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trueblue
Joined: 15 Jun 2014
Location: In between the lines
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| EZE wrote: |
| Record it and upload it onto YouTube. Shaming the parents, with irrefutable evidence, will be the most effective way to deal with the problem, in my opinion. |
No, that is what pussies do.
Talk to the parents. |
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Stain
Joined: 08 Jan 2014
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| Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2016 6:37 am Post subject: |
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| trueblue wrote: |
| EZE wrote: |
| Record it and upload it onto YouTube. Shaming the parents, with irrefutable evidence, will be the most effective way to deal with the problem, in my opinion. |
No, that is what pussies do.
Talk to the parents. |
While I agree they should talk to the parents, I feel like doing that will result in green tea, maybe a roll cake, an agreement, and then ultimately, no change. |
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trueblue
Joined: 15 Jun 2014
Location: In between the lines
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| Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2016 3:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Stain wrote: |
| trueblue wrote: |
| EZE wrote: |
| Record it and upload it onto YouTube. Shaming the parents, with irrefutable evidence, will be the most effective way to deal with the problem, in my opinion. |
No, that is what pussies do.
Talk to the parents. |
While I agree they should talk to the parents, I feel like doing that will result in green tea, maybe a roll cake, an agreement, and then ultimately, no change. |
Perhaps...and you very well may be right. BUT, taking that initial step would be something to document, should it escalate further. The OP can say that an effort WAS made to talk with the parents of the urchins in question...if it fails, THEN, the next step is appropriate.
Then again, with the defamation laws in Korea, posting things on youtube to publicly shame someone may not be wise. |
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jvalmer
Joined: 06 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2016 4:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Grow a pair as well as some thicker skin. Then have your hubby teach them how to properly break a nose with a well placed punch. |
One of the best ways to ward off a bully is fight back. Back in high school, anytime some kid called my friend a 'chink', my friend just attacked the guy, fists flying and all. And whoever was attacked would never utter that word to my friend again. Should have seen him when playing hockey, he hated called any racist term. |
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f12
Joined: 17 Aug 2011
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| Posted: Wed Jun 08, 2016 9:10 pm Post subject: |
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| lonestarkorea wrote: |
| Grow a pair as well as some thicker skin. Then have your hubby teach them how to properly break a nose with a well placed punch. |
One of the best ways to ward off a bully is fight back. Back in high school, anytime some kid called my friend a 'chink', my friend just attacked the guy, fists flying and all. And whoever was attacked would never utter that word to my friend again. Should have seen him when playing hockey, he hated called any racist term. |
agree with that. But you also need to be wary of blood money |
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denverdeath
Joined: 21 May 2005
Location: Boo-sahn
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| Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2016 6:31 am Post subject: |
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| If you all hadve read what I posted in my 1st post, you would've seen that the personal approach, albeit a bit confrontational, was encouraged. The 2nd post, with a caveat, was recommended regarding filming. Get your phone out, BUT stand strong! No hard-core evidence? No conviction is what I heard these days... |
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EZE
Joined: 05 May 2012
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| Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2016 1:57 pm Post subject: |
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| trueblue wrote: |
| EZE wrote: |
| Record it and upload it onto YouTube. Shaming the parents, with irrefutable evidence, will be the most effective way to deal with the problem, in my opinion. |
No, that is what pussies do.
Talk to the parents. |
Non-pussies have thick skin and aren't bothered by bullies, but if a person is going to do something, like anything in life, talk is going to be less effective than action. |
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Plain Meaning
Joined: 18 Oct 2014
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| Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2016 2:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Film it ALL on ur "smart"phone and/or make sure the cctv in the complex is running. These days, it actually seems like Korean courts are looking for proof of some sort...strangely. You need witnesses(most still lie, or refuse to say anything - same as home, maybe?), video, or audio recording. Don't be scared to pull your phone out and start recording. It CAN make a difference. Make sure you do it in a safe way - ie. don't put yourself in an unsafe position. Usually, Koreans are pretty smart and supportive, but, they sure can attack together if they think it's needed. |
Or before you go through all of that...talk to the parents. |
Why before or after ... and not while or during ... ?
When multiple options are available best to pursue all at once. |
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Soft Machine
Joined: 08 Mar 2008
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Hoy! Steelrails - JUMP! JUMP! JUMP! JUMP!
Hey, it's only teasing and 9/10 of teasing is just teasing.....right?
Once a schmuck, always a schmuck. |
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caniff
Joined: 03 Feb 2004
Location: All over the map
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2016 3:37 pm Post subject: Re: Hate speech towards 'waygookin' outside my apartment win |
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Move back to the States?
The US is certainly no paradise, but I wouldn't raise a mixed kid here in Korea. I'm a father and my kid is in uni in the US, so I don't have to deal with that nonsense and neither does she, thankfully.
Why did you decide Korea would be a good place to raise your children? |
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jvalmer
Joined: 06 Jun 2003
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2016 5:16 pm Post subject: Re: Hate speech towards 'waygookin' outside my apartment win |
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| caniff wrote: |
| madowlspeaks wrote: |
What can we do ?
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Move back to the States?
The US is certainly no paradise, but I wouldn't raise a mixed kid here in Korea. I'm a father and my kid is in uni in the US, so I don't have to deal with that nonsense and neither does she, thankfully.
Why did you decide Korea would be a good place to raise your children? |
Somebody has got to face the hard stuff. My generation did in Canada when I was in school. There was like 4 Asians in my school of 500. That blew, they also bused in about 40 native Indians from the reserve. Those guys stuck together, since some white farm boys would often pick fights with the natives. I guess now it's muslim kids that are getting the yucky end of the stick. |
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ArabicTeacher
Joined: 20 Jan 2016
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| Posted: Wed Jun 15, 2016 5:30 pm Post subject: Re: Hate speech towards 'waygookin' outside my apartment win |
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| Somebody has got to face the hard stuff. My generation did in Canada when I was in school. There was like 4 Asians in my school of 500. That blew, they also bused in about 40 native Indians from the reserve. Those guys stuck together, since some white farm boys would often pick fights with the natives. I guess now it's muslim kids that are getting the yucky end of the stick. |
I grew up like that in Calgary. At least 5 times of transfering to schools. I grew up in one of the most racist parts of Canada but it was worth it. At least I speak better German than your average Albertan.  |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
Location: Earth, Solar System
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| Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:02 am Post subject: |
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| trueblue wrote: |
| EZE wrote: |
| Record it and upload it onto YouTube. Shaming the parents, with irrefutable evidence, will be the most effective way to deal with the problem, in my opinion. |
No, that is what pussies do.
Talk to the parents. |
Yeah, the mother of those kids (the OP) should totally man up  |
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Steelrails
Joined: 12 Mar 2009
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| Posted: Fri Jun 17, 2016 1:04 am Post subject: |
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| Soft Machine wrote: |
Hoy! Steelrails - JUMP! JUMP! JUMP! JUMP!
Hey, it's only teasing and 9/10 of teasing is just teasing.....right?
Once a schmuck, always a schmuck. |
Odds are its hate, but you also don't want to be the mother who freaks out about your son and their friends taking the piss out of each other the way boys do. That WOULD really harm your kids friendship.
All I'm saying is make sure. We've all had that time our mom misinterpreted what was going on and started scolding our friends for something we were all in on. |
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Who's Your Daddy?
Joined: 30 May 2010
Location: Victoria, Canada.
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OP, do you live in a ghetto area? It seems strange your neighbors care about you.
Maybe move to a higher end apartment complex. |
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