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metalhead
Joined: 18 May 2010 Location: Toilet
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 1:44 am Post subject: Koreans Out Of Their Usual Element Ignoring You |
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I'm curious why some Koreans that you know, that you see on a daily basis, be it in the classroom, the 'bakery', the store -whatevs - totally ignore you when they see you passing by them on the street. Then, for example, the next day, treat you as usual (like, saying hello to you) when they see you back in their little shop.
Is it a culture thing? I swear I've made full-blown eye contact with them and they just look away (cue for someone to mention that I *obviously* was not wearing a suit and tie, how droll).
Is it a Confucius thing? The Taiwanese and Chinese don't do it, just wondering why a lot of (see, added the quantifier so no one gets angry) Koreans do. |
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waynehead
Joined: 18 Apr 2006 Location: Jongno
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 3:11 am Post subject: |
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Ye gods, not everything every individual person does makes it a "Korean" thing. Maybe that particular individual is a little odd, maybe you know a lot of odd people and run into them frequently (although I'm reminded of the saying, "If you can't spot the sucker at the table, you're the sucker"). Do you greet them in Korean when you see them? All of the people in my neighborhood who I see regularly, the building ajeoshi, the drink-carts lady, the 7-11 clerks, all nod and respond kindly to my "안녕하세요?"s |
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lemak
Joined: 02 Jan 2011
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 4:11 am Post subject: |
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Agreed! People ignore people in America too, OP!!!! If you don't like it maybe you should go home (to America)!! |
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Dodge7
Joined: 21 Oct 2011
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 4:31 am Post subject: |
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lemak wrote: |
Agreed! People ignore people in America too, OP!!!! If you don't like it maybe you should go home (to America)!! |
*Some* people do it in America but not the extent OP is claiming. Which is true OP, it's not just you. It's not a culture thing, it's a jerk thing. |
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joelove
Joined: 12 May 2011
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 4:39 am Post subject: |
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I'm hoping for a few pages on this one, it's got potential. |
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lemak
Joined: 02 Jan 2011
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nautilus
Joined: 26 Nov 2005 Location: Je jump, Tu jump, oui jump!
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 6:07 am Post subject: |
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Its racism.
They don't want to be seen publicly befriending a foreigner. If they are seen as a traitor who welcomes foreign invaders, they lose cred. Koreans often bond by uniting against outsiders.
Its decreasing and its only a few people- mostly over 40. They will suck up to you when you patronise their business and there is nobody around to see. But if other Koreans are around or they are on the street then they feel obliged to treat you like a something on the bottom of their shoe.
Do not enter their premises again, but flagrantly patronise their rival business next door. |
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highstreet
Joined: 13 Nov 2010
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 7:37 am Post subject: |
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Not sure if serious or trolling |
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jonpurdy
Joined: 08 Jan 2009 Location: Ulsan
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 9:47 am Post subject: |
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highstreet wrote: |
Not sure if serious or trolling |
Trolling. |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 5:43 pm Post subject: |
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nautilus wrote: |
Its racism.
They don't want to be seen publicly befriending a foreigner. If they are seen as a traitor who welcomes foreign invaders, they lose cred. Koreans often bond by uniting against outsiders. |
I think it's BS to assume that this is what's behind ALL of this behavior. Sure, some might be racism, but there are tons of other reasons for it. Some are jerks. Some are busy, and don't want to stop to talk. Some are in a pissy mood cuz they just had a fight with their spouse. Some are hung over and don't feel like talking.
But, as usual, you trot out the racism theory as THE reason.
I find that very telling of the way you think. |
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fermentation
Joined: 22 Jun 2009
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 7:08 pm Post subject: |
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Lol at nautilus. |
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metalhead
Joined: 18 May 2010 Location: Toilet
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 7:12 pm Post subject: |
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Huh, that's weird. I thought it was some bizarre cultural trait, didn't even cross my mind that it is racism. I guess the next time I go to Je Il Yak Guk for antihistamines, I am going to ask Benny why he is racist, and because he is racist, why he chooses an English name and still serves me. Thanks for the heads up, guys, appreciate it even though I feel angry and disappointed right now. |
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Squire
Joined: 26 Sep 2010 Location: Jeollanam-do
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 7:37 pm Post subject: |
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I have a co-teacher the same age as me and we get on great, but we'll never just chat outside of classes or situations where she's obliged to speak to me regarding holidays, festivals and contract renewal. The only female staff members I ever speak to in the afternoons or outside of school have been at least 30 and usually old enough to be my mum. It's possible I'm a freak, but I don't think that's true. This sort of situation wouldn't happen back home. The younger the co-worker the more they avoid me |
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nicwr2002
Joined: 17 Aug 2011
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 8:20 pm Post subject: h |
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Think about it, if you were working at a store in your home country and you just happen to see someone you remember visiting your store before, would you say Hi to them? Unless you live in a town with a population of like 500 people then I wouldn't let it bother me and it's definitely not a "Korean" thing. |
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nicwr2002
Joined: 17 Aug 2011
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2013 8:21 pm Post subject: h |
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Think about it, if you were working at a store in your home country and you just happen to see someone you remember visiting your store before, would you say Hi to them? Unless you live in a town with a population of like 500 people then I wouldn't let it bother me and it's definitely not a "Korean" thing. |
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