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[Alpha-Epsilon]

I've often kind of wondered about what it would be like to be married to one of these broads. Oh, the virility of the manhood in me now, against such a svelte womanhood amongst us, that I feel denied! And now, apalled!

But why? The other day I'd seen one, the other half of me. I wondered, too, where the father was, and who he was, and if he was, and if she was what he was, since I couldn't tell what the child was, and pondered what the others, our Korean friends, thought the poor babe was. It certainly wasn't 100% Korean. Yet I'm pretty sure she was, due to her looks, and the baby not, due to his.

And then I pondered. Would I want my child to march through life half-mast, and that without a flag to defend? I wouldn't want to have to go through with it for his/her sake. In the West, yes. In Korea, it'd be a nightmare, and married to a Korean woman would only make it impossible for the child to identify with its other roots any which way, let alone its own, the mother's.

Or wouldn't it?

I guess I just feel relieved, and wonder what those who've married must go through. Should they become Korean, Canadian? Their child? What about ideological differences, religious, race? Would a Korean woman really be able to identify with any us but her own, and that without but some kind of Korea-town?

I guess I'm glad I just wasn't suckered into this gamble. I find, too, that Western women are more befitting afterall.

[peppermint]

Dude, you're really overthinking this. From what I can tell, you fall in love with the right person, and these kinds of things work themselves out.

[EFLtrainer]

No, no no, peppermint. You're missing the point. If you are a white boy and you marry a white girl you won't have any difficulties in life.


Garsh, I thought that was obvious!!

[schwa]

I think what the OP really wants is to marry his mom.

[ilovebdt]

[bellum99]

Where is the OP from? It sounds like a 1950's thing to say. Holy grow up and join the real world. There is a large population of mixed people in the world (like most of South America). You sound really screwed-up (pa didn't whoop ya'll enuff).

[seoulkitchen]

I can understand what the OP is askin aboU t.
I know people of mixed descent and they go through these questions of identitiy. Being a military brat born in the 'Axis of Evil" and being really facsnated by the country, I often have weird feelings. The USA hates the country where I was born. small minded people hated me for being born there. I can never go there.
Where we are born can have quite an effect on us. Same with wherever we live.
Some of us can choose between citizenships. How do we decide that?

Mine was a difficult decision.

Don't ride the OP, it's a legit question.

If you are born of one country but rasied in another...
Bi-national parents.....
Born here, raised there, live here......

I just consider myslf a global citizen.

[Satori]

Who says "broads" in this day and age?

[plato's republic]

A most pertinent question my good man.

[vlcupper]

[jacl]

[pet lover]

I'm a half and half. I got harassed some as a child, but not all that much. Don't all kids get harassed and teased for one reason or another? I grew up with two cultures, but pretty much only noticable around holiday time. I loved it. We alternated which way to do it. Eventually, it all melded together and rather than two different cultural ways of doing it, we had our own family's traditional way of doing it. I ended up knowing a LOT about the culture I was raised in and not that much about the other and I've gone through periods in my life where I regretted that, but not enough to actually make the effort to get to know it. But I didn't have very noticable physical characteristics that made it easy for strangers on the street to point me out. It was more subtle and more noticed by people who knew me or spent a long time staring. I think it was a lot more of my attitude and behavior that got the most people suspecting I wasn't an all-American girl. But I also grew up thinking that everyone was mixed--perhaps not in the immediate generation, but go back enough, everyone is mixed. So, it just didn't bother me.

I wouldn't hesitate to have children who might exhibit the characterisitcs of two cultures or races provided it was going to be with the person I loved. Now different religions--that's a whole other story.

[bellum99]

I dated a lot back home and some in Korea before marriage. I think everything depends on who you marry. Having children is a big responsibility and having mixed children is a little bit harder...but not if you are easy going about it. Let them choose what they care about...present the information and allow them to explore both cultures all they want. It doesn't have to be a big deal.
Most of the world is changed in regards to mixed childen. It isn't the same as it was before. It is even interesting for most people..not shocking at all. It is a non-issue.