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sistersarah
Joined: 03 Jan 2004
Location: hiding out
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 Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:05 am Post subject: The cat came back.....What would you do? |
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so i found a cat on friday night... you might have seen my post.
i was happy to find the owner about 11:00pm that night. i heard him calling the cat. actually, the owner lives upstairs from us.
so when i got up this morning, i heard the cat meowing at the door. i let it in to say hello and i let it out, but it always comes back, meowing. then it comes in, makes itself at home and doesn't want to leave.
my husband rang the owner's doorbell several times today and no one is home. so i think what's happening is, they let the cat out every time they go out and let it in when they get home.
this cat is not an outdoor cat, it's starved for attention, and seems to be hungry because it gobbles up the cat food samples i got from the local vet.
i can't believe the people upstairs made the thing stay outside for over 12 hours today. my husband just rang the doorbell again and still, no one home.
what would you do? i'd like to keep the cat, but it does have an owner. although it's owner may be neglectful, do you think i should keep the cat?
actually, i forgot to mention that the owners upstairs have had several pets in the year that we've lived here. first it was a husky they kept outside on the porch ALL the time. that one lasted a couple months. then they got a little dog that was yelping all the time. i even woke up in the night and i think it was getting spanked because it was really yelping. that lasted a couple months as well.
so, i'm afraid these people are "pet of the week" kind of people and they have this cat because they can let it out whenever they don't want it around. but it obviously doesn't like it outside. it's just a big baby.
aaah, i don't know what to do. it's a tough call, because if i give the cat back whenever they start calling for it, i know it's gonna come back to my door or get hit by a car or another foreigner is going to take.
this post was much too long.....
anyway, what would you do? |
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Dawn
Joined: 06 Mar 2004
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:12 am Post subject: |
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| I would vote for keeping the cat. |
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VanIslander
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:20 am Post subject: |
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no need to "own" the cat, you could be a "caretaker"
take care of the cat whenever you can in the context of the cat's other home
that's what i'd do
it takes a village to raise a kitty |
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pdxsteve
Joined: 29 Sep 2004
Location: Bundang
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:37 am Post subject: |
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| Work out some sort of arrangement with your neighbors to "share" custody of the cat. |
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Son Deureo!
Joined: 30 Apr 2003
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 7:06 am Post subject: |
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| Agreed, catnapping would be a bad idea. |
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canuckistan
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Joined: 17 Jun 2003
Location: Training future GS competitors.....
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 7:09 am Post subject: |
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That's funny! The cat loves you more  |
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Lemonade
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 7:42 am Post subject: |
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| Ah, just keep the cat inside until the neighbors ask you about it. If they don't ask, don't tell. Then, keep the cat. Don't let the cat out. Cats should not be allowed to wonder around outside as they can be hit by cars, run off etc. It's okay I guess if you have a huge farm, but this is Korea and isn't there some type of leash law, finders keepers kind of thing here? Your neighbors aren't good pet owners obviously based on their track record. They don't have a very high regard for pets, sooo what are the chances that they'd care about you keeping it anyway? Hey, I know cats WELL, and I can assure you that this cat will OWN YOU in no time. Now that you've let it in and it's made itself comfortable, you won't be able to say no unless you are cold and mean, which I don't think you are. I've taken in quite a few strays this way and they make excellent pets. |
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Lemonade
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
Location: South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 7:50 am Post subject: |
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| pdxsteve wrote: |
| Work out some sort of arrangement with your neighbors to "share" custody of the cat. |
BAD, BAD, BAD idea. Obviously you don't know cats. They do not adjust well to changes like that. Cats like ONE home and they are known for claiming ownership of their people. They aren't like dogs. A dog you could share custody of, but a cat, no way, no how. |
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mithridates
Joined: 03 Mar 2003
Location: President's office, Korean Space Agency
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 8:05 am Post subject: |
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| Lemonade wrote: |
| pdxsteve wrote: |
| Work out some sort of arrangement with your neighbors to "share" custody of the cat. |
BAD, BAD, BAD idea. Obviously you don't know cats. They do not adjust well to changes like that. Cats like ONE home and they are known for claiming ownership of their people. They aren't like dogs. A dog you could share custody of, but a cat, no way, no how. |
Except for that cat that used to come crash at our house every once in a while when I was young. We had our own cat who hated and has hated every single other cat she's ever met, except this one for some weird reason. This cat would just show up at the door, walk in and lounge about, and did it ever meow. Just meowed at everyting. Meow, meow, meow. Catnip made it even more crazy than the average cat. Then he'd sleep a bit, hang out, eat a bit, and then a few hours later or the next day ask to go out and then he wouldn't be back for a week. |
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JongnoGuru
Joined: 25 May 2004
Location: peeing on your doorstep
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 8:49 am Post subject: Re: The cat came back.....What would you do? |
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| sistersarah wrote: |
i can't believe the people upstairs made the thing stay outside for over 12 hours today. my husband just rang the doorbell again and still, no one home....
what would you do? i'd like to keep the cat, but it does have an owner. although it's owner may be neglectful, do you think i should keep the cat? ...
so, i'm afraid these people are "pet of the week" kind of people and they have this cat because they can let it out whenever they don't want it around. but it obviously doesn't like it outside. it's just a big baby....
anyway, what would you do? |
What I, you or anyone does will depend on their situation, and I don't know enough about yours to say.
Do you really want a cat? If so, why don't you have one already?
How much do you want that cat?
How long will you be living there? (I thought you were moving.)
If you really want to take that cat in, go together with your husband up to its owners, carrying the cat in your arms, and have your husband say that you really, really like the cat and can you please keep it? While he's saying this, you keep holding the cat and petting and talking to him/her. It helps if you put on a sad schoolgirl face. If they say no, say "awwww, please". If that fails, start crying. If that too fails, have your husband offer them 50,000 won. If none of this works, tell them that you're leaving catfood laced with rat poison outside your door, so don't be surprised if kitty suddenly goes on a long, unannounced holiday. Of course you'd never really do that. The effect is that they'll either keep their cat indoors where it belongs, or they'll give in and you get to keep kitty.
But I'll bet they'd take the 50,000 won. They could put that toward the purchase of their next pet.
BUT, if you don't really want to raise a cat (which may be why you don't have one already), or if you're not wild about that one in particular, and it's just the sad situation that's motivating you... Then I'd say, um... Oh hell, just take him in anyway. He needs a better owner, and sometimes it's the animal who chooses us, not the other way around. I say this as someone who's had nothing but rescue-situation pets in Korea, and I guess I'd just like to spread the "pain" around a bit.  |
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sistersarah
Joined: 03 Jan 2004
Location: hiding out
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 9:09 am Post subject: |
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thanks for the replies.
the guy finally came home at 12am and called for the cat.
my husband went out with the cat and told him that we'd had the cat in the house for 12 hours.
the guy said he lets it out because it always seems to want out ....(no kidding, if it's not happy).
my husband assured him that it did not want to go out while in our house (actually, we opened the door for it several times and it wouldn't leave).
the cat actually tried to run away from its owner when my husband tried to hand it off.
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Do you really want a cat? If so, why don't you have one already?
How much do you want that cat?
How long will you be living there? (I thought you were moving.)
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yeah, i'd love a cat and since i'm in korea long-term, i'm in a good situation to have a pet. i traveled with pets internationally before, so i don't mind that. we're moving, but just within seoul, not a problem.
but i like your idea, jongno guru. maybe i'll give up my seollal money for the little guy. |
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VanIslander
Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Location: Geoje, Hadong, Tongyeong,... now in a small coastal island town outside Gyeongsangnamdo!
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 9:17 am Post subject: |
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| sistersarah wrote: |
| maybe i'll give up my seollal money for the little guy. |
and you could make the kitty your new avatar! |
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Beavis
Joined: 24 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 11:42 am Post subject: |
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the cat jus BEeeng a wuss
kick his a$s
take it FRom me i kno a tihng oR 2 about cats
u hav to teech him how to bee indypendant. its teh best u can do for him |
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Zyzyfer
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: who, what, where, when, why, how?
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| Posted: Mon Jan 30, 2006 5:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Beavis wrote: |
the cat jus BEeeng a wuss
kick his a$s
take it FRom me i kno a tihng oR 2 about cats
u hav to teech him how to bee indypendant. its teh best u can do for him |
Shut up, Beavith, before I kick your ath. |
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Imbroglio
Joined: 23 Jan 2003
Location: Behind the wheel of a large automobile
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