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Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West
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maitaidads



Joined: 08 Oct 2012
PostPosted: Fri Jul 11, 2014 11:25 pm    Post subject: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West Reply with quote
Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)?
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Captain Corea



Joined: 28 Feb 2005
Location: Seoul
PostPosted: Fri Jul 11, 2014 11:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote
Different looks are popular in different countries.

I actually had "more attention" in Canada than here. Very Happy
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r2b2ct



Joined: 14 Jun 2013
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 12:27 am    Post subject: Re: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West Reply with quote
maitaidads wrote:
Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)?

lol nice
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maitaidads



Joined: 08 Oct 2012
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 12:37 am    Post subject: Re: Feeling Unattractive When Back in the West Reply with quote
r2b2ct wrote:
maitaidads wrote:
Does anyone else get this sensation? When I'm at home, in Korea, people tend to be complimentary and tell me I'm handsome or strong. When I go back to my birth country, people just aren't as honest or forthcoming. The west's lack of sharing really brings me down a bit and I think they shame me to the point where I don't feel as handsome/confident as I should (am).
How does everyone else deal with this? Should I just write off the other hemisphere (seriously considering it)?

lol nice


Right? I'm at home in Korea where they see me for me: handsome. I don't get the recognition back there (North American west coast) that I do here. I really don't get why they're not more honest and selfless back there. It gets to the point where I don't want to get super dressed up for the evening.
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Hokie21



Joined: 01 Mar 2011
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:27 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
I think the real question here is why do you feel like you need to be complimented on your appearance?

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fermentation



Joined: 22 Jun 2009
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
You are way too concerned about your looks and what other people think of you.
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Who's Your Daddy?



Joined: 30 May 2010
Location: Victoria, Canada.
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:44 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
You must be Korean?

I wish for the anonymity of the west.
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Chaparrastique



Joined: 01 Jan 2014
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.


In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow.
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Stain



Joined: 08 Jan 2014
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
There sure are a lot of handsome people on this thread.
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Hokie21



Joined: 01 Mar 2011
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Chaparrastique wrote:
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.


In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow.


Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.

A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless.
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mr_thehorse



Joined: 27 Aug 2013
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 4:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote
Hokie21 wrote:
Chaparrastique wrote:
I like Korea because if you're good -looking, a lot of people will tell you.


In the west people were too afraid to say it because they didn't want to seem shallow.


Even if you had a horn growing out of your forehead Koreans would tell you that you're handsome or beautiful.

A Korean saying, "You're so handsome." Is like a westerner saying, "Nice to meet you." It's meaningless.


+1. Chaparrastique, you have been here long enough to know this.
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Stain



Joined: 08 Jan 2014
PostPosted: Sat Jul 12, 2014 5:17 am    Post subject: