Site Search:
 
Speak Korean Now!
Teach English Abroad and Get Paid to see the World!
Korean Job Discussion Forums Forum Index Korean Job Discussion Forums
"The Internet's Meeting Place for ESL/EFL Teachers from Around the World!"
 
 FAQFAQ   SearchSearch   MemberlistMemberlist   UsergroupsUsergroups   RegisterRegister 
 ProfileProfile   Log in to check your private messagesLog in to check your private messages   Log inLog in 

what would u do?
Goto page Previous  1, 2, 3  Next
 
Post new topic   Reply to topic    Korean Job Discussion Forums Forum Index -> Off-Topic Forum
View previous topic :: View next topic  
Author Message
bobbyhanlon



Joined: 09 Nov 2003
Location: 서울

PostPosted: Fri Aug 04, 2006 11:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

yep.. lend money to a girlfriend/boyfriend like this and you'll never see it again. she sounds like a total user and the sooner you get rid of her the better. life's too short to date someone like that. i think most of us have had experiences with people like this but you have to be honest to yourself about it and then cut them out of your life.
maybe make up some story about financial difficulty and see if you can squeeze some of the money out of her (how much money are we talking, here?).. get what you can and then dump her.
of course.. only you know this situation though.. the rest of us are just a bunch of anonymous internet gimps. anyway good luck..
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Junior



Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye

PostPosted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 2:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

poker player wrote:
cessation of communication from a Korean woman usually means the relationship is over.


Stopping communication is a korean girls main method of communication. The silent treatment: k-girls first resort in her arsenal of weapons to p*ss u off.

Sympathies to you OP, and remember; don't trust anybody that hasn't proved themselves already over years of friendship. Best advice i can give.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Manghchi



Joined: 23 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 4:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

hello Junior,

You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...

Chez,

Enjoy being in Thailand. I envy you, the country has lots of things to do.
Don't be angry about your gf , she may contact you soon. Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent. Even if you have to break up with her, try to give her good impression as a wonderful man. : )

Korean women, counsellor Manghchi

http://maangchi.blogspot.com/
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website
laogaiguk



Joined: 06 Dec 2005
Location: somewhere in Korea

PostPosted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 4:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Manghchi wrote:
hello Junior,

You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...

Chez,

Enjoy being in Thailand. I envy you, the country has lots of things to do.
Don't be angry about your gf , she may contact you soon. Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent. Even if you have to break up with her, try to give her good impression as a wonderful man. : )

Korean women, counsellor Manghchi

http://maangchi.blogspot.com/


I think it will be nice to have a Korean who is living in a Western country on this board. You will probably find some jerks on here who attack you just for who you are, but don't worry about it (unless you turn out to be one Wink ). You will hopefully add a view we barely ever see on this board.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Junior



Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye

PostPosted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Manghchi wrote:
hello Junior,

You seem to have stereotype about korean girls. I can't blame you because it must be from your own experience. But you should say, some korean girls that you have met...

Korean women, counsellor Manghchi

http://maangchi.blogspot.com/


Hi there Hammer and welcome to this board.. as laogaiguk says your perspective will be great: however I think my instinct is the antithesis to yours.
Quote:
Do you love her? Then forget about the money you lent


Ha...thats a recipe for a doormat as I see it. However the guy let himself in for it by not recognising the signs, or doing anything about it earlier on. Love is mutual not one-sided..


Quote Superfly
Quote:
Stop acting like she's in control. YOU'RE in control! YOU'RE the boss. Make her want YOU!

Hang on, my wife is calling me....

Yeah honey I'm on the way...gotta go now, don't want another beating. heh.


Laughing Laughing


Last edited by Junior on Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:37 pm; edited 1 time in total
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
chest rockwell



Joined: 16 May 2005
Location: Sanbon

PostPosted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

This thread > Braveheart vs Gladiator thread
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website
Manghchi



Joined: 23 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 8:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hey, thx for your warm welcome!

Do you really think love is mutual? For me love is just giving and doesn't expect anything. Even though he or she leaves you, the time you spent together should be respected. You can't ask for paid back for your love in materials.

Hopefully Chaz has been contacted by his gf so far. If you are still in depressive mood, it means you torture yourself. Cheer up!
Go forward, and think good thing about your gf. Don't let other people or things you control your life. That's from my experience.

Counsellor Maangchi

http://maangchi.blogspot.com/
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Visit poster's website
Hapkido-In



Joined: 24 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 9:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Money > Women
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Junior



Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye

PostPosted: Sun Aug 06, 2006 11:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Manghchi wrote:


Quote:
Do you really think love is mutual?



Quote:
For me love is just giving and doesn't expect anything.


interesting.
Hmm..lets just say, mutual is the only type of love that its healthy to be in. The other results in the situation the Op is in.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
chaz47



Joined: 11 Sep 2003

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 6:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I did hear from her on the 5th, no mention of anything of consequence, just that she was in Verona but now she is in Rome and that she is very busy these days.

I heard from her again today, this time it was a request for more money... (from Germany) between $150 and $200 on top of the $200 I already gave her and the $300 she had from her family before she left... my question is... how expensive is Europe, she purchased all of her railpasses in advance and supposedly had 3 days of accomodation provided for her free of charge.

Plus since she is travelling with her 3 sisters ( fellow students ) and they were all to be sharing a room... how does $500 evaporate to the point that she says "i am eating food only once a day".... $500 in 4 days with travel expenses prepaid and 3 days of lodging provided... give me a break...

She sure hasn't been spending that money in internet cafes emailing me, that's damn sure.

So all my validation searching and bitching aside, how do I send her the money? I am considering Western Union but I thought I read that she needs a valid address and a piece of mail with that address displayed.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
bigverne



Joined: 12 May 2004

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 9:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
how do I send her the money?


You are either taking the piss, or you are a very pathetic excuse for a man.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
TheFonz



Joined: 01 Dec 2005
Location: North Georgia

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 10:24 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

bigverne wrote:
Quote:
how do I send her the money?


You are either taking the piss, or you are a very pathetic excuse for a man.


I vote for taking the piss.


If he is being serious he is one hell of a doormat.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message Yahoo Messenger
Pak Yu Man



Joined: 02 Jun 2005
Location: The Ida galaxy

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 11:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you send her money...don't ever whine on here again.

And I shall call him....loser.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
canuckistan
Mod Team
Mod Team


Joined: 17 Jun 2003
Location: Training future GS competitors.....

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 3:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
how expensive is Europe,


Gucci bags and Prada shoes will put a dent in anyone's travel budget Wink

Do*not*send*money. That's what family is for.
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
drumpounder



Joined: 20 Jun 2006

PostPosted: Mon Aug 07, 2006 5:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

joyfulgirl wrote:
it's crazy, but true...there are girls out there who will email you, call even, lots, just 'cause they feel like it and want to be in touch..and never ask for loans of money just before they take off.

you can't really ask for relationship advice on a web forum. relationships are personal, and only the people involved know what's going on.

but my friend told me once never to date anyone who didn't make you feel like a princess. that sounds real paris hilton-ish, but she meant if someone cares, they do. it's not supposed to be a struggle and worry. it's supposed to be good, fun...happy....etc.


Why not????

Dude, there are a billion women out there and the good lord saw fit to equip everyone of them with a vagina. The second they gross you out, get a new one!
Back to top
View user's profile Send private message
Display posts from previous:   
Post new topic   Reply to topic    Korean Job Discussion Forums Forum Index -> Off-Topic Forum All times are GMT - 8 Hours
Goto page Previous  1, 2, 3  Next
Page 2 of 3

 
Jump to:  
You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot vote in polls in this forum


This page is maintained by the one and only Dave Sperling.
Contact Dave's ESL Cafe
Copyright © 2018 Dave Sperling. All Rights Reserved.

Powered by phpBB © 2001, 2002 phpBB Group

TEFL International Supports Dave's ESL Cafe
TEFL Courses, TESOL Course, English Teaching Jobs - TEFL International