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How do your teachers talk to you? with a "yo?"
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antoniothegreat



Joined: 28 Aug 2005
Location: Yangpyeong

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 6:14 pm    Post subject: How do your teachers talk to you? with a "yo?" Reply with quote

Just a random thought, some of my teachers talk to me as they would a Korean teacher, with a high level politeness and courtesy. For example, if they see me walking they ask "��� ������?" (where are you going)

Others do not use yo-��. so they ask "��� ��?" (not polite) I don't know if they use this because they think of us as friends and it is not needed, or if they think because I am not Korean I do not deserve a "��."

When I speak to them in my limited Korean, I always use "yo" so they are not simply doing what I do.

What about everyone else? and do you care? sometimes i dont care, but on days I am upset over something Korean, this bothers me a little.

I have thought about simply using the non-polite versions to the teachers that do to mw, and seeing what they do. if they get mad then obviously they think they are just superior to me since i am not korean, or if they say nothing then it isnt too big of a deal.

but then there is one teacher that is never polite to any teacher, and everyone hates him.

do you guys care? what do you think?
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Ya-ta Boy



Joined: 16 Jan 2003
Location: Established in 1994

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 6:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

This is a tricky one.

Be very careful about dropping the 'yo'. If there is an age gap, you could start a major rudeness problem.

My suggestion: ask your co-teacher what is happening. That person is on the spot and can hear/observe the situation and knows the other people involved. Your co-teacher can explain if the teachers dropping the 'yo' are expressing friendliness or rudeness, and can tell you how to respond.
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gypsyfish



Joined: 17 Jan 2003
Location: Seoul

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 7:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yo! What up dawg?

(Jezuz, I can't even pull it off when it's written. I'm so from the 'burbs.)
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Jamin



Joined: 21 Jun 2005
Location: Daejon

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 11:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It is a general rule of thumb that co-workers should use the polite form when addressing another teacher. If a teacher chooses to not use the polite form it is thier signal that they want to be on friendly terms with you. If you are not getting "I want to be your friend" vibe from them and they are not using the polite forms then they are taking liberaties that they shouldn't be taking because you are a foreigner.

This obsersation is based on my own experiences and my wife's who is Korean and is a teacher in an elementary school
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Son Deureo!



Joined: 30 Apr 2003

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 11:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Another possible reason they might be addressing you in banmal is that many Koreans are under the mistaken impression that informal language is somehow easier to understand than formal language. I would be careful about jumping the gun and getting angry, as they might not mean you any disrespect.

I second the advice above, ask your English-speaking co-teachers what they think, and handle it through them calmly and civilly.
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Xerxes



Joined: 10 Jan 2006
Location: Down a certain (rabbit) hole, apparently

PostPosted: Sat Apr 08, 2006 11:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jamin wrote:
It is a general rule of thumb that co-workers should use the polite form when addressing another teacher. If a teacher chooses to not use the polite form it is thier signal that they want to be on friendly terms with you. If you are not getting "I want to be your friend" vibe from them and they are not using the polite forms then they are taking liberaties that they shouldn't be taking because you are a foreigner.

This obsersation is based on my own experiences and my wife's who is Korean and is a teacher in an elementary school


I concur with the above.

I will also add that when I worked at a particular high school, they did use the polite form of speech with me, but never tried to refer to me as Homer Simpson Sunsang-nim, which would be the polite address. I always got instead, "Homer?" I would have been ok with even "Simpson Sungsang-nim," but no. I figured "when in Rome," applies to me as well as to the Romans.

When I spoke in English with other foreign teachers, I would call them by their familiar name, because of the "When in Rome" thing again. I guess that the Korean teachers were mixing addressing me in the familiar Western way with their Korean usage. Not to address me in the familiar would mean that they were lower than the foreign teachers that just drop the formalities?

I never understood this well. I even got mad about this once and straight out told them that they were being rude and I got all flustered about it, but the change only lasted maybe a day. The next day was back to "Homer" again.

I shoudda just worked for Scratchy from the first.
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tomato



Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: I get so little foreign language experience, I must be in Koreatown, Los Angeles.

PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 1:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hello, Antonio the Great!
Hello, Xerxes!
Hello, Jinju!
Hello, C. W. Emory!
Hello, Cuban Lord!

This is the first, second, third, fourth, and fifth time I have heard of Korean teachers even speaking to foreign teachers in Korean.
How do you do it?

I have worked in six different English schools, and I have yet to meet a Korean teacher who will even say as much as "�ȳ� �ϼ���." If I speak Korean to them, they run to the director and complain that my Korean is difficult to understand.

When a Korean adult speaks English to me, I take that as a sign that I am a perennial infant. Besides, I don't like backstabbers, just like nobody else likes backstabbers. So naturally, I stay far away from the Korean teachers.

Then what do they do when I stay away from them? After complaining that my Korean is so bad, and after insinuating that I am too unimportant to merit a few minutes of their time, they have the audacity to complain to the director that I'm unfriendly to them!

I would gladly trade places with any one of you any day.


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I_Am_Wrong



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PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 2:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

different people, different strokes. Older teachers and younger teachers are very different....you can tell immediately by their style of dress at school. Some might drop the you because you're younger and some might drop it because they consider you a friend.
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jinju



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PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 4:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

At my school everyone uses the �� form with me, even the vice princpal and principal, and sometimes they use the highest form as well. All the other teachers do and I do it in return.
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Qinella



Joined: 25 Feb 2005
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PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 4:23 am    Post subject: Re: How do your teachers talk to you? with a "yo?" Reply with quote

antoniothegreat wrote:
Just a random thought, some of my teachers talk to me as they would a Korean teacher, with a high level politeness and courtesy. For example, if they see me walking they ask "��� ������?" (where are you going)

Others do not use yo-��. so they ask "��� ��?" (not polite) I don't know if they use this because they think of us as friends and it is not needed, or if they think because I am not Korean I do not deserve a "��."

When I speak to them in my limited Korean, I always use "yo" so they are not simply doing what I do.

What about everyone else? and do you care? sometimes i dont care, but on days I am upset over something Korean, this bothers me a little.

I have thought about simply using the non-polite versions to the teachers that do to mw, and seeing what they do. if they get mad then obviously they think they are just superior to me since i am not korean, or if they say nothing then it isnt too big of a deal.

but then there is one teacher that is never polite to any teacher, and everyone hates him.

do you guys care? what do you think?


You didn't mention anything about social statuses of people you are talking about. Are the ones using familiar language older than you, or in a higher ranking position such as department head?

Where I worked last year, there were two Korean English teachers. We shared the building with another hagwon, about 30 teachers, almost none of whom spoke English. The two teachers I worked directly with never spoke Korean to me. (However, there was an incident where one of them sent me 7 consecutive, steaming mad text messages, all in banmal.) But when they spoke Korean to each other, it was a mix of familiar and polite.

The teachers from the other hagwon always used polite speech with me. The only two exceptions were buwonjongnim (vice director) and gwajangnim (dept. head), who were extremely friendly to me, and always used banmal to me and everyone else.

Status is important. What's the scenario at your school?

Q.
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cwemory



Joined: 14 Jan 2006
Location: Gunpo, Korea

PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 4:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

The older teachers at my school use the "�Դϴ�" form with me. Apparently it's the appropriate form to use in the workplace. This is usually in short sentences and phrases though. Among the younger teachers who allow me to pracitce longer conversation with them, the "�Դϴ�" form is used at first, before switching to the "��" form. �ݸ� between teachers is never used, even with me. If a student uses �ݸ� with me (beacause they think its easier for me), the nearest Korean teacher usually chastises him or her.

Also, gypsyfish, try "Yo dawg, what's up?". It��s slightly less suburban.
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antoniothegreat



Joined: 28 Aug 2005
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PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 7:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i appreciate all the feedback, the teachers that drop the yo are older men, so in their world, they are of higher status, but i always thought all teachers get a yo, regardless of age.

i like the advice, next time it happens i will ask about it. it really doesnt get to me, but i just wonder if they are disrespecting me, no one wants that.

someone posted how their teachers dont even talk to them, wow... i didnt do anything special, just was polite and always gave them the politically correct answers when i came here (yes, i like korea, kimchi is delicious, korean women are pretty, i am trying to learn korea...)
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antoniothegreat



Joined: 28 Aug 2005
Location: Yangpyeong

PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 7:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i appreciate all the feedback, the teachers that drop the yo are older men, so in their world, they are of higher status, but i always thought all teachers get a yo, regardless of age.

i like the advice, next time it happens i will ask about it. it really doesnt get to me, but i just wonder if they are disrespecting me, no one wants that.

someone posted how their teachers dont even talk to them, wow... i didnt do anything special, just was polite and always gave them the politically correct answers when i came here (yes, i like korea, kimchi is delicious, korean women are pretty, i am trying to learn korea...)
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tomato



Joined: 31 Jan 2003
Location: I get so little foreign language experience, I must be in Koreatown, Los Angeles.

PostPosted: Sun Apr 09, 2006 8:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

antoniothegreat wrote:
Someone posted how their teachers don't even talk to them.


No, I said that they don't even talk to me in Korean.
If they won't talk to me in English, I'd rather they DIDN'T talk to me.
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Neil



Joined: 02 Jan 2004
Location: Tokyo

PostPosted: Mon Apr 10, 2006 6:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

tomato wrote:
antoniothegreat wrote:
Someone posted how their teachers don't even talk to them.


No, I said that they don't even talk to me in Korean.
If they won't talk to me in English, I'd rather they DIDN'T talk to me.


Try public schools, the teachers tend to be older and more likely to address you in Korean than a straight out of uni hagwon chick eager to practice English.
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