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Koreans as model step-parents???
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cmxc



Joined: 19 May 2008

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 6:26 pm    Post subject: Koreans as model step-parents??? Reply with quote

I broke down and cried when I read this:

Particularly horrible quotes:
"the young girl’s buttocks muscle had been nearly destroyed because of [the force and frequency of] repeated hitting"

"one of the girl’s broken ribs punctured her lung, causing internal bleeding that ultimately led to her death."

"The police said they have secured testimony from neighbors and school teachers proving Park’s involvement in the death of her stepdaughter. Details of the abuse have gone unreported by neighbors until now."

"In a separate case two months ago, an 8-year-old boy was beaten to death by his father and stepmother. The parents said they were angry that the boy had not inquired about his stepmother’s well-being after she returned from the hospital."


Details emerge in 8-year-old’s death
http://koreajoongangdaily.joins.com/news/article/article.aspx?aid=2980002&cloc=joongangdaily|home|newslist1
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optik404



Joined: 24 Jun 2008

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 6:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Everyone knows Koreans are horrible step-parents. This just proves it.
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radcon



Joined: 23 May 2011

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 6:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Why should someone have to raise a child that doesn't have their blood?
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Captain Corea



Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 7:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think this was the case I saw on the news the other night. Makes my blood boil.
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BigBuds



Joined: 15 Sep 2005
Location: Changwon

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 10:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Why should someone have to raise a child that doesn't have their blood?


They made the choice to be with a person raising a child. The weren't forced to do it, they chose to do it.

There's no excuse no matter which way you want to spin it, idiot!


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andrewchon



Joined: 16 Nov 2008
Location: Back in Oz. Living in ISIS Aust.

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 10:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

optik404 wrote:
Everyone knows Koreans are horrible step-parents. This just proves it.


You need proof? Geez you're bad at hating. Laughing
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joeteacher



Joined: 11 Jul 2007

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 10:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well how about that...a couple of idiotic comments already. Rolling Eyes Seriously, don't know why I even read this message board, it's full of morons.

My sister-in-law has been a great step-mother to my niece and has raised her for most of her life. She's...oh my gosh...wait for it......loving, like a human being.
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Scorpion



Joined: 15 Apr 2012

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 10:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

How was this abuse not reported to the authorities before? None of her friends, neighbors or teachers noticed her injuries? Didn't the article say the girl was in hospital for several weeks after one attack? Don't doctors have an obligation to report suspected violence against children to the police? Were the police informed but chose to do nothing? Why didn't the father put an end to this long ago? The abuse was, after all, going on since 2011. How could he let this continue after becoming aware of it? Why would he leave on a business trip and leave the child in this woman's 'care' when he knew what she was capable of?

More than the stepmother needs to see the inside of a jail cell. If anyone (literally anyone at all) had taken a stand in defence of that poor girl she'd still be alive today.

Her father, teachers, neighbors and doctors have some answering to do.

Tragic story.


edit: I also think this is an unsuitable topic for a Korea-bashing thread. Everyone abandoned that poor child. For anyone to be gleefully grabbing at this story to attack Korea seems wrong. I'm no apologist, but that girl was abused and beaten enough while alive. We're only doing her further violence by exploiting her suffering for petty point scoring. I don't doubt that cultural factors (such as a certain tolerance for domestic violence) may have contributed to this tragedy. I just think we need to be careful here.


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atwood



Joined: 26 Dec 2009

PostPosted: Tue Nov 05, 2013 10:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Scorpion wrote:
How was this abuse not reported to the authorities before? None of her friends, neighbors or teachers noticed her injuries? Didn't the article say the girl was in hospital for several weeks after one attack? Don't doctors have an obligation to report suspected violence against children to the police? Were the police informed but chose to do nothing? Why didn't the father put an end to this long ago? The abuse was, after all, going on since 2011. How could he let this continue after becoming aware of it? Why would he leave on a business trip and leave the child in this woman's 'care' when he knew what she was capable of?

More than the stepmother needs to see the inside of a jail cell. If anyone (literally anyone at all) had taken a stand in defence of that poor girl she'd still be alive today.

Her father, teachers, neighbors and doctors have some answering to do.

Tragic story.

Good post. People here need to step up more often and take responsibility for others when confronted with situations of this type.
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schwa



Joined: 18 Jan 2003
Location: Yap

PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 1:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Scorpion wrote:

Tragic story.
edit: I also think this is an unsuitable topic for a Korea-bashing thread. Everyone abandoned that poor child. For anyone to be gleefully grabbing at this story to attack Korea seems wrong. I'm no apologist, but that girl was abused and beaten enough while alive. We're only doing her further violence by exploiting her suffering for petty point scoring. I don't doubt that cultural factors (such as a certain tolerance for domestic violence) may have contributed to this tragedy. I just think we need to be careful here.

I agree wholeheartedly. The OP claims to care but posted this under a twisted & unnecessarily charged topic header.
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radcon



Joined: 23 May 2011

PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 1:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

BigBuds wrote:
radcon wrote:
Why should someone have to raise a child that doesn't have their blood?


They made the choice to be with a person raising a child. The weren't forced to do it, they chose to do it.

There's no excuse no matter which way you want to spin it, idiot!


It's called sarcasm. Koreans place importance on blood relations, that's why adoption is almost nil in the country. You'd think a single korean parent would know this about their own culture and select his/her new spouse carefully.
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andrewchon



Joined: 16 Nov 2008
Location: Back in Oz. Living in ISIS Aust.

PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 1:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:

It's called sarcasm. Koreans place importance on blood relations, that's why adoption is almost nil in the country. You'd think a single korean parent would know this about their own culture and select his/her new spouse carefully.


Well, sorry for having optimism about dreams coming true, life getting better and all that. Razz
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FriendlyDaegu



Joined: 26 Aug 2012

PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 2:20 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Similar case in WA I was reading about yesterday: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/washington-couple-30-years-prison-death-hana-williams-article-1.1501102

Adoptive parents got 30 years in that one.
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jvalmer



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PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 3:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

radcon wrote:
Koreans place importance on blood relations, that's why adoption is almost nil in the country.

It isn't almost nil, but it isn't many, but more than you realize. Problem is that Koreans who've adopted will almost never-ever tell anyone, not even their closest siblings. Maybe this will change too in a decade (like many other things), but not yet.
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radcon



Joined: 23 May 2011

PostPosted: Wed Nov 06, 2013 4:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

jvalmer wrote:
radcon wrote:
Koreans place importance on blood relations, that's why adoption is almost nil in the country.

It isn't almost nil, but it isn't many, but more than you realize. Problem is that Koreans who've adopted will almost never-ever tell anyone, not even their closest siblings. Maybe this will change too in a decade (like many other things), but not yet.

A good friend of mine and his wife were barren. She faked a nine month pregnancy and they adopted a little boy. He still feels the shame of not continuing his bloodline. And please describe what is the difference between almost none and not many?
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