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[chest rockwell]

The sort of parent that will take their children to McD's every now and then if theyve been good or no McD's cos its just supporting the globalisation monster and I want my child to become as politically aware as early as possible?

A smack on the bum if theyve been bad or send them for 'time out'?

Let them watch TV when theyve done their homework or not even having a TV in the house cos communication between the family is more important?

Sit down as a family at the table and eat dinner or just if the situation suits itself?

[peppermint]

I'm not. Teaching 500 + kids a week has taught me that while I like kids, I do not want them around 24/7. I'm planning to be someone's favorite aunt though.

[tzechuk]

[peemil]

A good thumping every Sunday for the stuff they've done and I don't know about seems reasonable.

[Wrench]

I am just going to get my self sniped. Screw having kids, I never want one.

[Ody]

virtually no fast food here in the ROK. McDonalds in the US? yes. We went to Burger King too, and Chuckycheese. it's not about the food though, it's about the playgrounds!

i'll tan my son's hide, but only when he really earns it; with toddlers or very small children, a wrap on the hand works. this is done in combination with verbal explanations and warnings

TV in moderation is okay. same thing with computer games.

We try to eat together, but it's easier said than done.

[crazylemongirl]

I'm not.

[desultude]

I raised my daughter on no fast food, no spankings, and little to no television. She was hell on wheels and snuck candy and television whenever possible.

After all of the fights and noise and rebellion, she is raising her boys with no fast food, no spankings, and very little and closely monitored television.

Her boys are angels! Really, and in all of the advanced classes at school. Straight A students who never get in trouble.

Where did I go wrong?

[kimchikowboy]

Daughter had her first-ever day of work today -- an unsolicited one-day modelling gig for a photography studio. At three-and-a-half months old, she's making about $60 per hour.

[sheba]

McD's every now and then if it suits. I dont want them to think it is such a treat.

When I was little, my mother didnt give my brother and I veges for dinner for a few nights. Of course we wanted to know why mum and dad had a different meal. "they are special veges, that only grown ups like to eat. You wont like them" she told us. Of course we begged and begged to try some and of course we loved them. So we were given veges every night, and if we were good, we got extra special veges. Interesting parenting tactic, but it sure worked!! And I still love veges!

Smacking? Depends..... if its an important lesson, eg, if they run out onto the road, then yes theyll get a smack straight away. A time out is not severe enough for the lesson to be learned. If there are high consequences for their actions (perhaps injury of themselves or another) then a shock to the system can benefit. Im not talking a beating. I know this is a sensitive subject, so anyone feel free to rip me apart for my opinions... You dont have to agree.

I will let them watch tv when theyve finished their homework, done their chores and a little in between. Family time can be in the weekends, and after dinner. I think it is important to let kids relax straight after school though.

Depending on our jobs and schedules as to the sitting down for dinner or not. If we are busy and only have an easy dinner then casual is fine. Sunday nights as a family at a bare minimum though.

To be honest I think Im going to be the mum from hell!! Yep, ship em off to grandmas for the weekend I say! haha

[joe_doufu]

I think I'll try to ruin television for my kids the way Tony Robbins and others ruin smoking for their clients. I'll lock them up in a room and make them watch television for hours and hours and days and days until they can't stand the sight of the blasted machine. Then hopefully they'll never want to watch it again. I gave up television years ago but I might have one in the house for watching DVDs. I do like movies.

PS: I can't wait to be a father! I've just got to pick out a mother for my children first.

[Bulsajo]

I plan on saving lots of money by not spending anything on daycare or babysitters- those McDonald's playgrounds are there to be used, people.
Being left alone in one for eight hours is a 'character-building experience'.

[Greekfreak]

If we have any, I'm not going to smack them; my dad rarely hit me growing up (I was a good boy ). If they really deserve a smack though, I don't think that's the worst thing in the world. Most kids would like to know that mum and dad are actually paying attention. My potential kids are going to learn NOT to WHINE.

They'll be forced to listen to Otis Redding, the MC5, Stiv Bators, and Slowdive when they need to go to sleep.

The odd times I was hit, I knew then and know now that I sure as hell deserved it. My brother got countless wooden spoons broken over his arms. My sister never got hit--not to my knowledge--but home cooked meals will be the rage.

It's too easy for kids to get at fast food 'jernts', and the preservatives contained therein (in conjunction with lack of exercise and the lot) are what's making them fat. While I was relatively spoilt with Mickey D's as a kid, I had and still have a great constitution and great teeth--very few health problems as a result, but I can't do that anymore.

[brachy]

I don't want to have children.

But if by some 'accident' or change in destiny, I would be pretty strict I think...I just can't tolerate much crap from children. Here are some of my idea's for discipline:

1.) If my monster is playing on the escalators (kids seem to be so fascinated with them) I would simply say:
"Hey what are you? stupid? You look stupid you dumb arse"

2.) If my kid throws a tantrum in the street I would:
leave the little gimp there and pray for a criminal to take it. (whoever said kidnappers were detrimental to society? They are a frustrated parents best friend.)

3.) If my kid throws a tantrum at home I would:
Duck tape his mouth, scream at it for being so annoying until it has soiled its pants, then lock it in the closet where I have convinced him horrible monsters live, then make him eat from the dogs dish until Im convinced its learned its lesson.

As as ethical and moral standards Id set for the little one:
- I would teach it funny racial slang (there is nothing funnier than a good racial, somewhat distasteful joke- ever seen the amazing racist?)
- Violence is the only answer to lifes biggest problems (remember until a kid is 8 , anthing they do can't be legally responsible!)
- Don't respect anyone that doesn't respect you (except dear mommy and daddy until you at least leave the house)

Last but not least, I would tell the thing everyday, what an accident they were, this will keep vulernable, scared and wanting to leave home as soon as possible. Assa!

[canadian_in_korea]

Hmmm....what kind of parent am i..?....my daughter is 15 years old...just started high school...I've never hit/spanked her...I always found other things that hurt more than a smack....losing afavourite toy for a week....not going to school dances...much more effective. I explained why she couldn't do some things and then somtimes the explanation was just "because I said so...or that is the way it is"....sometimes things don't go the way we want them to in life, its best they learn that early, much easier to deal with when they get older. Now I'm expecting a son in November....I expect I'll be a little more strict with him, being a boy and all....my daughter is already planning on giving him the inside scoop as he gets older....'don't do this, don't do that or mom will flip". My daughter once asked me ...."how come parents get to tell their kids what to do but kids can't tell them what to do?"....the best reply I could come up with was...'your parents are your guide, they teach you right from wrong and hope when you are faced with situations and decisions to make that you make the right ones....if not they are there when you need them to be'.... remember that little verse...

One hundred years from now

It will not matter

What kind of car I drove,

What kind of house I lived in,

How much money I had in my bank account,

Nor what my clothes looked like.


But the world maybe a little better

Because I was important in the life of a child

I think whether you choose to have your own child, are an aunt/uncle..or choose to be a teacher..the role you play is just as important.