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hypnotist
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Location: I wish I were a sock
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| kermo wrote: |
Maybe eating an entire watermelon in under 10 seconds might make a better impression. |
Through a straw, right?
Aisss. All men are different - they're much like women in this respect. Some 'techniques' will 'work' but if you're trying too hard to pretend something, at some point it's going to end in tears.
Be natural, shrug off the failures and enjoy it.
Of course, if you just want to get laid every night, there are ways and means. Generally involving persistence, a lack of shame, an abundance of alcohol and/or paying for it.  |
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peppermint
Joined: 13 May 2003
Location: traversing the minefields of caddishness.
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| Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 7:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I never said that I'd actually use the technique, just something I discovered by accident. I've always had tons of male friends, and am an honorary " one of the guys" . Every time I started seeing someone, my male friends started becoming more attentive. |
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Wed Sep 07, 2005 9:53 pm Post subject: |
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| I never said that I'd actually use the technique, just something I discovered by accident. I've always had tons of male friends, and am an honorary " one of the guys" . Every time I started seeing someone, my male friends started becoming more attentive. |
Totally. Men don't want to lose the attention. We all secretly believe we are the sexiest man on the face of the planet. I know I am. That you show us any interest is evidence of that. That you can withdraw that attention is evidence to the contrary. So we'll work to get it back. |
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peemil
Joined: 09 Feb 2003
Location: Koowoompa
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 12:36 am Post subject: |
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| We all secretly believe we are the sexiest man on the face of the planet. |
Speak for yourself. I'm repulsive. I wouldn't touch me with a 10 foot pole. |
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Paji eh Wong
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 1:14 am Post subject: |
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| mindmetoo wrote: |
| peppermint wrote: |
| I never said that I'd actually use the technique, just something I discovered by accident. I've always had tons of male friends, and am an honorary " one of the guys" . Every time I started seeing someone, my male friends started becoming more attentive. |
Totally. Men don't want to lose the attention. We all secretly believe we are the sexiest man on the face of the planet. I know I am. That you show us any interest is evidence of that. That you can withdraw that attention is evidence to the contrary. So we'll work to get it back. |
I think of it more as everyone wanting options and being bad evaluators of "what they want". Everyone wants a plan A, plan B, plan C etc. If your plan C becomes some one elses plan A, you tend to reevaluate your options. You sit there and think "If she's good enough for guy X, she must be good enough for me." I suspect this goes for women too. |
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guangho
Joined: 19 Jan 2005
Location: a spot full of deception, stupidity, and public micturation and thus unfit for longterm residency
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 3:31 am Post subject: |
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| Ladies, you have my attention. |
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Bo Peabody
Joined: 25 Aug 2005
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 6:40 am Post subject: |
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| I've always had tons of male friends, and am an honorary " one of the guys" . Every time I started seeing someone, my male friends started becoming more attentive. |
Whenever one of my female buddies start seeing someone, I become more attentive to her because we can be even more comfortable just being close buddies without the sex/love factor getting in the way.
She is even more friendly and comfortable with me because she's now secured a love interest and therefore, the awkwardness between me and her is gone. I can get all kinds of invaluable tips on dating/sex/romance etc. from her.
I know it's a bit frowned upon by guys, but I enjoy having female friends.
I AM NOT GAY! 
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Babayaga
Joined: 28 May 2005
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 6:40 am Post subject: Dating a friend of the guy |
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| BEing unavailable, particularly if you're dating a friend of the guy's seems to work. |
I dated a friend of the guy that I was interested in (although not on purpose) ,but it didn't change his attitude one iota. But later I found out he was gay! 
It is true,though,in most cases,if you're dating someone,it piques the romantic interest of other males. Also,paying attention to other males does make a guy act faster on his intentions with regard to you. Mooning over a guy just makes him lose respect for you.
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Bulsajo
Joined: 16 Jan 2003
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| Well, I still think the whole 'sleep with his best friend' tactic is the best route to take. If it's not working maybe you just need to sleep with more of his friends. |
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keithinkorea
Joined: 17 Mar 2004
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I'm a guy and a picky one at that. Have a great gf and long out the 'game.
But It always struck me when I was sinlge is that women are like buses, you'll wait for ages in the cold and then three all come along at once! I think it really has to do with a confidence thing, you start going out with someone and all of a sudden you have a spring in your step, are more confident, more flirty, more relaxed and just generally giving off a lot of energy and joy of life.
No wonder you attract more people when your giving out those positive vibes into the world around you.
When it comes to male friends being more attentive, I know that I'm more attentive to my female friends when they start going out with someone new. A large part of that is being protective over them, I love some of my good female friends almost like family and I dont want to see my family get hurt. Girls don't take increased 'interest' by male friends as them being more interested in you, they might just be feeling that you could get hurt and looking out for you. That's not being patronising, we all like to look after people important to us, whether they be friends or lovers. |
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Babayaga
Joined: 28 May 2005
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| keithinkorea wrote: |
| Girls don't take increased 'interest' by male friends as them being more interested in you, they might just be feeling that you could get hurt and looking out for you. That's not being patronising, we all like to look after people important to us, whether they be friends or lovers. |
That's very CHIVALROUS of you! REALLY it is! That's not what I experienced,unfortunately. When a boyfriend of mine dumped me, a mutual male friend was quite spiteful and scornful,despite the fact that I had always been helpful and supportive of him. He certainly WASN'T protective. But then I found out that he was gay,so maybe he was just acting like a GIRL. 
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Bo Peabody
Joined: 25 Aug 2005
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| keithinkorea wrote: |
But It always struck me when I was sinlge is that women are like buses, you'll wait for ages in the cold and then three all come along at once! I think it really has to do with a confidence thing, you start going out with someone and all of a sudden you have a spring in your step, are more confident, more flirty, more relaxed and just generally giving off a lot of energy and joy of life.
No wonder you attract more people when your giving out those positive vibes into the world around you. |
This has held true for me as well and for many other young males that I've known. Babayaga, I think the words in bold are the key!
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| When it comes to male friends being more attentive, I know that I'm more attentive to my female friends when they start going out with someone new. A large part of that is being protective over them, I love some of my good female friends almost like family and I dont want to see my family get hurt. Girls don't take increased 'interest' by male friends as them being more interested in you, they might just be feeling that you could get hurt and looking out for you. That's not being patronising, we all like to look after people important to us, whether they be friends or lovers. |
Keith in Korea,
You said it best, brother! |
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BigBlackEquus
Joined: 05 Jul 2005
Location: Lotte controls Asia with bad chocolate!
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 2:37 pm Post subject: |
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| peppermint wrote: |
| BEing unavailable, particularly if you're dating a friend of the guy's seems to work. |
Does that work on women, too? |
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BigBlackEquus
Joined: 05 Jul 2005
Location: Lotte controls Asia with bad chocolate!
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| I never said that I'd actually use the technique, just something I discovered by accident. I've always had tons of male friends, and am an honorary " one of the guys" . Every time I started seeing someone, my male friends started becoming more attentive. |
Generally, I become "more attentive" to a girl in such a situation when I am worried that she's going to get hurt by the guy she is dating. For example, I had a female friend who couldn't get dates easily. Guys would have sex with her, but didn't want to date her, probably because she wasn't beautiful. So I was always worried when she met a "new guy" and fell head-over-heels for him. From what I heard of the guy, I just didn't trust him for her. |
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The Man known as The Man
Joined: 29 Mar 2003
Location: 3 cheers for Ted Haggard oh yeah!
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| Posted: Thu Sep 08, 2005 3:05 pm Post subject: Re: Will ignoring A GUY get his attention? |
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| Babayaga wrote: |
In response to the topic" will ignoring a girl get her attention?"---does ignoring a guy work?
What actually works if you're interested in a guy who only seems to want to be friends with you?
It seems sometimes that not even looks and talents/education combined work. 
Is it really all about SEX??!! 
And:why don't looks always work(slim/great hair) to get a guy sexually interested in you? Is there a type that guys prefer or a type that signals to them that they'll be great in bed?? |
get him drunk see what happens |
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