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Junior



Joined: 18 Nov 2005
Location: the eye

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 1:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

pkang0202 wrote:

Not sure how its suppose to work here in Korea. Are girls suppose to wait for a guy to call first here?


The only way they'll ever make the moves is if you work for samsung. Wink
Otherwise its up definitely up to you.
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pkang0202



Joined: 09 Mar 2007

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 2:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Natalie wrote:

I don't believe it!!!> Guys really are more complicated that women...or at least me. I would never think about it this much! Just call if you like them, whenever. I mean, surely they wouldnt not-see you just because you called too early? would they?


In the US it was the 3 day rule. You never called someone the day after you get their number, or after the 1st date. You always waited 2-3 days. I think the reasoning behind it is that you don't want to come off as being desperate. Like, if you got a girl's phone number and called her the next day, you come off as being too eager and desperate. If you wait too long then she'll forget about why it was she gave you her phone number.

I always thought it was stupid. Then again, I didn't want to take the chance of scaring a girl away so I followed it.
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wylies99



Joined: 13 May 2006
Location: I'm one cool cat!

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 3:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Quote:
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Just be YOURSELF! Jokes are all-good on the first date. If she doesn't appreciate them perhaps she's not worth it anyway!!


Listen to ME- the first date is a "mine field" of love Wink
Be smart, play it safe, and be prepared to listen. In Texas we say "You can't learn with your mouth open."
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Leslie Cheswyck



Joined: 31 May 2003
Location: University of Western Chile

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 3:15 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Bibbitybop wrote:
Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Make it a 2 hr date. 3 max. Leave her wanting more.


That is rediculous. A full day together will leave her wanting more. A good date cut short will send her the wrong signals.


The purpose of a first date is to see if you want a second date. If she isn't for you, then two hours isn't so bad. And if all goes well, then you can arrange that second date.

A full day together with someone you're sure you don't want to meet again just seems like a waste of time to me.

Two hours!
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wylies99



Joined: 13 May 2006
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PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 3:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I agree- 2 hours is about right. Wink
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huck



Joined: 19 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

After you meet a girl in a bar and get her phone number, or after you have a date, just send a quick text message the next day "hey..i had a lot of fun (it was great meeting you)...talk to you soon."

No reason not to...and I've never met a girl who didn't appreciate a quick 'hello' text message the next day....
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JMO



Joined: 18 Jul 2006
Location: Daegu

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:44 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I broke all thes rules. My first date with the gf, was an all day date, i made alot of jokes, talked alot because i do, and I called the next day cos I liked her. You either like each other or you don't, don't over analyse it.
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PimpofKorea



Joined: 09 Dec 2006
Location: Dealing in high quality imported English

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 7:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Bibbitybop wrote:
Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Make it a 2 hr date. 3 max. Leave her wanting more.


That is rediculous. A full day together will leave her wanting more. A good date cut short will send her the wrong signals.


The purpose of a first date is to see if you want a second date. If she isn't for you, then two hours isn't so bad. And if all goes well, then you can arrange that second date.

A full day together with someone you're sure you don't want to meet again just seems like a waste of time to me.

Two hours!


The purpose of a first date is to get her in the sack.....at least thats my purpose.....
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Bibbitybop



Joined: 22 Feb 2006
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PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Bibbitybop wrote:
Leslie Cheswyck wrote:
Make it a 2 hr date. 3 max. Leave her wanting more.


That is rediculous. A full day together will leave her wanting more. A good date cut short will send her the wrong signals.


The purpose of a first date is to see if you want a second date. If she isn't for you, then two hours isn't so bad. And if all goes well, then you can arrange that second date.

A full day together with someone you're sure you don't want to meet again just seems like a waste of time to me.

Two hours!


"A full day together with someone you're sure you don't want to meet again just seems like a waste of time to me."

Agreed.

I'm talking about a date that is going well. There's no reason to play dating games or use over-spun advice from Cosmo.

Man: "I'm having a great time tonight."
Woman: "Me, too, it's great to finally meet someone who understands my point of view."
Man: "I wish I would've met you sooner!"
Woman: "Where do you want to go next?"
Man: "I'm gonna go home now, have fun on the subway. Maybe I'll call you in 2-3 days."
Woman: "Ok? What's wrong?"
Man: "I want to be sure I get a second date. See you later."
Woman: "Idiot."
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traxxe



Joined: 21 Feb 2007

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 9:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I only call them again if I wake up with them in my (or someone elses) bed the next morning.

And usually it is, "So, what was your name again?" or, "Sorry, my girlfriend called so I had to leave early." or "Just send the bill to my office."

Heh.

I never followed rules. I find such rules to be annoying. If I really like the chick and we connect I thank her the next day. If I was blah about it then I let them make the call. Sometimes if I'm on the fence I'll make the second call.
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billybrobby



Joined: 09 Dec 2004

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 10:22 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

yeah, playing by hard and fast rules is kinda silly. you gotta "be in the moment" as the hippies say. in other words, don't play by some rules you made up beforehand, just react to the situation as it happens. that said, if the date is getting boring and you're running out of sh*t to talk about, just cut it short. then go out, do about 20 exciting daredevil things, and you'll have stuff to say on the next date.
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jajdude



Joined: 18 Jan 2003

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 11:01 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

If she is hot, be nice, otherwise be yourself.
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wylies99



Joined: 13 May 2006
Location: I'm one cool cat!

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 3:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

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If she is hot, be nice, otherwise be yourself.


Funny stuff



OP- Women do this kind of stuff, but you can do it, too. Have someone call your cell phone about 2 hours into the date. If the date is fun, ignore the call.

If it's he11, answer the cell phone, and say "I'll be right there."
Tell her this- a friend is being rushed into surgery, and you need to be there for them. You can't possibly expect her to go with you because it could take all night. You'll call her later and let her know how your friend is doing.
Then lose her number. Wink
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Natalie



Joined: 16 Apr 2007

PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 8:00 pm    Post subject: Re: i'm meeting a girl tomorrow. Reply with quote

new challenga wrote:
what is there to do around 4pm - 10pm? any place where we can go ice skating? or bowling? ideas needed! Smile btw i'm in the gwangmyung area.


so howd it go?
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wylies99



Joined: 13 May 2006
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PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2007 9:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Was it love? Wink


BTW- at some point, you'll wish you had listened to me. It may not be with this young lady, but eventually you'll understand. Wink
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