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Does it stop after you tie the knot?
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bassexpander



Joined: 13 Sep 2007
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 5:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Cheonmunka wrote:
Yeah, it's definately the Op's fault.
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As for me: I've been married 3.5 years and we do it almost every day, sometimes twice, occasionally thrice. That's pretty good going considering we have to wait until the 2 kids are sleeping. Before we had kids we did it a bit more.

My wife and I only stop after five times day. Rolling Eyes
It used to be six times a day minimum before kids. Rolling Eyes

Rolling Eyes


If I had sex two to three times per day, I'd suffer from a serious seratonin imbalance.
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caniff



Joined: 03 Feb 2004
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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 5:19 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

To the OP:

In answer to your question, yes it does slow down for many relationships. In extreme cases, it can even stop. So some of my friends tell me. That would never happen in my case. Here's how I did it:

I explained that I have biological needs that must be met on a regular basis, otherwise I am likely to go insane and take her and everyone else with me.

It helps that I am amazing in bed. The wife and I are now very happy.
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bassexpander



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 5:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I've heard a lot about the biological needs of men, etc. Let me say that my wife could probably have no problem with doing it daily. She'll do just about anything except anal sex, which I have zero interest in, anyway.

Maybe I'm just getting older and slowing down (knocking on the door of 40) but I'm content with sex about once every 3 days to 4. I can see this becoming once a week in the not so distant future.

I've never suffered from my lady not wanting sex. She's always open and available, and to just about every fantasy. Maybe we've done all we cared to do numerous times, and it's now not what it used to be. There is no "taboo" out there between us that we haven't explored already.
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Cheonmunka



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 7:37 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Look, I don't get it. Big Bird must have a taut fella.

I was being completely facetious in that post. I reckon Birdy was too. How can It be possible. All couples invariably reach a plateau of boredom.

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There is no "taboo" out there between us that we haven't explored already.


How about swaps. You can have my dog eared bitten ravacious ajuma and I can 'ave yours?
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Big_Bird



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 10:05 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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Big_Bird



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 10:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

bassexpander wrote:
I've heard a lot about the biological needs of men, etc. Let me say that my wife could probably have no problem with doing it daily. She'll do just about anything except anal sex, which I have zero interest in, anyway.

Maybe I'm just getting older and slowing down (knocking on the door of 40) but I'm content with sex about once every 3 days to 4. I can see this becoming once a week in the not so distant future.

I've never suffered from my lady not wanting sex. She's always open and available, and to just about every fantasy. Maybe we've done all we cared to do numerous times, and it's now not what it used to be. There is no "taboo" out there between us that we haven't explored already.


I was going to say that it's not a problem if your wife feels the same way. But it looks like it could be a problem, depending on how much she needs it. You should probably have a good talk with her about this. You disinclination could have the effect of making her feel undesirable, so to counter that you need to make her feel loved in other ways (telling her she looks beautiful out of the blue etc). A bigger problem is she might not feel she's getting enough. Then it's something you both need to resolve as mismatched sex drives can often hurt a relationship.

I have read in one of those awful women's magazines (Cleo? Cosmopolitan?) that in long term relationships men start to need it less, and women start to want it more. In that case your situation is quite normal!

My husband is also slowing down. In our first year, if I was in the house , he would try to get it any chance he had. Now he's usually happy with once or twice a day. I thought this was very normal, but you guys are implying we are oversexed!
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pastis



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 11:01 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Qinella wrote:
The problem is that Korean women are terrible in bed, so foreign men end up just getting bored.

I agree. That thrill is long gone... I'll take a nice frisky blond who knows how to get down (and hopefully has some brains) over these mundane asian "girls" any day. I mean they're "cute" and all, but I'm so goddam bored of muppets.
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twg



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PostPosted: Sun Sep 23, 2007 6:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

bassexpander wrote:
Then I read stuff like this, and I get sad:

http://www.nomarriage.com/

Yeah, I get sad too that people keep reading that shit hole of a website.
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