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eleruen
Joined: 18 Dec 2004
Location: Bundang, South Korea
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 Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 6:36 am Post subject: Dating Korean men-part deux |
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You may remember me from my post complaining about Korean men who are only capable of touching 2 body parts, and western men who ignore western women in favour of Korean women.
A few weeks back I had a Koren boyfriend. We got along incredibly well, had tons in common, and he touched me with care and respect.
When he decided that he wanted to get serious, he informed his parents about me. His parents went ape, and threatened to disown him should he marry me in the future. They insisted that because he is the only child, he must keep the blood-line pure. He was disappointed, dumped me, and drank heavily the next day.
For about a month after being dumped, he would phone me at least once a week 'just to hear your voice' and ' i want to meet you as a friend', and 'i love you but my parents say no, so I can't be your boyfriend'
It wasn't funny at the time, but I can laugh about it now. 
Anyway, my message to foreign women who want to get serious with a Korean man is this:
1)Find out if he has any older brothers and if the older brother has any children (even then, you will be met with disapproval)
2) If you find yourself in my situation, ask youself this: do i want to marry a coward? Your answer will probably be 'no'.
3)It can be argued that he behaved like this due to his culture. However, it can be argued that true love knows no boundaries. If this happens to you, he probably never loved you in the first place.
If you do find yourself a Korean man, good luck, and don't get your heart broken. |
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Corporal
Joined: 25 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 7:04 am Post subject: Re: Dating Korean men-part deux |
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Anyway, my message to foreign women who want to get serious with a Korean man is this:
1)Find out if he has any older brothers and if the older brother has any children (even then, you will be met with disapproval) |
Are you kidding. You've had one K-boyfriend and suddenly you know everything about how all Koreans are going to react to a foreign girlfriend entering their family?
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| 2) If you find yourself in my situation, ask youself this: do i want to marry a coward? Your answer will probably be 'no'. |
What???
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| 3)It can be argued that he behaved like this due to his culture. However, it can be argued that true love knows no boundaries. If this happens to you, he probably never loved you in the first place. |
Again, what???
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If you do find yourself a Korean man, good luck, and don't get your heart broken. |
Uh, thanks. That's good advice for everyone though, regardless of whether or not their man is Korean. Unless you're saying that women in relationships with Korean men are in greater need of good luck and have to be more careful that their hearts don't get broken.  |
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brachy
Joined: 01 Jul 2005
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 7:06 am Post subject: |
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awww someone had her first break up.
how cute. |
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eleruen
Joined: 18 Dec 2004
Location: Bundang, South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 7:09 am Post subject: |
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OF COURSE I am not generalising from my experience.
In fact I have spoken to many Korean friends, male and female, about this situation. They all warned me that this is the attitude of KOrean men/parents towards foreign women. Moreover, the advice I gave here is the advice they gave me.
Additionally, you only have to search on Google to discover that I am not alone in this experience. |
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eleruen
Joined: 18 Dec 2004
Location: Bundang, South Korea
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 7:10 am Post subject: |
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| don't be soft. Of course this is not my first break up. |
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dogbert
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: Killbox 90210
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 7:51 am Post subject: |
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At least you wised up.
When Koreans moan about keeping their "blood lines pure", the white horses would do well to remember their own blood lines and what they have accomplished. |
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sheba
Joined: 16 May 2005
Location: Here there and everywhere!
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 5:05 pm Post subject: Re: Dating Korean men-part deux |
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| eleruen wrote: |
| It can be argued that he behaved like this due to his culture. However, it can be argued that true love knows no boundaries. If this happens to you, he probably never loved you in the first place. |
In western culture we like to put ourselves first, Korean culture is not so much like that. Family and society play a very big part in their lives (for the most part anyways). It is not about whether they actually loved you or not... you just sound bitter because he chose his family over you... |
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crazylemongirl
Joined: 23 Mar 2003
Location: almost there...
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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| dogbert wrote: |
At least you wised up.
When Koreans moan about keeping their "blood lines pure", the white horses would do well to remember their own blood lines and what they have accomplished. |
WTF? Dogbert that's possbily the most sexist and racist thing I've seen written here in a long time.
1. Most white people are mutts of some kind or another.
2. Why the hell are women the ones that shouldn't be able to hook up with someone outside their blood line? |
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Leslie Cheswyck
Joined: 31 May 2003
Location: University of Western Chile
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| Posted: Mon Jul 18, 2005 6:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Rule of thumb: When a relationship gets "koreanized" it usually means all the joy and life has been sucked out of it. |
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