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[travel zen]

Two Korean girls in Toronto:

Girl 1

Sitting in Cultures, she tells me she was sexually abused by her uncle and that she had a 'growth' on her arm (white patch of something). She was interested in other girls and occasionally would flip out and scream her head off if she didn't get her way.

Girl 2

I was going out with a few girls when I was seeing her, so I neglected her a bit. She would call my cell and leave mumbling, sad sounds like an animal. Sometimes she would say that she was horny and "how could you do that to me" She was right and I suspect that she might have slept with my friend as retaliation.

Oh well.

[periwinkle]

[Hobophobic]

[Cedar]

The most recent was "Psycho Stalker". I thought f---buddy and fixer-upper, but when I was ready to never see him again, he got very psycho... ever have someone call you so many times that your phones last 60 received numbers are all him and you can't even dial a number because you'll end up answering his call instead?

One time he broke one of those big beer bottles over his head and ran around the house chasing me with it after batting his sister into the wall. Things were so bad, his sister would sneak over to my house and tell him she was staying with another friend... she was too embarassed to tell her friends how bad it was living with big brother and I already knew how he was.

He "knew" I still loved him, because when he'd be falling down drunk and screaming outside my door (at an ungodly hour) I'd throw him onto my back like a sack of potatoes and carry him home (he weighed only about 65 kilos).

As it went on for two years, I have many such stories...

[Hobophobic]

...these folks should all be put onto an island together and have their own TV show....

[cdninkorea]

I forgot about another story that happened to a guy I know:

He went out with a Korean girl, had dinner, then went to a bar and had a few drinks. He didn't plan it this way, didn't intend it, but he ended up in bed with her.
So next day he says to her that he's going on vacation for a week and will call her when he gets back (this was already planned vacation time from his school).
When he gets back calls her to make plans to meet up again, she doesn't pick up. Soon after, though, she sends him a text message saying something to the effect of "I can't meet you again, I'm married"
He calls again, letting it ring as long as it takes for her to pick up, and eventually she does.
She explains that she wasn't married when they went out, but just got married a few days before. When he asks for the whole story, she explains that she's past 30 and has to get married because the pressure is so intense. So apparently she met her new husband a few days ago, and he proposed to her shortly after meeting. She accepted and that was that.
Naturally, he's a little shocked and tells her so. She insists that this is perfectly normal behaviour in Korean culture.

Is it?

[RACETRAITOR]

Not really. That's farked up. But people who do that think it is normal.

[KumaraKitty]

Met an Egyptian guy my first year here. He worked at an embassy, well-dressed, intelligent, a complete gentleman. I was new to the whole dating thing so I agreed to start seeing him. (Had married my first and only BF and got divorced just before I came to Korea). After about 3 dates, I was introduced to his friends (married couple), who begged me to move in with them. They had an amazing, HUGE, new apartment in Hannam dong, and were convinced I needed to stay with them so they could take care of me. He supported them and suggested we even have a "Private marriage" under Muslim law, so we could have sex without breaking any of his Muslim laws. I decided it was time to stop. I went home for Christmas and came back telling him I couldn't see him again. No big deal I thought, he lived in Itaewon, and I lived in Incheon. He couldn't drive to my area, didn't know the subway, etc. After a week of constant emails and calls, I received a call from a K-chick who knew him. She raved about what a great guy he was, how I should give him a chance, he'd make me happy, he had 2 houses in Egypt, he'd give me gold as some sort of dowry, etc. I said no. Then it got scary.
I started getting drunken emails and phone calls, telling me what I was wearing that day, where I'd been. At first I just deleted them. Then they started getting threatening. He had the embassy driver drive him to my area every night and he would WATCH me walking home. He went to the bars in the area where the expats hung out, he asked other teachers about me. I had told him I had moved back to Canada, and he found some girl who told him I was still in Korea. He said he knew my phone number, where I lived and that he had been 2 feet away from at one point and I didn't even notice him. I was freaked. Told my friends, started studying martial arts, told my boss, put everyone on alert. This continued for 8 months. Finally, at the end, he told me his new Canadian and GF and he were going to Canada Day celebrations in Seoul, and she'd heard so much about me and they couldn't wait to hang out with me! Freakish!
I changed jobs, phones, apartments, areas, and even made a new email address. He kept changing his email address to try to MSN me. I blocked him 10 times before he gave up.
The whole time he kept crying to me, asking why I didn�t love him. Please note I had 3 dates before this happened!

[cubanlord]