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blunder1983
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 Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 8:17 am Post subject: Anorexia |
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Just found out my friend in England has been hospitalised for her anorexia. Its been a long long long time she's had it but she left home to go to uni again this year and it got massively worse. (5ft8 and she's 6stone)
So I'm writing a letter in the attempt to raise her spirits. Anyone got any thoughts on how I try and get her to change her attitude? I've read a few books on the subject and they seem to say its all pointless until the individual in question makes the decision to stay alive. Dont wanna be as cras as to say, put on weight. Something more subtle.
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Demonicat
Joined: 18 Nov 2004
Location: Suwon
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 8:44 am Post subject: |
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| Just be supportive. Everyone and their sister will be telling her to eat, or talking about the time they "came down with anorexia" and didn't eat for 6 hours. Just tell her that you're happy she's ok, and that you guys will do something fun when you get back. |
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canuckistan
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Joined: 17 Jun 2003
Location: Training future GS competitors.....
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| Posted: Wed Feb 01, 2006 9:06 am Post subject: Re: Anorexia |
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| blunder1983 wrote: |
Just found out my friend in England has been hospitalised for her anorexia. Its been a long long long time she's had it but she left home to go to uni again this year and it got massively worse. (5ft8 and she's 6stone)
So I'm writing a letter in the attempt to raise her spirits. Anyone got any thoughts on how I try and get her to change her attitude? I've read a few books on the subject and they seem to say its all pointless until the individual in question makes the decision to stay alive. Dont wanna be as cras as to say, put on weight. Something more subtle.
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A friend in high school had a hell of a time with anorexia and bulimia for years. It started when her father quipped that she'd get more dates if she lost some weight. An off-hand comment found the wrong person at the wrong time. My friend pulled out of it after 10 years of physically feeling like crap and more than one health crisis.
Anorexia goes deeper than just wanting to be thin. It's about many things psychologically; a skewed body image and exerting control over one's life. Many anorexics feel powerless over their lives, but they CAN control what they eat.
Treatment often includes therapy sessions with parents as many anorexia problems are rooted in the family dynamic. It sometimes hard to get everyone to the table to discuss these things openly.
When anorexics have been starving their bodies over long periods of time unfortunately permanent, serious health problems arise--mostly damage to major organs like heart, liver, kidneys as the body seeks sources of protein within itself to survive.
I think the best you could do for your friend is re-affirm your love and support to her, unconditionally.
I sincerely hope your friend's treatment is successful and she recovers to go on and fulfill her dreams. |
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jlb
Joined: 18 Sep 2003
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Ditto with the suppportive. She's heard enough people tell her to eat and that she really is skinny and that she will eventually kill herself, etc, etc.
Maybe some encouragment would be good. Tell her why you are her friend and why you love her and care about her. Tell her how her being in the hospital makes you feel. |
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Gorgias
Joined: 27 Aug 2005
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| In my ignorant opinion it's a big complex issue for that person. My poor sister was a terrible anorexic, bulimic, tried to kill herself twice, got into coke in a bad way and got into all sorts of other self destructive things. It went on for years, and I was supposed to be looking after her from when she was 16. What the hell was I supposed to do when I was 18, 20, 21, 22? I had no clue. Her friend and I got her commited once for a while but it didn't make any difference. Sorry @blunder1983, I have no idea. Now, a decade later, she's doing well. Why? I have no idea. The person just has to work through it themselves. If you try and care, they resent you; if you don't care they resent you. |
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