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[rapier]

Korian..thanks, and yeah I see what you mean about the daily battle taking away the focus of exploring yourself...

regarding long term friends, - even if you lived in the same town all your life, you'd still find your friends changeing and moving on to other jobs, places and focussing more on their marriages or whatever anyway..at least thats what i've found. Its not that much of a difference really.More of a comfort zone, yes, but still fairly changeable socially.

[korian]

yeah what you say is right about people moving on. i think what makes the biggest difference for me and i'm sure many others, is that even when your friends in your hometown do move on it's not as big a deal coz you're comfortable and happy and familiar in your environment.

but it's hard for foreigners to feel that way in korea so perhaps when freinds do move on that little sense of aloneness is intensified. much more than at home where you're relaxed with everything around you.

but yes people will always come and go. it's just the way you react that makes the difference. and in korea, or anywhere else, we tend to react differently.....

[sistersarah]

i totally understand the part about becoming more withdrawn here. when i first got here, all i wanted to do was go and meet more and more people and do everything possible. but now, i'm getting lazy in that regard. for example, an acquaintance of mine is having a house-warming party tonight....i could see some people i know, maybe meet a few others, shoot the shit, etc. i don't have to work tomorrow. am i going tonight? nope.

over the last couple of months i've gotten some phone numbers from some people in the area. have i called them? nope. and i always say to myself, you should go out more....but i just don't want to. i have a few friends i'll travel with on weekends with, but i'm so sick of making useless chit chat with people i'll never see again.

that was really negative..... it wasn't such a good day.

[korian]

as negative as it was. i totally relate to it. even when life was good (i'm back in oz at the mo) and the sun was out i'd be hard pushed to get up those mountains. too crowded, too many people, too tired, too much staring, too hungover, too anyhting so i could stay hoe and watch cable.

i think the hardest thnig with korea is that whenever you do go out anywhere, for anything, you feel you're gonna have to put up wuth some kind of %^$% that at times you just don't want to deal with.

so of course you become more reclusive and far less inclined to meet new people.

sometimes forcing yourself to do something ends up making you enjoy things....but is that any way to live your life? just curious...

[rapier]