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[sumundur]

Crap, crap crap! I came to Seoul b/c I thought it would be a great place to work and meet people. Well, I didn't know that if you work with no waygooks, and there are none where you live, life will suck a bit socially. Everyone has their cliques, and most people don't want to meet new people as friends. Anyhow, this rant comes about b/c I had one friend who was basically my hang out buddy, a Canadian. Then my friend from England said he was coming to Seoul. Great I thought. Well somewhere along the line they realized they like touching each other, and now he is basically living with her, and I'm third wheeling it. This blows b/c most of the waygook girls I meet seem bitchy, not all mind you. The guys I meet have other intentions, and I'm trying to do this whole long distance love thing, so that's a no-go. All my other friends live in Daegu. The question then is, what should I do now? Should I just leave?

[yemanja]

Ummm, you could start by getting a smaller avatar. Then you could go to some way gook hang outs, etc.

Making friends takes time, meanwhile get a hobby and learn something new- this might be where you will make friends!

[sumundur]

I like my avatar. I thought the idea was to have one that was lame, well I enjoy it, so it stays. Well, it's not like I'm sitting at home. I have hobbies, and belong to organizations. But, I deal with people that are much older. Lin their 30's or over. Hanging out with them can be fun at times, but they don't really party like the young folk. Anyhow, thanks for the advice.

[kiwiboy_nz_99]

[Css]

How long have you been in seoul?

[the eye]

if all your friends are in daegu....why the hell are you in seoul?

[Ihavenolips]

That's a silly reason to leave Korea.
What's the big deal. Sit tight, work, and do your own thing during the week. When the weekend rolls around spend time with friends in Daegu. It's not difficult to take a train from Seoul to Deagu. Read a book or drink a few beers along the way (3 hour ride). If you want you can always stop in Gumi along the way to visit me. I can find you a cozy spot on a barstool to spend a Friday night with expatriates. Seoul isn't exactly the only magnetic force in Korea. Break from the leash and explore the country. Wish your friends the best of luck in the new relationship then venture onto new trails yourself.

[sumundur]

Okay, I think I just a lapse of judgement before I posted. I've only been in Seoul since August, so I think I'll just chill out and "go with the flow" so to say. Plus, I see my friends on the weekends, the KTX only takes a bit more than 1.5 hours. The weekdays are just so boring.

[trigger123]

i understand how you feel; i'm in a fairly remote location which although only an hour or so away from friends dotted around the gyeonggi and seoul area, can feel isolated through the week. whereas you are surrounded by people and feel lonely, i've been here for going on two months and have seen 4 different foreigners (oh and 2 mormon missionaries but do they count!? ), to have 'normal' conversations with.
But I'm very positive about my life here. I'm studying, practicing tae kwon do every night, writing, reading the books I always wanted to, generally doing my 'thing'.
(i agree with some of the other comments) so from experience i think you have two options,
1. get out there and live! use your time wisely, read, do exercise, keep your mind and body active. if you are interested in sports then get yourself out there and study tae kwon do, hap ki do or kumdo.
2. get dragged down into a depressive cycle which is no good.
and thats not really an option.
I've found my life is what i make it, and I reckon you can make yours good too!
Good luck!