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therooster
Joined: 11 May 2007
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I've got some in my house...
People who get sick of Corn Flakes need to learn how to spice things up. Add some fruit, use juice instead of milk, throw some sugar on it...
You know what I mean. |
Yeah , I know what you mean .
Instead of developing some realistic expectations about what love ought to look like , and focusing on the import aspects of living up to your personal responsibilities , rather affirmate your erroneous view that "love" is some kind of "thrill ride" and in the end it comes down to milking it for unique thrills .
Am I close ?
You don't need to change your relationship people . You need to change your expectations and selfishness . However , given that in todays world many western women are 100% convinced it's not them who need to change in anyway , and feel entitled to expect constant fulfilment without effort ....it's not surprising your friend did a "runner ". |
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Atavistic
Joined: 22 May 2006
Location: How totally stupid that Korean doesn't show in this area.
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| Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 7:57 pm Post subject: |
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You don't need to change your relationship people . You need to change your expectations and selfishness . However , given that in todays world many western women are 100% convinced it's not them who need to change in anyway , and feel entitled to expect constant fulfilment without effort ....it's not surprising your friend did a "runner ". |
So only women need to change their idea of relationships? Maybe the guy was an ass who had stupid ideas of relationships. |
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therooster
Joined: 11 May 2007
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| Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 8:47 pm Post subject: |
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| So only women need to change their idea of relationships? Maybe the guy was an ass who had stupid ideas of relationships. |
Oh the guys a total @ss . I thought the first part of my post made that clear ? Besides it's hardly a revolutionary or contentious idea that " many men are bad in relationships" is it ?
Unbelievably though many women still struggle with the concept that there are certain aspects in their own lives for which they are to blame .
This doesn't help anyone really and anyone interested in understanding why marriages in the west are falling apart faster than ever before needn't look much further than the western females inabilty to acknowledge her sh!t stinks too .
I'm one of the idealists who thinks that marriage need not make anyone miserable provided each party is willing to compromise . Men have been compromising for many years now without much reciprocity from their wives and you will notice this has been directly proportional to increase in divorce rates . |
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Gamecock
Joined: 26 Nov 2003
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 5:24 pm Post subject: |
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Got a call from my Best friend back home! Pretty shocking...
He filed for divorce from his wife that he was married too for 7 years, quite his job where he made over 100 000. He gave up his dog, his house, his BMW and he even lost some friends. |
Reading this opening paragraph, my thoughts were not about how stupid this guy is to be running after an exotic fling, nor about marriage issues, but about being unhappy.
Everyone is SHOCKED that he left his marriage, his high-paying (and probably stressful) job, his house, his BMW, etc. Aren't these the things that make people happy??? It's what modern society tells you SHOULD make you happy.
I have a number of Korean friends who do everything they "should" and have all the appearances of being happy, but are truly miserable. At the same time I have highly successful friends back home making BIG money, with houses in the suburbs, and with spouses everyone envies...and they all tell me they wish they could live the life I'm living- working at a truly fulfilling job i that love, travelling to different places and interacting with different cultures, and being free to be myself and not succumb to the pressure to sustain a politically correct lifestyle.
I think it's more than "the seven year itch." I think many people wake up at some point in thier life and realize they are living somone else's dream, whether it be their parent's or their society's dream, that they've been consciously or subconsciously herded into a life of obligations they are told are right and moral and will make them happy. They don't know how they can be doing everything right and be so unhappy. Most people don't have the courage to, or are not irresponsible enough to forsake all their responsibilities and do what this fellow did. Usually, they just pick up a secret vice (an affair, gambling, shoplifting, etc.) that gives them a sense of doing something to rebel against their PC world, and gives them an emotional escape from their unhappy existence.
I'm not shocked that he behaved this way. What shocks me is that with the number of unhappy people out there, MORE don't do something like run off to Asia for a fling. Even more shocking is that hardly anyone seems to question the status quo idealized dream of what makes for a happy, fulfilled life. For many it isn't marriage, lots of money, and a BMW. |
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therooster
Joined: 11 May 2007
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| Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 5:46 pm Post subject: |
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| I think many people wake up at some point in thier life and realize they are living somone else's dream, whether it be their parent's or their society's dream, that they've been consciously or subconsciously herded into a life of obligations they are told are right and moral and will make them happy. |
Yup . Sometimes it's like watch a runnaway train . It's be alright if you thought you'd get some love and appreciation out of the equation ...but this is Earth and you are dealing with human beings : the second most loathsome organism in the universe (after cats and before leaches) . |
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beast
Joined: 28 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 7:56 pm Post subject: |
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| If he had played his cards right, he could have kept them both. Just tell the wife that he's got business to do in China. Tell the Chinese wife that he has to return home to take care of business there. |
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twg
Joined: 02 Nov 2006
Location: Getting some fresh air...
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| Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 8:45 pm Post subject: |
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| You know, I agree with the Gamecock. |
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Mix1
Joined: 08 May 2007
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| Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 6:35 am Post subject: |
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Man, I wish I had some Honey Nut Cheerios. |
I've got some in my house...
People who get sick of Corn Flakes need to learn how to spice things up. Add some fruit, use juice instead of milk, throw some sugar on it...
You know what I mean. |
How about eating your "Corn Flakes" in the dark and pretending they're "Fruity Pebbles?"
(or in this case, "Sweet Krunchy Kung Pao Pops") |
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simpleminds
Joined: 04 May 2006
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| Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 8:30 pm Post subject: |
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[/quote]I think it's absolutely awful that he abandoned his wife, who probaby expected that he had committed to her for life, for some girl that he met for a mere day!
I think the "other woman" is at fault too - I think it's pretty terrible that she went after a married man. Maybe he'll meet another woman in a year or so, and abandon her just like he did his poor wife! 
I'm married myself and, frankly, your story respresents my worst nightmare![/quote]
Agreed.
I don't care if he was subconciously shoved into a lifestyle he didn't want. He chose that life, he chose to bow to conformity, then he must deal with the consequences responsibly. As an adult, not like a child.
To abandon the wife and to run off to another woman is just repeating history, which he is obviously is too selfish and too immature to understand.
The insecure, the selfish and the immature should never get married. Ever. |
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kimcheechochy
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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| He spent ONE DAY with her? And he thinks he's in love? Wow, she must be good in bed. Idiot. |
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kimcheechochy
Joined: 22 Nov 2007
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It's funny how 2 cheaters get together and think they can have a long meaningful relationship together.
She chased after him, and he was married. Maybe she didn't know. But if she did know, well she slept with a married man. Chances are, she'll do it again later with another rich sucker.
And she knows he cheated. Chances are, he'll do it again later. Sounds like he just likes the asian poontang.
Your buddy sounds like he has lots of cash. Typically, girls from China don't have a lot of cash. I can hear him now. "Oh yeah, baby, I GOT A BMW, AND I MAKE 100K a year, BLAH BLAH BLAH."
She says "BMW???? 100K????? OHHHHHHH!, you make-uh mee so hot-uhhh. Let's go to hotel for shucky-shucky ok? Hehehehehe".
If they get married, I am 99% sure the "newlyweds" will be divorced within 5 years. |
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