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Don't be Gay In Korea
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UlsanBoy



Joined: 19 Jun 2011

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 6:45 am    Post subject: Don't be Gay In Korea Reply with quote

another gay guy I knew here has murdered himself. Second time this has happened. They say there are no gays in Korea and it's true because they all kill themselves out of fear.

In Korea even white people act how they realy feel. Very scary. If you're gay and thinking of coming here, my advice is don't. Korea is a sad country if you're different. Crying or Very sad
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UlsanBoy



Joined: 19 Jun 2011

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 6:59 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

On the plus side though there are some way hot studs in Seoul Razz It's not all bad Razz
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jlb



Joined: 18 Sep 2003

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 2:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you are Korean, then yes, it is a very sad place to be gay. If you are a foreigner, you're not subject to the same societal rules that Koreans are and you can actually have quite a happy life as a gay person.

And if you come for a year, and don't like it, you have the freedom to leave and find somewhere else you might like better. Koreans don't have this option.
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radcon



Joined: 23 May 2011

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 3:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

"In Korea even white people act how they realy feel. Very scary."

Can you explain this? I don't understand what this means within the context of your post.
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Joe Boxer



Joined: 25 Dec 2007
Location: Bundang, South Korea

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 3:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
"In Korea even white people act how they realy feel. Very scary."

Even white people?
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joelove



Joined: 12 May 2011

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 4:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oddly enough the only times I recall that I've ever been hit on by dudes was on two separate occasions in Korea. Oh wait, happened in Vietnam as well. Must have been giving off that gay vibe or something.
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northway



Joined: 05 Jul 2010

PostPosted: Fri Feb 24, 2012 4:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
"In Korea even white people act how they realy feel. Very scary."

Can you explain this? I don't understand what this means within the context of your post.


I'm pretty sure he's saying that it's not only Koreans who will publicly express their homophobia.

Anyway, I don't know. I've got a few close gay friends here, and they've mostly found somewhat confused acceptance or curiosity from Koreans. What little homophobia they have encountered has typically come from Americans from the South.
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NYC_Gal 2.0



Joined: 10 Dec 2010

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 4:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My western gay friends don't seem to have any issues. My Korean gay friends did, but they've moved out of the country and never want to come back except to visit their families. I'm happy for them, as they've really come out of their shells, though I miss them. I'm sure I'll see them again, though.
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Panda



Joined: 25 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 11:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

A few weeks ago, on Arirang TV a famouse Korean musical actor Kim Ho Young was interviewed.

http://www.arirang.co.kr/Player/TV_Player.asp?code=VOD&asx_HL=High&Prog_Code=TVCR0106&vod_key=62847 (you need to register to watch)

He is obviously a gay man .

But at the end of the interview, his �best� friend asked him through a video: "Ho Young, I really wonder when you will get married."

Is his best friend that stupid? Or she just deliberately gave him a hard time.

Both the talk show hostess and Kim Ho Young felt very awkward, he said to the hostess: "I was surprised why she suddenly asked me such a question." He somehow managed to answer the question, but very sadly he used a SHE to refer to his future lover.
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Times30



Joined: 27 Mar 2010

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 9:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've only met 1 gay Korean man in all my time here.

Generally in Asia, being gay is almost a death warrant. They are unaccepted and easily discriminated against.

My kids joke around like being homosexual isn't even a real thing. They treat it as much as a mystical figure like the Unicorn. The concept of being gay in most of Asia doesn't even really "exist". Mostly because they've never seen it.

It makes me wonder, is gay partially cultural. (I've always believed it to be genetic and still do but you have to wonder sometimes)

Or are people living in such fear of being gay in Korea, they hide it forever and bear the burden?
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northway



Joined: 05 Jul 2010

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 10:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Times30 wrote:
I've only met 1 gay Korean man in all my time here.


I've met quite a few Korean guys who are very clearly gay, but it's usually at three in the morning after they've had far too much to drink when they show it. They're usually older, and they actually never come out and say they're gay, but their actions make it quite obvious that they lean in that direction (and have probably been hiding it their entire lives).
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Panda



Joined: 25 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 10:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Times30 wrote:

It makes me wonder, is gay partially cultural. (I've always believed it to be genetic and still do but you have to wonder sometimes)

Or are people living in such fear of being gay in Korea, they hide it forever and bear the burden?



First of all, nobody here except the OP knew what the story was, the gay who committed suicide might kill himself for many other reasons, lots of people kill themselves each year in Korea, including heterosexual people.

I take it for granted the history of gay culture in Korea has been as long as human history.

In China, gay culture used to be very popular in history, lots of literatures and anecdotes are about gay. Lots of senior officals and rich people had their male lovers, most were pretty young boys.

Unfortunately, gay culture has never been offically accepted (as everywhere else).

Homosexual relationship in Asia to some extent is more ambiguous to be told from a normal friends relationship, You don't see overreaction to homosexual intimacy here...that probably also means we Asians feel more comfortable and natural about homosexual relationship (unless it has to go official).
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The Cosmic Hum



Joined: 09 May 2003
Location: Sonic Space

PostPosted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 11:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There are just as many gay men in Korea as there are anywhere in the world.

In Korea, however, gay men are still expected to get married and have the obligatory children for the sake of the family.

Living as a gay man is unacceptable...as is living as a single man or woman.

Married with children is the norm to which everyone is supposed to conform to. Period.
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The Floating World



Joined: 01 Oct 2011
Location: Here

PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

They are not the real Korean, they are Japanese. Send them back to the Japan.

I have actually heard this from a friend who taught a Korean businessman, that the guy said that essentially any gays in Korea are really Japanese. Lol.

An ex Korean gf of mine had a brother that was gay and his familly were fine about it. They were extremely liberal and westernised however, all generation of the familly having done their university degrees outside of Korea.

I think it's still difficult for some people back home too.

Panda, you just reminded me of one of my favorite movies of all time "Farewell my Concubine!'
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Panda



Joined: 25 Oct 2008

PostPosted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 5:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

The Floating World wrote:

Panda, you just reminded me of one of my favorite movies of all time "Farewell my Concubine!'



That is my favorite movie all the time. But I persistently make this mistake:

A: What's your favorite movie?
Me: My favorite movie is Farewell My Cucumber...
A: ?????
Me: ber...bine...cucumbine
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