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aboxofchocolates
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Is the girlfriend a friend? Do you expect him to be faithful? If no to both then go for it. If he is the type to cheat then he will do anyway and you might as well have some fun with it. You don't owe her anything because you are both girls, you don't owe her anything because you are both human. The only person you owe it to is yourself and your own moral compass
By the way the last ep of Dollhouse really threw me, great but really not what I was expecting |
 Woa. I won't be sleeping with him because of unrelated annoyingness on his part, but yeah. It's sex, not rescuing earthquake victims- moral responsibility doesn't factor in!
(and I am waiting for the season to come out on dvd) |
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blackjack
Joined: 04 Jan 2006
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 5:08 am Post subject: |
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| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
| blackjack wrote: |
Is the girlfriend a friend? Do you expect him to be faithful? If no to both then go for it. If he is the type to cheat then he will do anyway and you might as well have some fun with it. You don't owe her anything because you are both girls, you don't owe her anything because you are both human. The only person you owe it to is yourself and your own moral compass
By the way the last ep of Dollhouse really threw me, great but really not what I was expecting |
Woa. I won't be sleeping with him because of unrelated annoyingness on his part, but yeah. It's sex, not rescuing earthquake victims- moral responsibility doesn't factor in!
(and I am waiting for the season to come out on dvd) |
Every decision we make that affects another person is based on your moral compass (can't think of a better word). If you don't think you will feel any guilt **** your brains out (you're probably bored anyway right?)
Maybe I'm growing up but I think I would feel a little guilty.
And why wait for the DVD
http://eztv.it/shows/83/dollhouse/
p.s. went out for a drink on friday and everyone was saying they missed you  |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 5:27 am Post subject: |
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I am bored beyond all comprehension. Where I lack clarity is not with my moral compass but my sense of outrage. He is ready to risk her sense of trust and happiness just to get a little on the side. Whether or not I participate is irrelevant; he broke whatever moral contract he had with her through his willingness to subject her to potential hurt. Really, I shouldn't care. But what a twerp!
 I miss you guys too!! |
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kabrams
Joined: 15 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 5:47 am Post subject: |
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Wait, I'm confused.
You and your friend were (sexually) involved before he got the girlfriend? Or during the time he had a girlfriend?
Either way, the guy is a jerk. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 5:53 am Post subject: |
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| kabrams wrote: |
Wait, I'm confused.
You and your friend were (sexually) involved before he got the girlfriend? Or during the time he had a girlfriend?
Either way, the guy is a jerk. |
Years before. Apparently I dodged a bullet. |
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kabrams
Joined: 15 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 6:13 am Post subject: |
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| aboxofchocolates wrote: |
| kabrams wrote: |
Wait, I'm confused.
You and your friend were (sexually) involved before he got the girlfriend? Or during the time he had a girlfriend?
Either way, the guy is a jerk. |
Years before. Apparently I dodged a bullet. |
Ah, okay. He's a loser. It's your choice to tell her or not. I'd tell her but he might make you out to be jealous (since you guys were together back in the day) and just trying to get back at him.
Either way, it's your choice. You don't "owe" her anything, as some have said here, but you can be nice about it anyway and help her out. |
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hellakitty
Joined: 15 Sep 2007
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 9:58 am Post subject: |
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I'm sorry to say but you come across as really full of yourself. The bottom line is that this guy is having his cake and eating it too. By the way, you're not the cake - the girl he goes home to every night is (as sad and misguided as her position may be).
If you're comfortable being his "guest star" rest assured you aren't the first, the last, or the only. This guy is a dog who will probably cheat on every women he is ever with - because he has clearly given himself permission to do so, morals shmorals. I have no problem with open relationships, but I have a HUGE problem with dishonesty.
I thought one of the elements necessary for the success of feminism was solidarity - by participating in behaviour which you know to be hurtful and degrading to another women, you are certainly not part of the solution to equality when your behaviour perpetuates the use of women as objects and men as the consumate sexual conquerors.
But to each her own I guess - maybe one day you'll even get a man of your own; hopefully the "sisters" will have more respect for themselves than you do. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 10:33 am Post subject: |
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^ You mean if I pray real hard and be a good girl I can have the chance to be in a fullfilling committed relationship to a cheating dog like whatsherface? One can only hope, kitty.
Just as an exercise, do tell; what part struck you as conceited? I don't recall saying he wants extra-curricular activities with me because of my god-like intramural prowess.
What's with the cake analogy? You probably shouldn't let your blood sugar get that low. But if you like the food analogy, you have it all wrong- think of him like my Starbucks coffee. I can go with the regular old Americano, but every now and then I can change my order to a mochachino just to make life a little interesting. However, there is a limited amount of chocolate syrup and someone ahead of me in line has already placed an order for a mochachino. The guy at the counter, though, has just said 'hey, I like you, why don't I give you the mochachino and balls to this person to whom I have already promised the mochachino. She can wait 'till I go out back and find more syrup.' Do I listen to the guy at the counter or respect the girl placed her order first and I should wait. Or, do I take the mochachino and say to the girl as I leave "man, that guy gave this mochachino to me and not you. What a douche, huh?"
See, that's more like it. |
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SeoulFinn
Joined: 27 Feb 2006
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 10:56 am Post subject: |
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Just put yourself in her shoes and answer this not so surprising question:
"Would I want to know if my bf/gf/wife/husband/partner was cheating (or thinking about cheating) on me?"
I know I would. Furthemore, do you really want to be his friend knowing what he's like? I don't need friends like that. |
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banjois
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:00 am Post subject: |
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I'd say skip the Starbucks altogether and stroll around until you find a nice little genuine Italian place where you can get a real coffee made with love.
Unless you're in an area where Starbucks is you're only option. Then you take what you can get. |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:04 am Post subject: |
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| banjois wrote: |
I'd say skip the Starbucks altogether and stroll around until you find a nice little genuine Italian place where you can get a real coffee made with love.
Unless you're in an area where Starbucks is you're only option. Then you take what you can get. |
Let me put it to you this way- in this area, there is no literal starbucks. |
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banjois
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:07 am Post subject: |
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| Well, if you've been stuck making drip coffee at home, I'd take Starbucks then, even if the barista is a bit of a douche. |
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banjois
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:15 am Post subject: |
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| I think I may have gotten lost somewhere in the euphemistic metaphors... |
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aboxofchocolates
Joined: 21 Mar 2008
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:16 am Post subject: |
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| I dunno, I was thinking of just buying a fancy espresso machine with a few different settings. |
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banjois
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| Posted: Sun Jan 31, 2010 11:31 am Post subject: |
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| No shame in that. I mean, it's never quite as good as having someone make your coffee for you, but those Starbucks are always full of people waiting for you to notice what their doing on their Macbook (which is almost always LAME). And a lot of them just drift from cafe to cafe, you never know what kinda gum they picked up on the bottom of their shoes along the way. |
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