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[Tiberious aka Sparkles]

My wife and I prefer to speak Klingon 'round the domicile.

Sparkles*_*

[TheUrbanMyth]

[Dysupes]

Corporal

I'm not going to defend Astroboy but the questions he posted that you've quoted as being highly offensive were just questions to me. I'm in a serious relationship with a Korean woman, will be getting married next year, and just chalked those two questions up to the same curiosity I have about other peoples situations. Not defending anyone, just saying how I took it...

[Corporal]

[komtengi]

[JongnoGuru]

[astroboyfan]

Actually, though it is none of any of your business, though I will try to clarify as some posters think my intentions are not genuine. The reason for this post was to show my significant other that even though we have language issues once in a while, that her English will continue to improve as will my Korean. Her English is quite good, as she is an English teacher, and picks up languages quite easily. She is just nervous that we will have problems in the future. The post was to reassure her that there are couples in Korea who have been together longer who and are not having significant problems with communication. Hate to tell you Corporal, but not all guys here in Korea are just out to "get laid."

As for my questions, So, if your husband cant speak english how do you communicate? How good is your Korean??

That was just an honest question, I would like to know if my question offended her, as it was not my intention. Glad you are the "champion" of the world, Corporal.

ps. Thanks for lowering it a step further in criticizing my spelling

[PolyChronic Time Girl]

Actually, I didn't really see anything wrong with Astroboyfan's question. He wrote it politely and asked if it was offensive . I've had other worse comments/questions about my marriage to an non-English speaking Korean guy and they never apologized about it. I think Corporal and Jongnoguru are right and hit it right on the nail about the double standard....a white girl with a non-English speaking Korean guy seems to get more raised eyebrows from the expat community than vice-versa because simply it's more rare to see. And JongnoGuru was especially right that it's seems to be more girls attacking this type of relationship (expect most of the girl posters on Dave's....they are very cool!) I guess it boils down to some girls' outdated thinking that a real man has to make all the effort/courting in the relationship and don't understand that I had to make a real effort to speak Korean to get to know him. When I tell some foreign women about my relationship, many can be very snotty. They say things like "oh, aren't you worried he'll control you?" Some girls look down on me and see me as the passive, non-independent woman because I've chosen to married a Korean guy. I had one girl the other day that looked at my clothes (I wear girly-girl Korean clothes) and she said "oh, does your husband make you wear those clothes?" and she chuckled But on the otherhand, I've met really cool foreign women here, and the reason why I like Dave's so much is because I get to read other female posters, like Corporal, who are in the similiar situation and they are very understanding (thanks girls!)
Anyway, I'm not really going to get detailed about my marriage communication. There was a thread about this awhile ago, and I felt a little attacked by some and got sick of defending our communication style. I'm just going to say we communicate fine and we've built a language that works just for us. We love each other and we work everyday at understanding each other...and it's fun doing that. Okay, I'll stop here before I get too cheesy

***We'll be having our actual wedding ceremony July 24th!! It will be a traditional Korean wedding and will post the pics here after. (I'll probably look funny in the hanbok and headdress). If anyone is close to Cheongju(Tzechuk? Casey's Moon?) and wants to see it, feel free to drop by on that day!

[astroboyfan]

Awesome.. congrats PolyChronic Time Girl, glad you were not offended by my post. I am sure you guys will be happy together... only you can decide what is best for you.. not everyone else.. (especially some of the posters on here )

[Corporal]

[Homer]

I have to say Corp hit the nail on the head here.

There is a blatant double standard here about mixed couples.
Western guys with Korean women get a far better response then Western women with Korean men.

In fact, the bias vs Korean men in here is rampant. It rears up its ugly head on a regular basis and when countered by someone is simply defended as an "opinion".

All this being said, it is true that some western women can be quite judgemental about a western guy who is with a Korean woman. But, that phenomenon, while equally distasteful is not as widely spread.

[tzechuk]

PCTG - DAMN! I am going to Hong Kong on 22nd I would really have come if I were in the Country!!!

As for you, Corporal... I think you are very cynical. Either that or I am naive because I never saw or thought anything bad from Astroboy's original post. He just asked how we communicated. Well, I went on Arirang TV's Heart to Heart about 18 months ago to talk about ISKA (International Spouses of Korean Association) and that was one of the questions asked.. I didn't think her intention was bad.. just a straightforward question...

Not everyone is bad like you'd like to think.

[astroboyfan]

[Corporal]

[tzechuk]