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McNasty
Joined: 04 Jul 2003
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 Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 7:45 pm Post subject: Separated families, broken marriages |
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This is a great reply in regards to families that send their kids abroad with the mother accompanying.
http://joongangdaily.joins.com/200502/22/200502222241548639900090109013.html
I always here about the poor lonely father that is so desperate that he ends up finding comfort in the arms of another woman. It's one thing to feel lonely, but it's sad to think and believe that the only option is to cheat on your wife. If they can't remain faithful why send them in the first place, perhaps the entire family should go together.
The real question isn't who is to blame for the infidelity, it's why the hell do they send them overseas in the firstplace?
I am aware of the usual reply of, 'they are desperate for their children to succeed', but if that's the case, doesn't that suggest that the problems originate from within the country?
It seems to me that they are running away from the real problem that everyone seems aware of but unwilling or incapable of solving the problem. |
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lastat06513
Joined: 18 Mar 2003
Location: Sensus amo Caesar , etiamnunc victus amo uni plebian
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Thats the sad part of korean mentality~ Parents firmly believe that if their children get a good foreign education, they would be able to get into one of the top schools here in Korea. So, the mother usually goes to take care of the children and the father stays to work here to support them there because most of the time, their top-notch Korean education isn't worth spit in the western job market. Or they stay long enough so the children can learn English so they can get an edge on the narrow job market here.
These days, Korea is pondering whether to open foreign-run schools in places like Cheju or Inchon. But the "ever-enlightening" URI party is up in arms because they don't want the schools to take the funds they earn in Korea out of the country and they said it would place other public schools in much unwanted competition to improve 
What do people think about that? |
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Yaya
Joined: 25 Feb 2003
Location: Seoul
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| Going to an overseas school is the LAST option for a native Korean to pursue if he or she wants to live in Korea. You need to build up a good alumni network in high school and college, and going abroad for school during that crucial time ain't gonna do it. |
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Pyongshin Sangja
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| Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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McNasty
Joined: 04 Jul 2003
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| Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 11:00 pm Post subject: |
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| lastat06513 wrote: |
| These days, Korea is pondering whether to open foreign-run schools in places like Cheju or Inchon. But the "ever-enlightening" URI party is up in arms because they don't want the schools to take the funds they earn in Korea out of the country and they said it would place other public schools in much unwanted competition to improve. What do you think about that? |
I think it's another example of running from the problem instead of hitting it head on and correcting it. They need to put more focus into education if they want to be more competitive globally instead of living in their own little bubble. They refer to their country as 'our' but when the chips are down, they are only interested or concerned about one thing, 'me'. 'I want a good job' 'I want to study in another country'
I truly believe that Korea has the potential to become a global competitor, but they have got to solve their problems completely, instead of their usual temporary 'band aid' fixes.  |
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casey's moon
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| Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 11:09 pm Post subject: |
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| What I wonder is... what's the point of all this education worry anyway? You go through all sorts of pains to give your children the best education possible, including jeopardising your marriage and your happiness... for what???? So that your kids can grow up, become successful people, have kids and then go through all sorts of pains to give their children the best education possible? Where is the happy ending in all this? Living in the present even just a tiny bit doesn't seem to occur to many people in this country. I have to remind my husband to enjoy the NOW sometimes and stop worrying about the future. The future might never come, but NOW is definitely a reality. |
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dogbert
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 11:09 pm Post subject: |
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| Yaya wrote: |
| Going to an overseas school is the LAST option for a native Korean to pursue if he or she wants to live in Korea. You need to build up a good alumni network in high school and college, and going abroad for school during that crucial time ain't gonna do it. |
It could be that some of these families are afraid their kids would not stand a snowball's chance of getting into the Korean uni of their choice, so are pre-emptively sending them abroad to study for a period long enough to entitle their kids to make use of the special admissions programs Korean universities have for Korean students who have lived overseas.
Like you said, though, you still miss out on some of the connections building. |
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McNasty
Joined: 04 Jul 2003
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| Posted: Tue Feb 22, 2005 11:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Yaya wrote: |
| You need to build up a good alumni network in high school and college, and going abroad for school during that crucial time ain't gonna do it. |
You make a good point about them missing out on building up a network while they are overseas. However, companies here are currently recruiting a number of Koreans that have studied overseas to give them a more competitive edge over their adversaries. Two major problems stem from hiring the overseas University graduates:1.They may have lost some of their language ability from being abroad for a significant length of time. 2. They occasionally have trouble fitting in at work because of jealousy and cultural differences, sort of like what many of us experience here.
Again, acceptance is a serious issue here that needs to be dealt with, especially when they discriminate against themselves(ex:kyopos). |
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Yaya
Joined: 25 Feb 2003
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| Posted: Wed Feb 23, 2005 1:55 am Post subject: |
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| casey's moon wrote: |
| What I wonder is... what's the point of all this education worry anyway? You go through all sorts of pains to give your children the best education possible, including jeopardising your marriage and your happiness... for what???? So that your kids can grow up, become successful people, have kids and then go through all sorts of pains to give their children the best education possible? Where is the happy ending in all this? Living in the present even just a tiny bit doesn't seem to occur to many people in this country. I have to remind my husband to enjoy the NOW sometimes and stop worrying about the future. The future might never come, but NOW is definitely a reality. |
What a Buddhist thought! |
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