive thing.
But some people just don't like interracial marriage.
People have asked me... are you dating a Korean?
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. I've had people say "Stay here and have babies!". Other people say "Why don't you find a foreigner woman to marry?".
I think the key is not to let this bother you at all. There are a million more things irritating in life, why should this be one? Frankly, I find the fact I can't find liquid soap in public areas much more irritating than what people think about my romantic life.
SUCK IT UP BABIES. |
This is a ridiculous statement.
For one, I don't have many irritants in my daily life so this ranks up there when it does crop up. And two, even if I did have many things that bothered me, it surely wouldn't take away from other things that also bothered me. There's always room for new pet peeves (although I don't have many as it stands now.)
Where's your logic?
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 7:39 am Post subject: |
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| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| Dodge7 wrote: |
| definitely maybe wrote: |
| It's becoming more and more common, and tends to be a good talking point if you don't take it personally. I find that it tends to be viewed as a positive by most of the people who ask. This is especially true if your wife is attractive! |
I don't know, I told some of my younger kids that I'm married, and even they ask me if she's Korean, and when I say of course, some will get a disgusted look on their face.
Obviously I have to question some of the things they are learning at home about interracial dating/marrying.
I have an adult class too, and when I tell some of the older men, I can see the brief let down in their face.
I'm pretty attuned to these kinds of things and can read people pretty well. I always could. |
Why do you say "of course"? |
Because they KNOW I've been dating a Korean girl every since I've been teaching them for two years..
I mean what do they think--I dropped my gf of two years in the middle of night and shacked up with another woman that I married shortly thereafter?
...I wouldn't put it past em... |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 7:40 am Post subject: |
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| Oreovictim wrote: |
| I'm a guy. If I were teaching a bunch of adults and some guys asked if she's Korean, I'd give a puzzled look and say, "SHE?" Then I'd give the guys a wink. |
hahaha! |
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Times30
Joined: 27 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 8:06 am Post subject: |
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
| Times30 wrote: |
It really depends on how they view you.
If you are "handsome" or "likable" in their eyes, they will obviously view that you marrying a Korean is a positive thing.
But some people just don't like interracial marriage.
People have asked me... are you dating a Korean?
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. I've had people say "Stay here and have babies!". Other people say "Why don't you find a foreigner woman to marry?".
I think the key is not to let this bother you at all. There are a million more things irritating in life, why should this be one? Frankly, I find the fact I can't find liquid soap in public areas much more irritating than what people think about my romantic life.
SUCK IT UP BABIES. |
This is a ridiculous statement.
For one, I don't have many irritants in my daily life so this ranks up there when it does crop up. And two, even if I did have many things that bothered me, it surely wouldn't take away from other things that also bothered me. There's always room for new pet peeves (although I don't have many as it stands now.)
Where's your logic? |
Point is you shouldn't let it bother you. Really, of all the things you've experienced here, does this seem totally ridiculous? Have you not heard of fan death? do people openly accept interracial marriage where you are from? Even some Americans don't want their prim and proper christian white angels marrying, indian, blacks, asians or hispanics. racism is everywhere and would you expect Korea to be any different?
I'm not trying to be derogatory, but if you've been here longer than a year, this stuff is really blase stuff in your book. Unless you're white and have never experienced a modicum of racism in your life, this stuff shouldn't surprise you at all. |
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coralreefer_1
Joined: 19 Jan 2009
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 8:24 am Post subject: |
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
| Dodge7 wrote: |
| definitely maybe wrote: |
| It's becoming more and more common, and tends to be a good talking point if you don't take it personally. I find that it tends to be viewed as a positive by most of the people who ask. This is especially true if your wife is attractive! |
I don't know, I told some of my younger kids that I'm married, and even they ask me if she's Korean, and when I say of course, some will get a disgusted look on their face.
Obviously I have to question some of the things they are learning at home about interracial dating/marrying.
I have an adult class too, and when I tell some of the older men, I can see the brief let down in their face.
I'm pretty attuned to these kinds of things and can read people pretty well. I always could. |
Why do you say "of course"? |
Because they KNOW I've been dating a Korean girl every since I've been teaching them for two years..
I mean what do they think--I dropped my gf of two years in the middle of night and shacked up with another woman that I married shortly thereafter?
...I wouldn't put it past em... |
Sadly, I had a Korean woman do this exact same thing to me!
Turned out for the best though, because the woman I have been dating since then (going on more than 3 years now) is one of those super-hot Korean girls that many Korean men want and give serious jealousy looks about  |
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Chet Wautlands
Joined: 11 Oct 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 10:02 am Post subject: |
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| Times30 wrote: |
| Dodge7 wrote: |
| Times30 wrote: |
It really depends on how they view you.
If you are "handsome" or "likable" in their eyes, they will obviously view that you marrying a Korean is a positive thing.
But some people just don't like interracial marriage.
People have asked me... are you dating a Korean?
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. I've had people say "Stay here and have babies!". Other people say "Why don't you find a foreigner woman to marry?".
I think the key is not to let this bother you at all. There are a million more things irritating in life, why should this be one? Frankly, I find the fact I can't find liquid soap in public areas much more irritating than what people think about my romantic life.
SUCK IT UP BABIES. |
This is a ridiculous statement.
For one, I don't have many irritants in my daily life so this ranks up there when it does crop up. And two, even if I did have many things that bothered me, it surely wouldn't take away from other things that also bothered me. There's always room for new pet peeves (although I don't have many as it stands now.)
Where's your logic? |
Point is you shouldn't let it bother you. Really, of all the things you've experienced here, does this seem totally ridiculous? Have you not heard of fan death? do people openly accept interracial marriage where you are from? Even some Americans don't want their prim and proper christian white angels marrying, indian, blacks, asians or hispanics. racism is everywhere and would you expect Korea to be any different?
I'm not trying to be derogatory, but if you've been here longer than a year, this stuff is really blase stuff in your book. Unless you're white and have never experienced a modicum of racism in your life, this stuff shouldn't surprise you at all. |
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madoka
Joined: 27 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 11:08 am Post subject: |
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| Dodge7 wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
Why do you say "of course"? |
I mean what do they think--I dropped my gf of two years in the middle of night and shacked up with another woman that I married shortly thereafter? |
That happens more often than you might think. In fact, I recall that exact scenerio happened to this gal from NYC last year.  |
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tiger fancini
Joined: 21 Mar 2006
Location: Testicles for Eyes
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 2:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Times30 wrote: |
| Dodge7 wrote: |
| Times30 wrote: |
It really depends on how they view you.
If you are "handsome" or "likable" in their eyes, they will obviously view that you marrying a Korean is a positive thing.
But some people just don't like interracial marriage.
People have asked me... are you dating a Korean?
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. I've had people say "Stay here and have babies!". Other people say "Why don't you find a foreigner woman to marry?".
I think the key is not to let this bother you at all. There are a million more things irritating in life, why should this be one? Frankly, I find the fact I can't find liquid soap in public areas much more irritating than what people think about my romantic life.
SUCK IT UP BABIES. |
This is a ridiculous statement.
For one, I don't have many irritants in my daily life so this ranks up there when it does crop up. And two, even if I did have many things that bothered me, it surely wouldn't take away from other things that also bothered me. There's always room for new pet peeves (although I don't have many as it stands now.)
Where's your logic? |
Point is you shouldn't let it bother you. Really, of all the things you've experienced here, does this seem totally ridiculous? Have you not heard of fan death? do people openly accept interracial marriage where you are from? Even some Americans don't want their prim and proper christian white angels marrying, indian, blacks, asians or hispanics. racism is everywhere and would you expect Korea to be any different?
I'm not trying to be derogatory, but if you've been here longer than a year, this stuff is really blase stuff in your book. Unless you're white and have never experienced a modicum of racism in your life, this stuff shouldn't surprise you at all. |
^ This is logic. |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 3:11 pm Post subject: |
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| madoka wrote: |
| Dodge7 wrote: |
| NYC_Gal 2.0 wrote: |
Why do you say "of course"? |
I mean what do they think--I dropped my gf of two years in the middle of night and shacked up with another woman that I married shortly thereafter? |
That happens more often than you might think. In fact, I recall that exact scenerio happened to this gal from NYC last year. |
the irony... |
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Adventurer
Joined: 28 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 5:21 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd say it's MUCH better than it was back in the 1990s or earlier. The thing is, now Korean GUYS are getting into the marrying foreigner act. |
I wouldn't say now. This was true since at least 2000. They were marrying people from Southeast Asia for quite some time. However, there has been an increase in the number of Russian and Western brides. I'll give you that. I have seen more Korean men with Western women. I didn't see so much of that five years ago. I wonder what happened. Is it because there are more women or the Korean men are more interested in the idea. I think it's the latter, and some Korean men are charming those Western women. |
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byrddogs
Joined: 19 Jun 2009
Location: Shanghai
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 6:35 pm Post subject: |
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I used to get the "Are you married?" question a lot when living there. When I responded "no" my students would then ask if I had a gf. My response was "yes". They would then ask "Is she Korean people?" Me..."Yes she is". They..."You should marry her". LOL
Like others have said, it really depends on how people perceive you I suppose. I teach at an international school for Korean kids in Shanghai now and I got married recently. Of course they wanted to know if she was Korean; she's not. I think that they were let down a little, haha. |
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Oreovictim
Joined: 23 Aug 2006
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| Posted: Fri Jan 27, 2012 6:49 pm Post subject: |
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| Times30 wrote: |
Koreans can be positive about it, or get jealous, it really depends. |
From what I've noticed, if a Korean guy is in a relationship, he won't be so pissy about a foreigner with a Korean. If the K-guy isn't in a relationship, and he sees a good-looking foreigner with a good-looking Korean, he'll get bothered a bit. But if a K-guy's single, and he sees an ugly foreigner with a nice-looking Korean woman, then he gets really pissed.
But that's just what I've noticed. |
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