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bobbyhanlon
Joined: 09 Nov 2003 Location: 서울
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Posted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 11:11 pm Post subject: |
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yep.. lend money to a girlfriend/boyfriend like this and you'll never see it again. she sounds like a total user and the sooner you get rid of her the better. life's too short to date someone like that. i think most of us have had experiences with people like this but you have to be honest to yourself about it and then cut them out of your life.
maybe make up some story about financial difficulty and see if you can squeeze some of the money out of her (how much money are we talking, here?).. get what you can and then dump her.
of course.. only you know this situation though.. the rest of us are just a bunch of anonymous internet gimps. anyway good luck.. |
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Junior

Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Location: the eye
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 2:05 am Post subject: |
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| cessation of communication from a Korean woman usually means the relationship is over. |
Stopping communication is a korean girls main method of communication. The silent treatment: k-girls first resort in her arsenal of weapons to p*ss u off.
Sympathies to you OP, and remember; don't trust anybody that hasn't proved themselves already over years of friendship. Best advice i can give. |
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Manghchi

Joined: 23 Jun 2006
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 4:19 am Post subject: |
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hello Junior,
You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...
Chez,
Enjoy being in Thailand. I envy you, the country has lots of things to do.
Don't be angry about your gf , she may contact you soon. Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent. Even if you have to break up with her, try to give her good impression as a wonderful man. : )
Korean women, counsellor Manghchi
http://maangchi.blogspot.com/ |
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laogaiguk

Joined: 06 Dec 2005 Location: somewhere in Korea
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 4:23 am Post subject: |
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hello Junior,
You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...
Chez,
Enjoy being in Thailand. I envy you, the country has lots of things to do.
Don't be angry about your gf , she may contact you soon. Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent. Even if you have to break up with her, try to give her good impression as a wonderful man. : )
Korean women, counsellor Manghchi
http://maangchi.blogspot.com/ |
I think it will be nice to have a Korean who is living in a Western country on this board. You will probably find some jerks on here who attack you just for who you are, but don't worry about it (unless you turn out to be one ). You will hopefully add a view we barely ever see on this board. |
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Junior

Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Location: the eye
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:25 pm Post subject: |
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hello Junior,
You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...
Korean women, counsellor Manghchi
http://maangchi.blogspot.com/ |
Hi there Hammer and welcome to this board.. as laogaiguk says your perspective will be great: however I think my instinct is the antithesis to yours.
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| Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent |
Ha...thats a recipe for a doormat as I see it. However the guy let himself in for it by not recognising the signs, or doing anything about it earlier on. Love is mutual not one-sided..
Quote Superfly
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Stop acting like she's in control. YOU'RE in control! YOU'RE the boss. Make her want YOU!
Hang on, my wife is calling me....
Yeah honey I'm on the way...gotta go now, don't want another beating. heh. |

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chest rockwell

Joined: 16 May 2005 Location: Sanbon
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:34 pm Post subject: |
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Manghchi

Joined: 23 Jun 2006
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Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 8:50 am Post subject: |
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Hey, thx for your warm welcome!
Do you really think love is mutual? For me love is just giving and doesn't expect anything. Even though he or she leaves you, the time you spent together should be respected. You can't ask for paid back for your love in materials.
Hopefully Chaz has been contacted by his gf so far. If you are still in depressive mood, it means you torture yourself. Cheer up!
Go forward, and think good thing about your gf. Don't let other people or things you control your life. That's from my experience.
Counsellor Maangchi
http://maangchi.blogspot.com/ |
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Hapkido-In

Joined: 24 Jun 2006
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Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 9:31 pm Post subject: |
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| Money > Women |
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Junior

Joined: 18 Nov 2005 Location: the eye
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Posted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 11:23 pm Post subject: |
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| Do you really think love is mutual? |
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| For me love is just giving and doesn't expect anything. |
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interesting.
Hmm..lets just say, mutual is the only type of love that its healthy to be in. The other results in the situation the Op is in. |
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chaz47

Joined: 11 Sep 2003
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 6:43 am Post subject: |
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I did hear from her on the 5th, no mention of anything of consequence, just that she was in Verona but now she is in Rome and that she is very busy these days.
I heard from her again today, this time it was a request for more money... (from Germany) between $150 and $200 on top of the $200 I already gave her and the $300 she had from her family before she left... my question is... how expensive is Europe, she purchased all of her railpasses in advance and supposedly had 3 days of accomodation provided for her free of charge.
Plus since she is travelling with her 3 sisters ( fellow students ) and they were all to be sharing a room... how does $500 evaporate to the point that she says "i am eating food only once a day".... $500 in 4 days with travel expenses prepaid and 3 days of lodging provided... give me a break...
She sure hasn't been spending that money in internet cafes emailing me, that's damn sure.
So all my validation searching and bitching aside, how do I send her the money? I am considering Western Union but I thought I read that she needs a valid address and a piece of mail with that address displayed. |
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bigverne

Joined: 12 May 2004
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 9:03 am Post subject: |
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| how do I send her the money? |
You are either taking the piss, or you are a very pathetic excuse for a man. |
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TheFonz

Joined: 01 Dec 2005 Location: North Georgia
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 10:24 am Post subject: |
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| how do I send her the money? |
You are either taking the piss, or you are a very pathetic excuse for a man. |
I vote for taking the piss.
If he is being serious he is one hell of a doormat. |
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Pak Yu Man

Joined: 02 Jun 2005 Location: The Ida galaxy
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 11:09 am Post subject: |
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If you send her money...don't ever whine on here again.
And I shall call him....loser. |
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canuckistan Mod Team


Joined: 17 Jun 2003 Location: Training future GS competitors.....
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 3:03 pm Post subject: |
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Gucci bags and Prada shoes will put a dent in anyone's travel budget
Do*not*send*money. That's what family is for. |
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drumpounder

Joined: 20 Jun 2006
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Posted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 5:40 pm Post subject: |
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it's crazy, but true...there are girls out there who will email you, call even, lots, just 'cause they feel like it and want to be in touch..and never ask for loans of money just before they take off.
you can't really ask for relationship advice on a web forum. relationships are personal, and only the people involved know what's going on.
but my friend told me once never to date anyone who didn't make you feel like a princess. that sounds real paris hilton-ish, but she meant if someone cares, they do. it's not supposed to be a struggle and worry. it's supposed to be good, fun...happy....etc. |
Why not????
Dude, there are a billion women out there and the good lord saw fit to equip everyone of them with a vagina. The second they gross you out, get a new one! |
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