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[Reflections]

Thats funny coming from you Swiss James.

Previously one of the most diligent bloggers who laid down his soul for all to see without actually realising he was doing it...

[AdamH]

[joe_doufu]

I know I'm not extremely handsome, except in Korea around people who endlessly compliment my blue eyes (which are green) and my aristocratic nose (which has been crooked since birth). Sitting in a Starbucks looking over ten dollars worth of coffee at a girl, with nothing to talk about except myself and whatever I was thinking about that day, is not going to turn either of us on. It's a formula for being bored to tears, and furthermore, it's hard to get in some touching time when there's a table between us. My best conversational quality is my sense of humor, but I can't produce jokes from thin air like a comedian can, it's more of a making-comments-on-stuff sort of humor.

Now, give me a pedestrian street like Insadong, or even a normal shopping mall, or a party, or a beach, and then I can be funny and both parties can produce non-boring non-talking-about-themselves conversation. Also there are plenty of chances for physical contact. Here's a tip for newbies/male virgins... if you haven't touched the girl by the end of the night, you aren't going to score. You've at least got to be guiding her shoulder through doorways, walking side by side, and trying to hold her hand multiple times (even if rebuffed) or she's going to assume you just aren't interested.

The best idea for a first date I've got is to go someplace that's new to both of you. Some new sort of activity/sport club, a square dancing class, an ancient temple she's never been to, a new bar (or -gasp- restaurant). That way (1) you've got stuff to talk about (2) it's interesting for both parties and (3) you can't be blamed if it sucks -- indeed it might make the night even more fun as you make some spontaneous new plans.

[Swiss James]

[joe_doufu]