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[billyh]

Ok, so the other night I went out drinking with a supervisor of mine. This is the order of events which entailed:


Supervisor and I went to dinner, we drank a little bit and ate. It got late, around midnight, but he wanted to continue to �party.� He asked if I wanted to go to a bar near my apartment, which I thought was fine and maybe he was making it convenient for me. Went to a bar near my apartment. At this bar, said supervisor asked me if he could stay at my apartment which I reluctantly said would be fine. After being at the bar for about a little over an hour, the bar owner approached me saying he thinks that it�s time that supervisor went home. I believe he was being confrontational toward the bar owner and other employees. Upon reaching my apartment, supervisor takes off his clothing until he is in his underwear. I inform him that I am going to go downstairs and sleep in my girlfriend�s (she is on vacation) apartment. This angers supervisor significantly. He begins to use profanity. He flips over a chair of mine in anger. He is spitting on the floor around my apartment. He also proceeds to punch my refrigerator, leaving a dent in the freezer door. He continues to use profanity in Korean and English, to which I decide to leave him.

The next morning I go to my apartment at about 11:30 am to see if he has left. He is sleeping in my bed with all of his clothing now scattered around the room. There is also a blanket, which was a gift from the school, covered in vomit on the floor. I leave him to go to work, which he catches up to me as I am catching the bus. He apologizes, asking me if he �turned into a monster last night?� I try to ignore him, but tell him everything is fine because I don�t want to be bothered.

Upon coming home after work I inspected my apartment. There is a vomit stain on my bed sheets. He has made a mess out of my recycling. The room smells very badly of alcohol and I see that a bottle of alcohol that I keep on my desk has been moved to the kitchen, with significantly less liquid in it. I cannot find the vomit covered blanket, until I look out the window and see it has been thrown out of the apartment, and then landed on an awning outside of the building. In the bathroom I see that my toothbrush has also been moved, leading me to believe that he helped himself to use that.

Am I overreacting? I feel taken advantage of and frankly, I feel uncomfortable continuing to have to maintain a close working relationship with this guy. I don't want to bring this up too far into the future. I plan on speaking to my director about this, but I don't want to end up shooting myself in the foot. Can anyone shed any light/supply any sort of advice on this?

[KimchiNinja]

Are there gay undertones here?

...this thread is going to be a Dave's classic.

[le-paul]

what a dick. id ask him to pay for a new blanket and cleaning materials. after that, be civil but keep away from him.
As far as reporting him goes, id make that judgement depending on your director. Do you think hes/shes the kind of person to deal with someone like that in an appropriate manner? if yes - approach, if no - leave it.

also, find his car and put superglue in the locks

[billyh]

[billyh]

[Who's Your Daddy?]

[augustine]

That's an uncomfortable situation. I felt there was going to be some repressed homosexuality ending from the start.

You would probably shame the hell out of that guy bringing up his blatant homosexual rage outburst. I'm not sure what I'd do.

[billyh]

I did happen to speak to a few people who claimed it wouldn't be all that strange for two korean dudes to sleep in the same bad together. kind of laughing off the issue, this has definitely confused me a ton in an already extremely confusing situation.

[cj1976]

Serious gaydar failure, brother.

[I'm With You]

I think you're just overreacting. My supervisor comes over to my house all the time and does this.

[Steelrails]

Yeah, its not THAT strange to crash in the same room at someone's apartment for Koreans, and if you do leave, it can be perceived as rude. Koreans kinda have that old school mentality of dude's and nudity (you know the old guys at the gym back home who never use a towel and just walk around naked in the locker room- one reason gyms suck)

That doesn't excuse what he did. When he asked if he was a monster, you should have told him absolutely. Tell him everything that happened, vomit and all. His behavior was unacceptable under any circumstances.

Now, whether this affects your friendship or not is up to you. My best friend and roommate of 5 years became my housemate that way. Me and the other housemates new the guy only very casually, mixed groups once a the club, and then invite the guy over for a house party. Guy gets obliterated and pukes. Sorta stays around for the next week and a half at which point we ask him to move in. 5 years later I share an apartment and hooked him up with his girlfriend of 3 years.

You never know. Personally though, the guy sounds like a major question mark.

Bottom line though, you own him now. Use that power wisely.

[billyh]

He's definitely not a friend of mine. I have to work closely with him, so I do my best to be friendly and put up with his shit. I really did not want to hang out with him in the first place, but I felt strange as he weaseled it out of me that I did not have plans that evening.

[billyh]

[Lucas]

[augustine]