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KimchiNinja
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| Chaparrastique wrote: |
In Korea?
Kindness is viewed as weakness here, it will only get you stomped on.
Koreans don't recognize kindness, they've never seen it before. |
You guys live in some kind of English teacher alternate reality though. |
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tiger fancini
Joined: 21 Mar 2006
Location: Testicles for Eyes
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2014 7:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Chaparrastique wrote: |
| JMO wrote: |
Isn't that similar to empathy?
My life got much, much better when I stared being less cynical and thought more about other people. |
In Korea?
Kindness is viewed as weakness here, it will only get you stomped on.
Koreans don't recognize kindness, they've never seen it before. |
Perhaps there is something about you that makes kind people keep their distance? |
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Chaparrastique
Joined: 01 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2014 8:48 pm Post subject: |
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| tiger fancini wrote: |
| Perhaps there is something about you that makes kind people keep their distance? |
It also keeps away the oddballs  |
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KimchiNinja
Joined: 01 May 2012
Location: Gangnam
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2014 8:51 pm Post subject: |
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| Chaparrastique wrote: |
| tiger fancini wrote: |
| Perhaps there is something about you that makes kind people keep their distance? |
It also keeps away the oddballs |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
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JMO
Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Daegu
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| Posted: Thu Oct 23, 2014 11:12 pm Post subject: |
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| tiger fancini wrote: |
| Chaparrastique wrote: |
| JMO wrote: |
Isn't that similar to empathy?
My life got much, much better when I stared being less cynical and thought more about other people. |
In Korea?
Kindness is viewed as weakness here, it will only get you stomped on.
Koreans don't recognize kindness, they've never seen it before. |
Perhaps there is something about you that makes kind people keep their distance? |
I agree with this. You must be given off serious negative vibes. I've had tons of koreans spontaneously help me with stuff.
I wouldn't want to be beholden to the work culture/societal rules but in general they are lovely people. |
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joelove
Joined: 12 May 2011
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| Posted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 9:53 pm Post subject: |
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| JMO wrote: |
Isn't that similar to empathy?
My life got much, much better when I started being less cynical and thought more about other people. |
We asked a question about kindness and if we understand what that is. Personally I don't. I have ideas. One of these ideas tells me it must include empathy. The mind is so contradictory that it includes various opposing urges. One of these has the element of kindness, I suppose. And what is the other? To be violent? There is also that in us. So, if we understand that, then maybe the other can occur.
On a less intellectual note, kindness is simple, and includes small things. Hold the door open or give up a seat. You know, stuff normal people do. |
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joelove
Joined: 12 May 2011
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| Posted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 10:10 pm Post subject: |
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| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
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KimchiNinja
Joined: 01 May 2012
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| Posted: Sat Oct 25, 2014 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| joelove wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
Nope, Koreans are straight arrow. You need to goto Itaewon in order to find weirdos. |
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schwa
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
Location: Yap
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| Posted: Sat Oct 25, 2014 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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I think its fairly simple to identify kindness.
Considering others before yourself.
Treating others equitably.
Being generous.
Doing nice unto others without thought of personal reward.
Etc.
It brings out the best in others too.
Ever notice how people with kind dispositions project an attractive face, whatever physical features they've been dealt? No amount of plastic surgery, cosmetics, or "witty" self-assurance can mask a mean spirit.
Anyone can resolve to become a kinder person starting today. |
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Stain
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| Posted: Sun Oct 26, 2014 8:09 am Post subject: |
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| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| joelove wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
Nope, Koreans are straight arrow. You need to goto Itaewon in order to find weirdos. |
You've never met a Korean oddball in Korea? |
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KimchiNinja
Joined: 01 May 2012
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| Posted: Sun Oct 26, 2014 3:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Stain wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| joelove wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
Nope, Koreans are straight arrow. You need to goto Itaewon in order to find weirdos. |
You've never met a Korean oddball in Korea? |
Nope. In my years spent in Seoul, I was approached by a random oddball on the subway, once. Koreans are very normal, if they have weirdnesses they certainly don't broadcast it publicly. |
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jazzmaster
Joined: 30 Sep 2013
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| Posted: Sun Oct 26, 2014 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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| JMO wrote: |
| tiger fancini wrote: |
| Chaparrastique wrote: |
| JMO wrote: |
Isn't that similar to empathy?
My life got much, much better when I stared being less cynical and thought more about other people. |
In Korea?
Kindness is viewed as weakness here, it will only get you stomped on.
Koreans don't recognize kindness, they've never seen it before. |
Perhaps there is something about you that makes kind people keep their distance? |
I agree with this. You must be given off serious negative vibes. I've had tons of koreans spontaneously help me with stuff.
I wouldn't want to be beholden to the work culture/societal rules but in general they are lovely people. |
I've got to agree with Chap, Koreans seem to confuse kindness with weakness. This is especially true in the work environment. This isn't to say that Koreans are unable to be kind, just that they value it less than where I'm from.
I've often discussed this with Korean friends and they tend to express these sentiments before I do.
 at KN calling other people oddballs. |
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northway
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Sun Oct 26, 2014 6:59 pm Post subject: |
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| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| Nope. In my years spent in Seoul, I was approached by a random oddball on the subway, once. Koreans are very normal, if they have weirdnesses they certainly don't broadcast it publicly. |
I'm assuming you're either not white or you're not counting all the creepy ajossis with the nose and arm hair touching. |
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Stain
Joined: 08 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2014 7:33 am Post subject: |
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| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| Stain wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| joelove wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
Nope, Koreans are straight arrow. You need to goto Itaewon in order to find weirdos. |
You've never met a Korean oddball in Korea? |
Nope. In my years spent in Seoul, I was approached by a random oddball on the subway, once. Koreans are very normal, if they have weirdnesses they certainly don't broadcast it publicly. |
You know nothing about Koreans. Everything you say goes against my Korean family and everybody they know as well. Or could it be something else that drives you? |
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wooden nickels
Joined: 23 May 2010
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| Posted: Mon Oct 27, 2014 8:08 am Post subject: |
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| Stain wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| Stain wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
| joelove wrote: |
| KimchiNinja wrote: |
This is Korea though, there aren't many oddballs...just the foreigners. |
Come on, man. You know this is nonsense. |
Nope, Koreans are straight arrow. You need to goto Itaewon in order to find weirdos. |
You've never met a Korean oddball in Korea? |
Nope. In my years spent in Seoul, I was approached by a random oddball on the subway, once. Koreans are very normal, if they have weirdnesses they certainly don't broadcast it publicly. |
You know nothing about Koreans. Everything you say goes against my Korean family and everybody they know as well. Or could it be something else that drives you? |
Same here being a member of a Korean family. KN doesn't know much about Koreans. |
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