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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: almost there...
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| Since when does personality equal sexual technique? Am I missing something? |
Because women like to feel that 'someone gets them' before getting them into bed. |
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Veronica Rose
Joined: 01 Apr 2006
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| Posted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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What I mean is that a caring, sensitive guy is more likely to care about his partner's pleasure and put a little effort into it than a callous brute.
And also, I'm not sure what sex is like for men, but I think that for most women... okay I have no idea, but for me, sexual pleasure is partly physical and partly psychological. There's gotta be some kind of connection (personality helps here). |
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mindmetoo
Joined: 02 Feb 2004
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| Posted: Thu Jun 08, 2006 10:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Since when does personality equal sexual technique? Am I missing something? |
I think so. Sure some women like being bent into novel positions and having their wetter womanly bits mashed against rock hard male parts and a guy who just knows how to jack hammer them into one of those tightly wound up dimensions superstring types are always yammering on about, but some women like mind sex. For many women, foreplay starts the moment you pick them up at their house.
But I suspect Corporal has a completely different opinion. |
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Guri Guy
Joined: 07 Sep 2003
Location: Bamboo Island
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 3:48 am Post subject: |
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I work hard to stay in shape and I have decently sized muscles. I do honestly think personality is just as important though.
Let's put it this way. I think if a person has self respect for themselves they will try to keep in good shape. Not everyone can have Rock-star good looks (and I certainly don't  ) but they can at least make an effort. Making that effort and having that self respect is part of a winning personality for me. So I really think the two are interrelated.
Now if you asked if Rock-star good looks were more important that would be different. Not everyone is lucky enough to be born like Tom Cruise or whoever.
I also wonder, what would you say Korean women in general prefer? The typical Korean man is of a slighter build than most Westerners. Would a Korean woman be interested in big muscles because it is more exotic looking in general? (Not that I haven't seen some "jacked" Korean guys here) Or is personality most important here? Just curious... |
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tacon101
Joined: 31 Oct 2005
Location: seoul
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 4:01 am Post subject: |
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I work hard to stay in shape and I have decently sized muscles. I do honestly think personality is just as important though.
Let's put it this way. I think if a person has self respect for themselves they will try to keep in good shape. Not everyone can have Rock-star good looks (and I certainly don't ) but they can at least make an effort. Making that effort and having that self respect is part of a winning personality for me. So I really think the two are interrelated.
Now if you asked if Rock-star good looks were more important that would be different. Not everyone is lucky enough to be born like Tom Cruise or whoever.
I also wonder, what would you say Korean women in general prefer? The typical Korean man is of a slighter build than most Westerners. Would a Korean woman be interested in big muscles because it is more exotic looking in general? (Not that I haven't seen some "jacked" Korean guys here) Or is personality most important here? Just curious... |
i'm pretty sure it's like eeeeeeeeevery other culture...everyone has a different preference...and some if not many girls like more than one type |
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Moldy Rutabaga
Joined: 01 Jul 2003
Location: Ansan, Korea
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 4:18 am Post subject: |
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For what reason? Are you looking for a woman here or a woman back in north America?--or for other reasons?
Korean women don't seem to be attracted to he-man muscles that much, but if I were going back home I think I would want to work out.
Ken:> |
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Guri Guy
Joined: 07 Sep 2003
Location: Bamboo Island
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 3:26 pm Post subject: |
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| I am not particulary looking for a Korean woman. I was just curious what other people think. I like to weighlift and refine my muscle mass because it is fun for me and healthy. I know I certainly get a lot more attention from the ladies in Korea now that I have lost some bodyfat and gained some muscle. This is a happy side effect but not the reason I do it. |
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Paji eh Wong
Joined: 03 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 5:54 pm Post subject: |
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If you're looking to get laid, I'd suggest you work on your personality or your game. There are things you can do.
Its a dirty little secret that men don't do body building with women in mind; they do it for other men. For a lot of people, the bottom line of most male interactions is "Can I take this guy in a fight?" Being the biggest guy in the room gets you respect in some quarters, but not the feminine ones.
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: almost there...
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| Posted: Fri Jun 09, 2006 6:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Guri Guy wrote: |
| I am not particulary looking for a Korean woman. I was just curious what other people think. I like to weighlift and refine my muscle mass because it is fun for me and healthy. I know I certainly get a lot more attention from the ladies in Korea now that I have lost some bodyfat and gained some muscle. This is a happy side effect but not the reason I do it. |
Being hot is an important factor in getting laid, I don't dispute that at all. Just I'm more than willing to overlook hottness for the 'machismo' factor. |
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sillywilly
Joined: 20 Jan 2003
Location: Canada.
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| Posted: Sun Jun 11, 2006 9:50 am Post subject: |
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You can't have sex with personality.
Okay, I don't subscribe to that outlook. But you have to admit it's funny! |
Totally disagree with this. If sex were all about the mechanics toys would take over the world. The brain is the sexiest organ and its the psychological/interactive element that makes it exciting. ( which can be enhanced by the appeal of someone being physically attractive, of course) |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:39 am Post subject: |
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| Guri Guy wrote: |
| I am not particulary looking for a Korean woman. I was just curious what other people think. I like to weighlift and refine my muscle mass because it is fun for me and healthy. I know I certainly get a lot more attention from the ladies in Korea now that I have lost some bodyfat and gained some muscle. This is a happy side effect but not the reason I do it. |
I think it depends how much muscle mass you have now. Have you really chaged your physique that much?
BTW, love that avatar man. |
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flotsam
Joined: 28 Mar 2006
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| Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 12:43 am Post subject: |
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BTW, love that avatar man. |
Seriously. I want my ass kicked. |
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Guri Guy
Joined: 07 Sep 2003
Location: Bamboo Island
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| Posted: Mon Jun 12, 2006 4:04 am Post subject: |
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Thanks guys. Yeah that Korean boxer is pretty sweet. She can take a round out of me anyday.
As far as bodybuilding goes, I am not improving myself for anyone but myself. I like the challenge and I like being healthier. It is something with quantifiable results. It is my hobby I guess. I have a long way to go but I am making progress everyday.
I just noticed that females of all ages seem to treat me differently now that I have made my lifestyle change. Women smile at me all the time. Women at work treat me different. Women at my gym too. Women actually sit beside me on the subway car now.
I'd say my bodyfat has dropped from 20% to around 13-14% right now. Really though, I don't think it is the extra muscles or improved looks.
I think the biggest factor is self confidence. The most attractive, sexy people are those with self confidence. Confidence is sexy. If I feel good about myself, other people do too. That's just me anyway... |
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Captain Corea
Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
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It sounds like you're on the right track man.
Keep it up. |
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kermo
Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Location: Eating eggs, with a comb, out of a shoe.
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| Posted: Tue Jun 13, 2006 6:38 pm Post subject: |
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| crazylemongirl wrote: |
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| Since when does personality equal sexual technique? Am I missing something? |
Because women like to feel that 'someone gets them' before getting them into bed. |
Who 'gets' me? Heck if I know, but I've got a rule these days, and I'm sticking to it. I've got to a) like and b) respect someone before getting into bed with them. That, sadly, disqualifies some genuine Mr. Goodbars.
There are some people I both like and respect that I couldn't see myself getting into bed with, but it's not for lack of muscles. In some cases, it's overall homeliness, but there are also certain attitudes that are just a turn-off. |
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