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Sleepy in Seoul

Joined: 15 May 2004 Location: Going in ever decreasing circles until I eventually disappear up my own fundament - in NZ
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 1:28 am Post subject: Random act of kindness |
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I was buying some �Ҵ߲�ġ (spicy chicken on a stick) at a food stand last night, just waiting for them to be prepared for me, when an ajosshi came up to me. He didn't say a word, just gave me the thumbs up, shook my hand, thumbs up again, put man won on the bench and left. I was gobsmacked. I didn't recognise him - maybe he was the father of one of my students, but I didn't know. This is far from the first time that a random Korean has done something kind and nice for me. It made my day . |
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RACETRAITOR
Joined: 24 Oct 2005 Location: Seoul, South Korea
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 1:51 am Post subject: Re: Random act of kindness |
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Maybe he thought you were homeless. |
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emkeyen
Joined: 14 Nov 2005 Location: Seoul
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 2:11 am Post subject: |
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Come to think of when I was really new here, like the second day or so, and was walking back and forth in the super market trying to figure out something that I could eat and finally resorted to picking cup noodles by random. I was interrupted by a woman who probably saw right through me as she pointed on some noodles I'd taken and said "vely stlong! dis one - vee-eely spicey!"  |
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VanIslander

Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 3:11 am Post subject: |
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There have been several threads about "random" acts of kindness by Koreans.
In an important sense they are not random: it's a cultural trait.
How one defines the cultural trait is open to debate but there is no doubting the non-random repetitive PATTERN to it.
I gave up being amazed by act so kindness from strangers after about thirty or forty of them (seriously). |
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Beej
Joined: 05 Mar 2005 Location: Eungam Loop
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 3:36 am Post subject: |
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VanIslander wrote: |
There have been several threads about "random" acts of kindness by Koreans.
In an important sense they are not random: it's a cultural trait.
How one defines the cultural trait is open to debate but there is no doubting the non-random repetitive PATTERN to it.
I gave up being amazed by act so kindness from strangers after about thirty or forty of them (seriously). |
But do you think koreans are "randomly kind" to black or brown people. Personally I dont think so. I think its about putting on a good face for whitie " see, Korea is a nice civilized country just like yours" |
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VanIslander

Joined: 18 Aug 2003 Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 4:00 am Post subject: |
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Beej wrote: |
But do you think koreans are "randomly kind" to black or brown people. Personally I dont think so. I think its about putting on a good face for whitie " see, Korea is a nice civilized country just like yours" |
Like I said: How one defines the cultural trait is open to debate.
(You can look for negatives in even the most positive of actions. And visa versa.) |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 4:41 am Post subject: |
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I think its about putting on a good face for whitie " |
Do you look at your own culture as cynically?
Koreans (many, many) are terrific people. Like the other poster I have been the recipient of many acts of random niceness here. One of my favorites is the hat I got because it was raining. That is just one of many.
A few weeks ago when it was still warm, I took my scooter on a ride through the countryside. (I live in the sticks to start with.) I pulled into a tiny little burg and bought a Coke and sat outside to enjoy the sunshine and to watch people drive by. A car pulled up and an ajosshi got out. We ended up in a conversation. The most interesting thing he said was that it was exciting for him to see a foreigner sitting by the side of the road in the boondocks because it meant that Korea was finally becoming a developed nation.
Sure some Koreans are xenophobic. But lots of them are delighted to have foreigners here. It's just the way it is. It's much easier to think all Koreans look, act and think the same. It means you don't have to think and deal with individuals as individuals. But it just ain't true. |
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blunder1983
Joined: 12 Apr 2005
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 4:52 am Post subject: |
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A few months back I missed my train home and got stranded in Seoul. Some young koreans at the bus stop not only told me which bus I wanted, but missed their bus to ensure I got on safely and told the bus driver to tell me when I should get off.
I was dead impressed. Of course the grinning ajumma who steals my cab in this freezing weather is the flip side of the coin, but I find Korea a very friendly place. |
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Ya-ta Boy
Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: Established in 1994
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 7:12 am Post subject: |
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Of course the grinning ajumma who steals my cab in this freezing weather is the flip side of the coin, but I find Korea a very friendly place. |
In my part of the English-speaking world we have a name for ajummas like that. It starts with 'b' and rhymes with 'itches'. They are not culture-specific, but they sure are plentiful on the ground here. So are the other kind of ajummas. |
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Swiss James

Joined: 26 Nov 2003 Location: Shanghai
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 7:20 am Post subject: |
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I was eating hotteok once at a stand when the guy next to me bought us another round. Not by any means the only time this kind of thing has happened, I'd actually forgotten about it until the OP reminded me. |
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jajdude
Joined: 18 Jan 2003
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 7:23 am Post subject: |
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In Osaka recently I met a guy from Senegal with his Japanese girlfriend. He invited me along to a bar called "'African Jungle" where they played some good reggae music. We had a good time chatting and dancing for an hour or two. He said he had to go, and he and his girlfriend left. I was still on a beer for a bit. Went to leave a bit later, going to pay the bar for my beers, not necessary, the Sengalese guy had covered me: 3 or 4 beers at 500 yen apiece. I was pleased enough to stick around and drink more! Ran into some cute Japanese girls, danced or whatever. Fun place. Nice owner, guy from Ghana. |
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Hater Depot
Joined: 29 Mar 2005
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 2:25 pm Post subject: |
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I was on the subway, trying to find Insadong on the map and having no luck (little did I know, there is no stop marked Insadong). There were two girls near me both doing their (very difficult) university-level English homework. So I asked them where Insadong was. Well, rather than trying to speak some English and telling me what to do, the one girl had me get off on the next stop, showed me how to duck under the turnstiles to avoid paying for the privilege of switching lines, and put me on my way. 10 minutes later I was kicking myself for not asking her name and number. |
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krats1976

Joined: 14 May 2003
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 4:23 pm Post subject: |
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VanIslander wrote: |
I gave up being amazed by act so kindness from strangers after about thirty or forty of them (seriously). |
Well now, that's a shame. This is one of the saddest things I've read on here (seriously). |
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riley
Joined: 08 Feb 2003 Location: where creditors can find me
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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random acts of kindess rock. I've had them done for me and I try to do the same for anyone I can. |
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jlb
Joined: 18 Sep 2003
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2005 6:43 pm Post subject: |
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Story time:
1. One time, my friend from Canada came to visit me. We were at the Cheonan train station waiting for a train to Seoul I think. At the station, they have one of those machines that makes almond cakes. We were standing around, watching it because as you know, it can be quite mesmerizing.
This old lady must have seen us watching it, so she bought us a small package and just handed it to us. She couldn't speak English and so I thanked her as best I could in Korean. Very cool. My friend was amazed!
2. One time, I went hiking to some National park by myself. I didn't want to go down the mountain the same way I came up so took some random path. I ended up with no idea where I was. I started walking the road, hoping to find a bus stop or something. I ended up at a ranger station and the ranger, through my horrible Korean figured out where I wanted to go. He motioned for me to get in the truck and drove me totally out of his way to this bus stop. Then he got out and appointed this nice old man to make sure I got to the bus station in the city I wanted to go to.
Lots of good experiences for me in Korea with random acts of kindness. More times than I can mention, while out hiking, Koreans would invite me to join them for lunch or a snack or a coffee or whatever they had. It was awesome. |
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