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[big_fella1]

I was ready to support your position then you sprout this mixed race stuff. obviously you're a Korean troll.

WT is race?

As an Australian I have Italian, English, Irish, Scottish, and Austrian heritage, that I know about. Should you believe that the Irish and the English are the same race, I invite you to go to any pub in Ireland and sprout that view.

The only way to prevent race mixing is called in-breeding, even the royal family of the biggest xenophobes in the world the Japanese admitted that when they took Korean wives.

[Privateer]

at this thread.

[le-paul]

[Adventurer]

[Mix1]

[Privateer]

[Adventurer]

I understand his views on having mixed kids, but his comments said to the Korean co-teacher weren't really wise. If I were Korean, I might feel that the person's putting down my culture. I agree with some things the OP said that sometimes there's too much superficiality out there, and the culture is sometimes too regimented. I do prefer my own. When people ask me, I just say I think Korean women are quite attractive, and if I found one that fit me, I'd date the person, but I find I'm more compatible with women from my own culture or women from other nationalities. The listener got offended. I can understand why she did.

[hiamnotcool]

He asked a racist question and you gave a racist answer. I respect your honesty but I disagree with your opinion on the issue, unfortunately people aren't up for honesty these days.

[some waygug-in]

I suspect the OP was reacting to the

"you're only here for the women" - attitude.

If racism is an issue in this case, (and I'm not saying it is) I think it is

coming from the Korean side.

What, you don't prefer Korean women?!

All weiguk-ins are here for the women!

You must be a liar. (implied)

[sirius black]

Agree with everyone who said if he has a preference its his business. We all have preferences. We often find people who are not our preferred look, etc but date them because they had some quality that attracted us to them.

As for mixed kids. Its a concern of any parent I would imagine. I could date anyone of any race but i would be concerend about children being raised in certain countries or communities in America. However, I doubt that would stop pretty much any couple of different races or ethnicity to have children if they wanted a family. They would just be careful of the environment in which they raised their child. Personal choice not to want to raise a mixed child. My personal view is its a cop out but its just a personal view. No offense t the OP and I don't want to label him for having the view I'm about to say, but to some extent I've found the people who have an issue about having and raising mixed children to usually be less accepting of them when they see it or at the very least harp on the difficulties they will have to the parents or someone else.

When asked by Koreans if I like Korean girls, I simply say I can date anyone of any race, shape or size if they are interesting and we connect. I like 'em petite but I've dated heavy women who I thought were super cool and I got past the weight issue because of who they were. I can understand if its too big of a hurdle for other men since men are mainly visual.

I've dated fellow teachers that were of different races and ethnicity as well. South African, Australian who was part Aboriginal, Gyopo, etc., as well as a Korean. They all had the same thing in common. I found them interesting and fun to be with.

I would agree with the poster who said Americans, generally speaking, are a bit more race sensitive than the other nationalities that are in Korea. South Africa possibly being the exception and this may be due to both countries history with race. Black friends I have have always said that when they meet anyone from the 7 countries that teach here its the Brits, Canadians, Aussies, Kiwis and Irish that appear to not care about race and although most Americans also don't care, when they do feel that the person is uncomfortable its almost always Americans and S. Africans are cool pretty much but black SA's say the same about their own. The males feel that way from American males but the few Black girls I've met feel less so from the guys. Maybe its a male thing.

I think America has changed and is changing though. In many parts of the country, including the south and midwest that have traditionally have issues, its changing. The demographics are suggesting this as well. Its now taught and emphasized more that differences are celebrated and accepted and not seen as bad or strange.

[Mix1]

[SoylaMBPolymath]

To the previous poster who claimed that all mixed race women of a certain mix are "crazy"...Seriously? You've met every single mixed race woman in the world to be so certain of this asinine claim? How about Zoe Saldana, was she insane? She's mixed race. As a woman of mixed race (your so-called crazy vein), I found your comment offensive and incredibly vapid.

Also, where are the women in this thread? These types of discussions always seem to turn into a sausage fest.

With respect to the OP's claims that bringing a mixed race child into the world is doomed to create an inescapable identity maelstrom, that's baloney. Do not children of one race (whatever that even means) face problems of identity of they are gay? Or what if that child suffers from mental illness? Do they not risk facing problems of identity should they find themselves liking things outside of their expected circle of class, culture, and social standing? The construction of identity is complex and doesn't simply arise from the color of your skin. The love and support of a strong family and dedicated parents helps beyond belief. I can only speak from experience, but the love and support I received from my parents ensured that I would never question my value as an individual and that I would accept myself for who I am, no matter what. Sadly, the only people who ever seemed to have difficulty with my proud identification as a mixed-race woman were the white people I met. I never received the hated, "What are you question?" from blacks or Latinos. If anything I'd get the thumbs up with, "You're mixed, huh?" Indeed I am. And I love myself this way.

I think that the OP's coworker is probably used to foreigner men dating Korean women. And why not? It's rare to read the men on this board say anything positive about the foreigner women here in Korea. If one were to gauge only upon the basis of this board all foreigner women are fat, dim-witted frumpsters from which any and all foreigner men should gladly run in favor of the more delectable Korean women who more often than not fawn over their "handsome" guises. It's not true. Not at all. I have more than a few attractive female foreigner friends. But this critique continues to be bandied about.

Ultimately, I don't think the OP's a racist. I do find his views of mixed race children somewhat bizarre and a tad offensive, but he is within his right to date whomever he chooses. I have learned that I do myself no favors if I limit myself to someone on the basis of such primitive things as "pure" or "mixed" blood. I choose to love and be loved. The result of that choice has led me to men of all stripes. I see with my heart.

[le-paul]