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Cheonmunka · Joined: 04 Jun 2004

He seems overly smug.
Perhaps he doesn't do a lot of work around the house, nor need to scrimp and scrape for the bill and mortgage payments.

The reality of being a newish parent, is keeping a close eye on budgets. But, as they get further into it most find that they have more money and assetts than their single friends.
In many ways marriage and family life paradoxically becomes more free.

When I was single it seemed that many people nagged me akin to my laziness. Now, I am a parent when I take a day off to goof around, or fall asleep in the afternoon, no one mentions this. In fact, I feel encouraged to do so.

I would never, as a single guy, had found any necessity in property ownership. Because it becomes a financial necessity as a parent, one somehow finds the means and does it. But just because there is property in my name doesn't mean I have that money, my family does. I can most likely never sell it to by a hacienda in Fiji and ply my Cessna on the island traffic.
I'm kind of set in this role, not toying with unrealised dreams, in order that I don't lose any family wealth.

Not everyone is comfortable at parenting. But, I know some people in their 20's who think they wouldn't be good parents who actually would be very good.
I am lucky my wife is 90% the parent brain. If it wasn't for her I'd likely be childless.

Julius · Joined: 27 Jul 2006

princess · Joined: 16 Jan 2003 Location: soul of Asia

seoulshock · Joined: 12 Jul 2005

I read a book a really long time ago called "The Baby Trap" by Ellen Peck. You could probably pick up a used copy on Amazon for under a buck.

jmbran11 · Joined: 19 Jan 2006 Location: U.S.

otis · Joined: 02 Jun 2006

periwinkle · Joined: 08 Feb 2003

gang ah jee · Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: city of paper

Has anyone said that not having kids is wrong yet?

Wrench · Joined: 07 Apr 2005

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gang ah jee · Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: city of paper

numazawa · Joined: 20 Mar 2005 Location: The Concrete Barnyard

Right, then... In the further interest of thread-consolidation, unanimity-busting antidisestablishmentarianism and all that is holier-than-thou, we should merge this one with the "cannibalism" poll.

"Is it OK if you don't produce children?"

> Yes, out of concern they might be eaten by the open-minded people

> Yes, because reducing the supply will help support meat prices in the livestock industry

> Yes, because no-name stuff you can buy at the store is cheaper and it tastes the same anyway

> No, meat prices are too damned high; if you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem

> No, it would be an unconscionable waste of many years of practice

> No, because you can change the SPIN but you can't take the NO out of a SPINOZA poll

nene · Joined: 11 Jun 2005 Location: Samcheok, Gangwon-do

According to Robert Persig's morality, as described in Lila, there are four levels of quality, each built on and usurping the former. They are: inorganic, biological, sociological, intellectual.

I would say that biologically - yes, it is wrong not to have children...well, wrong isn't the proper word. You are a biological failure if you don't reproduce. Socially, we've obviously overpopulated the earth, and it's having disasterous consequences. So in terms of society, I think you would be morally correct to not have children. Intellectually, which Persig would say is the most important, well that's up to you.....

gang ah jee · Joined: 14 Jan 2003 Location: city of paper