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[Gollum]

I am curious what your take on this would be....

I have two Korean co-workers at my high school who are married to former students (I know one for sure, but I heard there's another). Also, I have another co-worker who is planning to marry his girlfriend, who is also a former student. She is now 24 (he says) and he is in his 30s. I've bumped into them together around town. He's kept the relationship a semi-secret for years, although he told me right away, and I was also told by a department head.

Public/private school workers, is this common at your school?

Technically, after a student leaves a school and becomes "legal age," they could be "available" to date anyone they choose. If it were in the USA, however, I am sure it would raise some eyebrows! I'm sure it would here, too!

When thinking in terms of America, immediately my mind thinks that the teacher would lose their job. But then again, I wonder if that would actually happen or not. I'd imagine it could bring on a heck of a lawsuit if a teacher was fired without proof that they were in a relationship before the student graduated.

My girlfriend (much older --hah) says that relationships like this are not uncommon. Apparently!

What are your random thoughts on this issue?

[zappadelta]

I think it's pretty kinky and naughty

[ulsanchris]

i've heard that it is somewhat common in Japan.
I've never heard of that happening in Canada. I"m sure it has happened, but i've never heard of it. Anybody else heard of it?

[FUBAR]

Teacher at my former highschool was engaged to an ex-student. Then he was recently charged with statuatory rape of grade 11 student. Apparently the police discovered that he had been secretly romancing students for the past 10 years (while I was still there).

Last I heard, the guy killed himself a few weeks before the trial was to start.

[mindmetoo]

[Adam J]

I've been teaching high school in California for the past four years. There have been teachers at both schools I've worked at that are married to former students.

The "open" ones are the guys who married their girls 20 years ago and are still married to them. Doesn't seem to be a big deal if it happened a long time ago, but I'm not aware of anyone who has recently married a student.

The beginning of this year a math teacher (youngish, good looking guy) was forced to resign because of his relationships with 18 year old senior girls from his previous year's classes. Not illegal, but definately unprofessional and a good way to get fired. Supposedly he was sleeping with girls currently enrolled in his classes.

In one of my teaching credential college classes the professor asked if anyone in class was married to their former teacher and five of the fifteen women in class raised their hands. They were all 30+ years old.

[Ya-ta Boy]

[Gollum]

I had a gym teacher who was there for one year, but mysteriously disappeared. Not sure this is why, but he it was rumored that he was having an affair with the girl who happened to be our class president. Sounds sort of like a movie I saw recently, but it happened. I figure administration found out and quietly got rid of the guy. I saw the class president around a few years ago, and I really wish I'd asked her about it.

[OiGirl]

The year before I began high school, a student graduated and married one of her teachers. (I had actually known about it, but not known just what I knew, for some time.) Sure, everyone talked about it, but there's nothing illegal about it, and she was hired as yearbook adviser the next year, while he was still working there.

[mindmetoo]

[No L]

My cousin ran away with her teacher on her 18th birthday. It was a week after graduation. They had been seeing each other her whole senior year. He was married too. They eventually got married and are still together, but I find it a creepy idea to date your students, former or not.

[Ya-ta Boy]

[Derrek]

I think the concern some parents have about gays in the school has virtually nothing to do with them worrying the gay guy would be after their children... and more to do with them worrying about the unwanted influence they gay person might have on an impressionable young person.

In other words, they don't want a gay child, and don't want to condone gay behavior. If they appear to condone it, then the child might think it's "OK" behavior to explore.

The fact is that few parents want their child to gain any sort of interest in the Hershey highway. They view that behavior as wrong/immoral, and sick.

Sure, it's fun to laugh at the gay guys in movies. They're funny to watch on "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy," but virutally no parents WANT their child to go that route.

[steroidmaximus]

[crazylemongirl]