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BigBuds
Joined: 15 Sep 2005
Location: Changwon
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 Posted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 2:51 am Post subject: Re: I don't want to go to your wedding, please stop inviting |
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| PatrickBateman wrote: |
Not only do I not believe in marriage, but I don't believe in going to your 'special' day.
On top of that, I'm not terribly keen on donating money as a gift.
For the price of a wedding gift, I could eat at a steakhouse or have an appetizer at Dorsia.
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When I was single, weddings were a great place to score with a bridesmaid of friend of the bride. Whatsammatter you? |
I take it you've never been to a Korean wedding then? |
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northway
Joined: 05 Jul 2010
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| Posted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 3:50 am Post subject: Re: I don't want to go to your wedding, please stop inviting |
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| BigBuds wrote: |
| Died By Bear wrote: |
| PatrickBateman wrote: |
Not only do I not believe in marriage, but I don't believe in going to your 'special' day.
On top of that, I'm not terribly keen on donating money as a gift.
For the price of a wedding gift, I could eat at a steakhouse or have an appetizer at Dorsia.
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When I was single, weddings were a great place to score with a bridesmaid of friend of the bride. Whatsammatter you? |
I take it you've never been to a Korean wedding then? |
Seriously. Worst things ever. |
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Julius
Joined: 27 Jul 2006
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| Posted: Thu Jun 13, 2013 5:33 am Post subject: |
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| I hate how there's a certain expectancy that I show up. |
Thats it. If I went to every wedding, funeral, party and reunion that my family expect me too I'd be working to simply pay off plane tickets.
They don't volunteer to come visit me here, yet I'm supposed to spend millions flying round the world just to stay in their spare room for a couple of days. |
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Squire
Joined: 26 Sep 2010
Location: Jeollanam-do
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| Posted: Fri Jun 14, 2013 1:33 am Post subject: |
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I thought Dorsia was a real restaurant that closed down in the 90s?
So says my friend back home who was going to call up to try to get a 7.30 res on a Friday evening. He probably wouldn't have actually went, since he lives in the UK |
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cdninkorea
Joined: 27 Jan 2006
Location: Seoul
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| Posted: Fri Jun 14, 2013 7:15 am Post subject: Re: I don't want to go to your wedding, please stop inviting |
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| northway wrote: |
| BigBuds wrote: |
| Died By Bear wrote: |
| PatrickBateman wrote: |
Not only do I not believe in marriage, but I don't believe in going to your 'special' day.
On top of that, I'm not terribly keen on donating money as a gift.
For the price of a wedding gift, I could eat at a steakhouse or have an appetizer at Dorsia.
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When I was single, weddings were a great place to score with a bridesmaid of friend of the bride. Whatsammatter you? |
I take it you've never been to a Korean wedding then? |
Seriously. Worst things ever. |
I agree completely.
One of the secretaries where I work got married recently. I put 50,000 won in an envelope, signed it, and gave it to a different secretary to give at the wedding. That way I've contributed without having to go. |
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Mr. BlackCat
Joined: 30 Nov 2005
Location: Insert witty remark HERE
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| Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 7:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Julius wrote: |
| PatrickBateman wrote: |
| I hate how there's a certain expectancy that I show up. |
Thats it. If I went to every wedding, funeral, party and reunion that my family expect me too I'd be working to simply pay off plane tickets.
They don't volunteer to come visit me here, yet I'm supposed to spend millions flying round the world just to stay in their spare room for a couple of days. |
I can't agree more. How many times have they attempted to guilt me with, "It's just money! This is more important!" Then I say, "Ok, so when should I pick you up from the airport here in Korea?" "*crickets*"
What annoys me is that people expect everyone else to drop everything and even fund their life decisions, but only as long as those decisions are socially expected. I've dropped millions of won on weddings, anniversaries, presents for kids, births, etc. yet I don't even get a card when I find a good job or move to a new country. Oh, it's selfish not to buy a gift for your kid, but it's totally cool to demand ones from people who see these children once a year? You want me to subsidize your decision to have an extravagant one day ode to the special bond you have with someone else, yet you didn't give a cent to my decision to invest in my future by going back to school (amazingly the same cost, by the way)? |
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salutbonjour
Joined: 22 Jan 2013
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| Posted: Sun Jun 16, 2013 4:35 am Post subject: Re: I don't want to go to your wedding, please stop inviting |
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| BigBuds wrote: |
| Died By Bear wrote: |
| PatrickBateman wrote: |
Not only do I not believe in marriage, but I don't believe in going to your 'special' day.
On top of that, I'm not terribly keen on donating money as a gift.
For the price of a wedding gift, I could eat at a steakhouse or have an appetizer at Dorsia.
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When I was single, weddings were a great place to score with a bridesmaid of friend of the bride. Whatsammatter you? |
I take it you've never been to a Korean wedding then? |
There's often an after-party for single friends. But I guess foreigners are not welcome. |
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Smithington
Joined: 14 Dec 2011
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The reason I don't go to Korean weddings is because they are unbelievably tacky. If you've never been to one, go just for the entertainment value. Not exactly the dignified day here that it is for most back home. Honestly, every foreigner must attend at least one Korean wedding.
Anyone remember the video from a few years ago of the ajumma pushing passed the bride to get to her seat.  |
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peachKitten713
Joined: 13 May 2013
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When I was teaching in Korea last time (through a program), I didn't consider myself very close with most of the other foreign teachers in my province/apartment building. With the exception of somewhat regularly hanging with 2 or 3 specific teachers, I usually just kind of did my own thing most of the time.
Well anyway, one of the teachers in our province was getting married, and one of the other teachers was talking to us (a group of teachers) and asking us to all contribute a chunk of money to give to her as a wedding gift. In my mind I was like: "Uh No..!" I know that giving money is customary in Korea,but no. Congratulations and all, but just because we are facebook friends doesn't mean I'm going to give you money for the wedding I didn't even get an official invitation to! |
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thebearofbundang
Joined: 02 Sep 2012
Location: Bundang
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| Posted: Wed Jun 26, 2013 10:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Just make sure you get your 30,000 Won worth at the all you can eat/drink Buffet.. |
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le-paul
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
Location: dans la chambre
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| Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 12:03 am Post subject: |
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to be honest, i dont want 'you' to come to my wedding either.
Korean parents however, seem to have a different agenda though because they want 'all their money back' (whatever that means)? |
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radcon
Joined: 23 May 2011
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| Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 3:37 am Post subject: |
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| Just make sure you get your 30,000 Won worth at the all you can eat/drink Buffet.. |
I don't think people give 30,000 as the minimum anymore. It' 50,000 now. |
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12ax7
Joined: 07 Nov 2009
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| Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 4:58 am Post subject: |
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| Smithington wrote: |
The reason I don't go to Korean weddings is because they are unbelievably tacky. If you've never been to one, go just for the entertainment value. Not exactly the dignified day here that it is for most back home. Honestly, every foreigner must attend at least one Korean wedding.
Anyone remember the video from a few years ago of the ajumma pushing passed the bride to get to her seat. |
You actually sat through the ceremony? Dude, do what every normal person does: visit the bride or the groom (whichever you know who's getting married), hand in your envelope of cash to the appropriate relative, and head straight for the buffet. |
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edwardcatflap
Joined: 22 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Thu Jun 27, 2013 12:28 pm Post subject: |
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You actually sat through the ceremony? Dude, do what every normal person does: visit the bride or the groom (whichever you know who's getting married), hand in your envelope of cash to the appropriate relative, and head straight for the buffet. |
Yeah, sitting respectfully through a twenty minute ceremony without eating, drinking or playing with a mobile phone seems to be beyond most people nowadays. |
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tob55
Joined: 29 Apr 2007
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Been to a couple of Korean weddings and they are different. We gave our money, sat through the ceremony just to see what it was like (my wife knew, but I didn't), then went for the meal and entertainment. The foreign parents sitting at the wedding seemed to be in awe of the way Korean do things for wedding ceremonies. We haven't been to a ceremony in several years now, must be a sign of our age, and the fact that none of our close associates are younger and in marrying age anymore. Who knows?  |
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