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Cerberus
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| The guys I've dated have been quite comfortable with themselves as well and have been very open when we'd go out/hang out in public |
don't mean to be snarky, but frankly that's because in Korea what would be considered homosexual behavior in the West , like touching of another man, even in somewhat of an intimate manner isn't "homosexual" in Korea.
one of the biggest K-pop stars in Korea at the moment, G-Dragon (I'd add a and y after the G) makes Adam Lambert look downright macho.
yet K's think he's perfectly hetero. 
There have been various threads on this topic. Most K's think homosexuality doesn't exist in their country and is something brought over by foreigners. You could live with a Korean partner in an appt, sleep in the same bed, and it would still never occur to many K's that you are actually a "couple".  |
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teecee
Joined: 18 Feb 2010
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SteveJobs
Joined: 12 Mar 2010
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| Posted: Mon Mar 29, 2010 8:44 am Post subject: |
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hey sugarlaof thank you for sharing your experiences. I'm a bit more hopeful now that I'll be able to make some connections while in Korea.
Thats cool that Korea is getting gay characters in the mainstream media; its definitely a sign of progress. |
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teecee
Joined: 18 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Sun Apr 04, 2010 4:15 am Post subject: |
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| Hey also, for what it's worth, I was actually at a gay bar this weekend with some friends. I can ASSURE you that there are gay guys here in Korea. |
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Kang-aji
Joined: 06 Apr 2010
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| Posted: Thu Apr 08, 2010 11:47 pm Post subject: |
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No one has mention geographical location yet! I assume that's because most of you are in Seoul, right? Well, I lived in Gwangju, which is the fifth or sixth largest city, and I don't think the gay scene there was very big at all. I'm not gay myself, but one of my friends had a terrible time finding guys. He was miserable. I think there are a few gay bars somewhere, but they are intentionally hard to find. Then again, another of my friends who is gay had a fine time. I don't know maybe it depends on your individual personality.
All that being said, I was hit on by a few guys here and there, even in Gwangju, so there are definitely guys out there! Korean and foreign alike. Still, your best bet is to be in Seoul. |
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zz8w1988
Joined: 12 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 1:38 am Post subject: |
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| im new here! only dating korean is a racist statement. |
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zz8w1988
Joined: 12 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 2:35 am Post subject: |
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| If you're gay, eat Kimchi. It cures homosexuality and AIDS at the same time. |
I dont like your comment, it sounds not funny anymore that you associate homosexuality with AIDs. |
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hellofaniceguy
Joined: 10 Jan 2003
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| Posted: Tue Apr 13, 2010 3:10 am Post subject: |
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| If you're gay, eat Kimchi. It cures homosexuality and AIDS at the same time. |
I dont like your comment, it sounds not funny anymore that you associate homosexuality with AIDs. |
But who is the one that started that way back when? When AIDS was first reported....it was because of gay sex or attributed to the gay community if my memory serves me correctly. And I think that most people automatically associate AIDS with being gay. Is it still thought as the same nowadays? |
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daskalos
Joined: 19 May 2006
Location: The Road to Ithaca
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| Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 6:11 am Post subject: |
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| zz8w1988 wrote: |
| im new here! only dating korean is a racist statement. |
And I don't like your comment. Is liking brunettes more than blondes racist?
Please try not to be stupid. |
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zz8w1988
Joined: 12 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Thu Apr 15, 2010 8:08 am Post subject: |
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| zz8w1988 wrote: |
| im new here! only dating korean is a racist statement. |
And I don't like your comment. Is liking brunettes more than blondes racist?
Please try not to be stupid. |
flame? huh
i just want to say that the sentence is kinda racist in some way.  |
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Forward Observer
Joined: 13 Jan 2009
Location: FOB Gloria
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| Posted: Fri Apr 16, 2010 12:47 am Post subject: |
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Too bad this thread has started to deteriorate. I don't think I've ever been able to tell if a Korean guy was gay, maybe they hide it really well. Back home, it's not hard to tell which way someone leans, most of the time anyway. Can someone shed some light on why Koreans don't give off the normal 'gayness' signals like people in the west do?
If I did hang out with a gay guy at some point, I never knew it. Is this where someone makes a joke about 'gaydar'?
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teecee
Joined: 18 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 2:52 am Post subject: |
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| Forward Observer wrote: |
Too bad this thread has started to deteriorate. I don't think I've ever been able to tell if a Korean guy was gay, maybe they hide it really well. Back home, it's not hard to tell which way someone leans, most of the time anyway. Can someone shed some light on why Koreans don't give off the normal 'gayness' signals like people in the west do?
If I did hang out with a gay guy at some point, I never knew it. Is this where someone makes a joke about 'gaydar'?
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All I can tell you is that if you go to a gay club in Itaewon on a Sat. night, you'll have no difficulty telling the difference between a gay and straight Korean male. |
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zz8w1988
Joined: 12 Feb 2010
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| Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 8:30 pm Post subject: |
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| its hard to know a korean is gay if they are still in "closet" |
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Henri
Joined: 07 Apr 2008
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| Posted: Sun Apr 18, 2010 9:26 pm Post subject: |
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| One concern that I do have is if I happen to befriend Korean women and go out with them we will constantly be harassed? Me being an attractive, tall, and athletic male... |
You won't be constantly harassed. You can be on occasion though. Especially if the lady is a bit of a looker...
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| If I do happen to get harassed do I just tell them to chill out and not to feel threatened because I am gay? (mostly). Will that diffuse the situation or make it worse? lol. |
Tell them to F-off. You don't need to out yourself or reveal personal information to stop harassment.
And I'm not gay, but loads of women think I'm bi...and are super-cool with it. I've also found that a very high percentage of women here to be bi-curious.
There's a whole subtext in Korea, and alot of cool people. I don't think you'll have any problems...
And just a general comment. There's a high association in people's minds between gays and AIDS because there is a high factual association between gays and AIDS.
Please don't make me post multiple links either. Let's have people just grow a skin. |
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nbwoodyal
Joined: 01 Jun 2009
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| Posted: Mon Apr 19, 2010 3:54 am Post subject: |
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First, I live in a small-ish town of about 200,000, and I've never seen another gay guy... well, I see guys that I think are gay by Western standards, but several other people have already commented on that.
When I first got here, I found the adjustment very, very difficult. I was used to being out and having easy access to a healthy community.
I ended up finding some bars in some other big cities (not Seoul) but even those bars (in cities with more than 1 million people) were incredibly tiny. After a few visits it felt like I had met everyone.
In the last year, I've dated two guys (in Seoul).
It was hard. I'd dated cross-culturally before in America but it was certainly different in Korea. One guy was mortified that someone might find out he was gay, so I couldn't talk in his apartment (in case a neighbor heard) or come close to him out in public (and I'm not even a PDA kinda guy). And of course, there are cultural differences. Subtleties and humor get lost on one another.
Neither guy was Mr. Right and I didn't pursue either one, but if I had, I would guess that it would have been very, very difficult for many reasons.
Not many things make me miss America, but sexual freedom is certainly one of them. |
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