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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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$2-500, just something thoughtful, nothing outrageous. As, apparently, a dog is.  |
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Axiom
Joined: 18 Jan 2008
Location: Brisbane, Australia
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 3:18 am Post subject: |
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| If I wasn't married already, you could have given her me. |
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Died By Bear
Joined: 13 Jul 2010
Location: On the big lake they call Gitche Gumee
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 3:22 am Post subject: |
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Yeah that butt's got me thinking.
What about a gift card from her favorite store? Bath and Body Works, something like that. And for all that girl has done for you with no strings, I would go the whole 500. Be generous. You're gonna miss that butt. |
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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 3:36 am Post subject: |
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| I'm sure she'll find someone better than me soon, but trust me, there are always strings. Gift card is a solid idea. I just asked her over the phone and she said she wants a gold necklace, though. A google search of "gold necklace" turns out some pretty extravagant looking items. Most of them look really, err, Egyptian. |
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rambler
Joined: 18 Jun 2011
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 2:31 pm Post subject: |
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| give her a nice box of asian pears from e-mart. |
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giraffe
Joined: 07 Apr 2009
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 5:34 pm Post subject: |
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| augustine wrote: |
| I'm sure she'll find someone better than me soon, but trust me, there are always strings. Gift card is a solid idea. I just asked her over the phone and she said she wants a gold necklace, though. A google search of "gold necklace" turns out some pretty extravagant looking items. Most of them look really, err, Egyptian. |
There are alot of simple looking gold necklaces / bracelets. If your budget is 200-500$ then perhaps one of the cheaper jewelry places in Department stores will be a good match.
Maybe go look at J. estina jewelry. A gold necklace will be in that price range. and younger korean girls tend to like them because Kim Yuna was seen wearing those during the Olympics... You know, Its the Crown icon jewelry. |
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singerdude
Joined: 18 Jul 2009
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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| I second the gift certificate idea. I would choose a big name department store, like Shinsegae or Lotte department store. Don't get one from the lesser name department stores. Those stores usually offer some kind of discount, and you may appear cheap. A lot of people prefer to get cash for their gifts anyway, but actually giving her cash may seem strange. If I were in your shoes I would go with a gift certificate. |
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chrisinkorea2011
Joined: 16 Jan 2011
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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yeah this sounds like a troll attempt at attention BUT if it isnt, then OP i suggest you buy some shreds of respect and dignity. From everything i read in your posting, it seems like youre using this girl to the fullest extent. She cooks, cleans, buys you things, etc and you have the audacity to want to buy her a necklace or a dog? Wow trashy pure and simple. Even if SHE kept doing things for you out of the goodness of HER heart, you let it go on and on. Also two things you stated that make me question your true motives in even knowing this woman.
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| "Relationships always carry some degree of manipulation by both parties, but I'm not the grand, scheming manipulative a-hole you're trying to make me out to be. " |
This is something a total schmuck would state. Anyone who TRULY understands a relationship knows that manipulation is NOT a part of it. Its two people who learn to understand each other and compromise in things so they are both happy. Dont believe me? Ask any relationship counselor. Never heard of manipulation being a part of the process.
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| You don't sound like someone who understands how relationships work. |
No my friend, YOU sound like someone who doesnt understand how relationships work. You got a long way to go pal. From your posting, it sounds like you were playing this woman all along for a "ride" or whatever enjoyment you got out of it. sad sad world.  |
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maitaidads
Joined: 08 Oct 2012
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 8:02 pm Post subject: Re: Parting gift for a Korean ladyfriend |
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| augustine wrote: |
I'll be exiting Hermitville soon, but I've had a very important relationship with a woman here for a while. It has kind of been an on and off thing, but she is the most loyal, kind hearted person I've ever met (with the best Asian butt I've ever seen-- fitness freak, mmm, gonna miss it). She cooked for me, cleaned constantly, provided me with what must have amounted to over $2,000 in gifts and general apartment amenities, and actually encouraged me to see other women on the side, though that blew up in my face a few times and caused me minor injuries. Basically, she has pretty much been my best and most stable friend/lover in the time I've spent here.
She's just a really good, honest person who found me a great apartment, fought the shady companies I worked for, and was always there for me when I needed her, and will continue to be until I leave. So, I woke up today realizing that I need to honor her charity with something meaningful. However, I'm a retard when it comes to giving people gifts. She's one of those girls who lives in an animal world, where her life essentially revolves around feeding stray cats and, as she puts it, being a "pet detective" and finding other peoples' lost animals. Her Kakao picture is her with her dead dog who apparently can never be replaced.
Anyway, I was talking to her about getting her a new dog or cat to replace me, "big doggie", but she's so specific about certain breeds and I just don't know anything about that shit. I'm likely the worst gift giver ever and the best idea I've had is to get a jeweler to make a necklace with her name on it... but that sounds even worse typing it out than it did previously when the idea entered my head. See, that's the best stupid idea I can think of. I want this one to make an impact. Must be better than the wall-mounted talking fish I gave my mom a few years ago. Any ideas? Hit me with it. |
Pardon me for saying this, but...if she's so great, why leave?? |
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Zyzyfer
Joined: 29 Jan 2003
Location: who, what, where, when, why, how?
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 9:10 pm Post subject: |
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| Died By Bear wrote: |
| Yeah that butt's got me thinking. |
yeah boy
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No dog or cat. No goofy necklaces with her name on it or something like that.
I was going to suggest a really fancy coat or something, since winter is right around the corner. But a gift certificate sounds good, if a bit lacking in thoughtfulness.
Wouldn't a gold necklace be cheaper outside of Korea? I was under the impression that jewelry here is overpriced. So is clothing, meh.
Also, congrats on your inadvertent troll.  Just proves that it is a good idea to not get too personal on this board.
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| Pardon me for saying this, but...if she's so great, why leave?? |
I can't believe some of you people are advocating that the guy stay in the country for a woman. I did that once upon a time and it blew up in my face.
If he has decided to move on for unrelated reasons and she is not keen to follow him, then I don't see what all the fuss is about. |
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Weigookin74
Joined: 26 Oct 2009
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 9:44 pm Post subject: |
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| Zyzyfer wrote: |
| Died By Bear wrote: |
| Yeah that butt's got me thinking. |
yeah boy
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No dog or cat. No goofy necklaces with her name on it or something like that.
I was going to suggest a really fancy coat or something, since winter is right around the corner. But a gift certificate sounds good, if a bit lacking in thoughtfulness.
Wouldn't a gold necklace be cheaper outside of Korea? I was under the impression that jewelry here is overpriced. So is clothing, meh.
Also, congrats on your inadvertent troll. Just proves that it is a good idea to not get too personal on this board.
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| Pardon me for saying this, but...if she's so great, why leave?? |
I can't believe some of you people are advocating that the guy stay in the country for a woman. I did that once upon a time and it blew up in my face.
If he has decided to move on for unrelated reasons and she is not keen to follow him, then I don't see what all the fuss is about. |
Well, I'll tell you, a couple of women were sad to see me leave home when I first came over here several years ago. But, still I came. Shows you how great I thought they were. (They were ok. They were attractive and all that.) But, an exceptional woman - well, that's another story. Maybe, I'd still be back home and not here. Moral of the story is not many exceptional women out there to make you alter your plans. But from everything the OP described, she sounds like an exceptional girl who might not be so easily replaceable. There are plenty of fish in the sea, but not every fish is the same.
As for blowing up in your face, always have a Plan B and a seperate hidden bank account. Ha ha. |
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augustine
Joined: 08 Sep 2012
Location: México
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| Posted: Sun Sep 22, 2013 10:05 pm Post subject: |
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| Just proves that it is a good idea to not get too personal on this board. |
Eh, that's the only way I roll and I can take the heat. What I said was true, I just tried to approach it with a little comedy. That tends to get lost on the internet, but it's not a big deal. I'm also not some exploitative douche who manipulated some helpless Korean girl. She's older than me and just over 30, she's not some innocent, fresh off the farm country girl. I respect her and have always tried to take care of her the best that I can.
Anyway, thanks for the helpful suggestions. And, yeah, I just have to go. She understands the situation and I've gotten more grief on here than I have from her. Damn, boys. |
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nora
Joined: 14 Apr 2012
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 1:57 am Post subject: |
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| Dinner at the Y? |
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J Rock
Joined: 17 Jan 2009
Location: The center of the Earth, Suji
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| Posted: Mon Sep 23, 2013 6:07 am Post subject: |
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Get a huge bronze statue made of an exact mold of you. Have it delivered to her apt and she'll never forgot about you.
Now if that doesn’t scream classy, I don’t know what would. |
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